'For a Father to Separate from his Son is Not Easy': Pankaj Kapoor on Strengthening his Bond with Son Shahid Kapoor post Divorcing Neelima Azeem

Shahid Kapoor and his Father Pankaj Kapoor's Relationship is now sailing smoothly. However, things weren't the same back then after Pankaj Divorced his then wife and Shahid's mother, Neelima Azeem...

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Shahid Kapoor and his father Pankaj Kapoor share a healthy relationship now. However, if we look back, things weren't the same. The bond which is now strong, was pretty fragile when Pankaj divorced his first wife, Neelima Azeem.

Pankaj Kapoor turned 66-years-old and on his birthday today lets go down the memory lane and find out how he evolved his relationship with his first born with then wife Neelima Azeem, son Shahid Kapoor in their own words...

In the year 2015, during his interview with Hindustan Times, Shahid Kapoor revealed that he was never an insecure child despite his parents getting separated and his dad leaving him when he was just three-years-old.

My parents separated when I was three, but I was extremely secure as a child. It has a lot to do with the kind of effort dad and I made to keep it [our relationship] healthy, normal and positive. You know, sometimes, he says that he wants to shift out of town and lead a chilled-out life, maybe five or 10 years down the line. I don’t like that. He is a big part of my life...

- Shahid Kapoor
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In the same interview Pankaj added that it was a great difficulty for him to get separated from his son. Unlike other divorces in B-town, Pankaj and Neelima Azeem had a very graceful separation, while Neelima, being his mother, got to keep Shahid with him and Pankaj maintained his custody.

Sharing about it, he added:

As Shahid said, it is very difficult to explain. For a father, to separate from his son is not easy. It was a huge emotional loss for me [the last time around] and I started living with the hope that there will come a time when we will come close to each other again. And today, it’s a great feeling to sit next to him, see his work or hear him speak and bond with the family.Definitely, yes. I missed him every day, but there were professional constraints. What’s most fortunate is that once he turned 18, Shahid assisted me for a while, so we got to spend a lot of time with each other. Then, we started going for holidays together with the family, so the bonding increased, especially after we shifted to our new house.

- Pankaj Kapoor
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Shahid in a later interview to Deccan Chronicle admitted that as a child, he “didn’t have too much interaction” with his father. “My bond with my children will be very different from dad’s and mine,” he said.

In fact, the birth of Shahid’s children, Misha and Zain, has gone a long way in bringing him closer to his dad. 

“I became a dadu two years back and it’s always a delight having a new addition to the family. If you are finding him cute, just imagine what would be my reaction on seeing the little one and Zain is a beautiful name. I am happy that Shahid’s family is now complete. We are all full of joy and are absolutely delighted,” Pankaj had told Pinkvilla after Zain’s birth in 2018.

Shahid Kapoor with Misha Zain Mira

Shahid said in an appearance on BFFs with Vogue that his dad that after the birth of his kids, he’ll finally understand how important it is for a child and parent to remain in contact.

He said,

What my dad told me was that ‘Now, you will know all the complaints that I have always had against you’. Because the one thing my dad keeps telling me is that I don’t call him enough. And I pretty much call him almost every day! But he still always complains about the fact that ‘we don’t connect enough, we don’t spend time enough’ and finally when obviously Misha happened, he told me, ‘Now you will know what it’s like when you miss your child’.


Now, having worked together in Mausam as director and star, and in Shaandaar as co-actors, Shahid and Pankaj will collaborate for the third time in the upcoming film Jersey.

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