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Should a parent tell his child the truth about his adoption or no ???!!!??
In the U.S people prefer sharing this truth with their child from the begining , when the child can understand. But in India we usually prefer not talking to the child about this ever and keeping this a secret.
We even saw the worst case scenario in "Astitva" where after learning the truth from some one else Astha turns into a negative character . I too have seen one of my cousins who learnt few years back , at age 10 from some one else about her adoption and started to misbehave with her parents , and now she is 14 and still misbehaving .Although i blame my aunt and uncle for spoiling this child very badly and not bringing her up well .
But if we don't tell the truth , what happens when at some stage in her life she finds out through dNA testing , because it became necessary for the cure of some disease . Maybe he'll need bone marrow transplant , and when he turns to his family and doesn't find a match . Could anything be more upsetting ?
So what would you feel like as a child who finds out , and how will you react if a) You are told by your parents the truth at an early age ......but what is the right age ?
b) Or you accidentally discover the truth from some one else?
c) Would you prefer not knowing at all .......and taking a chance that you'll never need to know .
As some of you are very young on this board , please answer as a child who's been adopted and those who are old enough , please answer as a parent . Would you tell your child you adopted him ?
In the U.S people prefer sharing this truth with their child from the begining , when the child can understand. But in India we usually prefer not talking to the child about this ever and keeping this a secret.
We even saw the worst case scenario in "Astitva" where after learning the truth from some one else Astha turns into a negative character . I too have seen one of my cousins who learnt few years back , at age 10 from some one else about her adoption and started to misbehave with her parents , and now she is 14 and still misbehaving .Although i blame my aunt and uncle for spoiling this child very badly and not bringing her up well .
But if we don't tell the truth , what happens when at some stage in her life she finds out through dNA testing , because it became necessary for the cure of some disease . Maybe he'll need bone marrow transplant , and when he turns to his family and doesn't find a match . Could anything be more upsetting ?
So what would you feel like as a child who finds out , and how will you react if a) You are told by your parents the truth at an early age ......but what is the right age ?
b) Or you accidentally discover the truth from some one else?
c) Would you prefer not knowing at all .......and taking a chance that you'll never need to know .
As some of you are very young on this board , please answer as a child who's been adopted and those who are old enough , please answer as a parent . Would you tell your child you adopted him ?
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