Rajiv has all of the hallmarks of a wife beater

Rajiv has all the signs of being an abuser:

1) He blames the victim for HIS actions. Notice, he says it is because of NEETI'S EGO that the marriage is falling apart, not that HE married her under fraudulent circumstances and have lied to her. He blames Neeti for his behavior. Most abusers say if the victim didn't irritate them, they won't beat them. They blame the victim for their violence.

2) He isolates the victim. Rajiv has driven a wedge between friends. Neeti no longer has the support of a best friend. He also sides with his family against her.  He has never supported her against his family. He has done everything to make her seem as the unreasonable, egotistical one. He even said she didn't keep their dirty deeds WITHIN the family. She exposed them publicly. He wants to abuse privately and keep up the facade of great person in front of others. He didn't own up to his mistakes. He blames the victim.

3) Love bombing. Abusers start out making their victim feel as they can't live without them. They pursue them endlessly and win their confidence. I didn't see the first parts of this show but from what I gather, Rajiv pursued Neeti with a vengeance. It was all in the chase. When they turn on their victim, it's too late. She is confused and it is difficult to reconcile the person who loved her so dearly with the monster she knows now.  Look at the situation today: he publicly RAGED at Neeti because she lashed out from seeing him romance her "best friend."

4) He moved his mistress into the house and has been carrying on in an open affair with her while gaslighting Neeti. One tactic of abusers to make victims think they are going crazy.

5) HIs behavior is escalating. He invited Neeti  to a party under the pretense of going as his wife. When she got there, he sided with his mistress and told her he preferred her to Neeti. It's ritual humiliation. Why didn't he just take Pari? Let's say, he found Pari there; of course, she is there. Why won't she be?The appropriate thing for him to do would be to send her from there, knowing her presence upsets his wife. Instead, he romanced her in front of Neeti, just to humiliate her.  How is this anything other than abuse. In upcoming spoilers, we hear Rajiv has sent Neeti his marriage invitation to Pari.  If Rajiv wanted to marry Pari, why does Neeti have to know about it since they are getting a divorce?  Simple. He wants to inflict maximum damage. Maximum hurt and maximum humiliation.

And this is what PariRaj fans love the most. They enjoy it when Rajiv abuses Neeti.

Meanwhile, Neeti's reactions have been actually normal. She was rightfully angry then sad. Then she bargained that she can make it better then she lashed out. It's a cycle of grief. She is going through the stages. We saw one stage when she finally admitted it was not just Pari's fault BUT BOTH Pari and Rajiv's fault. Also, the attempted murders of the other woman is something many wives have actually done. There are many cases of crimes of passion when a wife has killed or tried to kill the mistress. Too many to recount but the story of Betty Broderick is one famous one in the US.  Now, it is true this is one extreme reaction but lashing out at the mistress while denying the husband's culpability is actually coping and denying that you have been deceived. There are cases of physical violence, hiring hit men to kill husband and other women, alienating the children, public humiliation, etc. Everyone will react differently to deceit.

In many ways, we are seeing Neeti go through the stages of grief, first for her marriage and yet for her lost friendship.

Edited by kiransgirl - 5 months ago

Originally posted by: kiransgirl

Rajiv has all the signs of being an abuser:

1) He blames the victim for HIS actions. Notice, he says it is because of NEETI'S EGO that the marriage is falling apart, not that HE married her under fraudulent circumstances and have lied to her. He blames Neeti for his behavior. Most abusers say if the victim didn't irritate them, they won't beat them. They blame the victim for their violence.

2) He isolates the victim. Rajiv has driven a wedge between friends. Neeti no longer has the support of a best friend. He also sides with his family against her.  He has never supported her against his family. He has done everything to make her seem as the unreasonable, egotistical one. He even said she didn't keep their dirty deeds WITHIN the family. She exposed them publicly. He wants to abuse privately and keep up the facade of great person in front of others. He didn't own up to his mistakes. He blames the victim.

3) Love bombing. Abusers start out making their victim feel as they can't live without them. They pursue them endlessly and win their confidence. I didn't see the first parts of this show but from what I gather, Rajiv pursued Neeti with a vengeance. It was all in the chase. When they turn on their victim, it's too late. She is confused and it is difficult to reconcile the person who loved her so dearly with the monster she knows now.  Look at the situation today: he publicly RAGED at Neeti because she lashed out from seeing him romance her "best friend."

