Hello everybody,
Even though i m not active in this DM ,but over the last few days i wanted to discuss something very badly,so i thought DM is the best place to do this discussion😃
Joint family system vs. Nuclear family system
I myself live in a nuclear family but after marriage i will have to shift my base to a joint family😔...i hv just one question in mind...is it easy for a girl to adjust herself suddenly in a joint family with lots of jethanis and devranis and all other ranis in the family😆when she has been born and brought up in a nuclear family since her childhood .
Today we have a generation of people who after having lived in a joint family system have taken the initiative to break out and start a nuclear family. The older generation today has come of age and very well appreciates the strengths and weaknesses of both the system(joint as well as nuclear)😉.
The generation that broke out of the old joint family system did so when individualistic thinking began to gain predominance in the society. It was exciting to explore, experiment and establish a living set up on one's own. The nuclear family gave immense freedom from the traditions and ways of life that the old system was ridden with. Hence whenever and wherever the parents and the grown up adult children could not get along well and when the adult children could afford to build a house to call their own, nuclear families began to be formed. As it happens with most changes in the society, initially the people from the old system did not take this change very well. They were saddened to see the disintegration of family values and system and emergence of individualistic nuclear families. However, gradually when nuclear families became the order of the day, the old generation slowly began to accept the realities and became comfortable with it.
The other factor that gave rise to nuclear families was industrialization. Industrial revolution brought with it increase in job opportunities in and around major industrialized and commercial cities and towns. This forced men and women to move out of their family home and away from the parents. In this case, often the parents who remained emotionally attached to the place where they spent most of their life preferred to continue staying in their family home and accepted with some sadness their children starting out new life away from them.
As u can see i m really confused whether to built my own drean house with my husband thus asking him to move away from his family or try to adjust myself in a joint family system😕
I know its an individualistic approach,but still which system can give a human being more satisfaction...A joint family system or a Nuclear one😕😕
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