4) He moved his mistress into the house and has been carrying on in an open affair with her while gaslighting Neeti. One tactic of abusers to make victims think they are going crazy.

5) HIs behavior is escalating. He invited Neeti  to a party under the pretense of going as his wife. When she got there, he sided with his mistress and told her he preferred her to Neeti. It's ritual humiliation. Why didn't he just take Pari? Let's say, he found Pari there; of course, she is there. Why won't she be?The appropriate thing for him to do would be to send her from there, knowing her presence upsets his wife. Instead, he romanced her in front of Neeti, just to humiliate her.  How is this anything other than abuse. In upcoming spoilers, we hear Rajiv has sent Neeti his marriage invitation to Pari.  If Rajiv wanted to marry Pari, why does Neeti have to know about it since they are getting a divorce?  Simple. He wants to inflict maximum damage. Maximum hurt and maximum humiliation.

And this is what PariRaj fans love the most. They enjoy it when Rajiv abuses Neeti.

Meanwhile, Neeti's reactions have been actually normal. She was rightfully angry then sad. Then she bargained that she can make it better then she lashed out. It's a cycle of grief. She is going through the stages. We saw one stage when she finally admitted it was not just Pari's fault BUT BOTH Pari and Rajiv's fault. Also, the attempted murders of the other woman is something many wives have actually done. There are many cases of crimes of passion when a wife has killed or tried to kill the mistress. Too many to recount but the story of Betty Broderick is one famous one in the US.  Now, it is true this is one extreme reaction but lashing out at the mistress while denying the husband's culpability is actually coping and denying that you have been deceived. There are cases of physical violence, hiring hit men to kill husband and other women, alienating the children, public humiliation, etc. Everyone will react differently to deceit.

In many ways, we are seeing Neeti go through the stages of grief, first for her marriage and yet for her lost friendship.

around that Raghu track, there was a scene when rajiv was about to slap neeti but pari stopped him. I wonder what he would've done if neeti has always rejected him n liked some other boy, then what would sanju have done

Originally posted by: kiransgirl

Rajiv has all the signs of being an abuser:

1) He blames the victim for HIS actions. Notice, he says it is because of NEETI'S EGO that the marriage is falling apart, not that HE married her under fraudulent circumstances and have lied to her. He blames Neeti for his behavior. Most abusers say if the victim didn't irritate them, they won't beat them. They blame the victim for their violence.

2) He isolates the victim. Rajiv has driven a wedge between friends. Neeti no longer has the support of a best friend. He also sides with his family against her.  He has never supported her against his family. He has done everything to make her seem as the unreasonable, egotistical one. He even said she didn't keep their dirty deeds WITHIN the family. She exposed them publicly. He wants to abuse privately and keep up the facade of great person in front of others. He didn't own up to his mistakes. He blames the victim.

3) Love bombing. Abusers start out making their victim feel as they can't live without them. They pursue them endlessly and win their confidence. I didn't see the first parts of this show but from what I gather, Rajiv pursued Neeti with a vengeance. It was all in the chase. When they turn on their victim, it's too late. She is confused and it is difficult to reconcile the person who loved her so dearly with the monster she knows now.  Look at the situation today: he publicly RAGED at Neeti because she lashed out from seeing him romance her "best friend."

4) He moved his mistress into the house and has been carrying on in an open affair with her while gaslighting Neeti. One tactic of abusers to make victims think they are going crazy.

5) HIs behavior is escalating. He invited Neeti  to a party under the pretense of going as his wife. When she got there, he sided with his mistress and told her he preferred her to Neeti. It's ritual humiliation. Why didn't he just take Pari? Let's say, he found Pari there; of course, she is there. Why won't she be?The appropriate thing for him to do would be to send her from there, knowing her presence upsets his wife. Instead, he romanced her in front of Neeti, just to humiliate her.  How is this anything other than abuse. In upcoming spoilers, we hear Rajiv has sent Neeti his marriage invitation to Pari.  If Rajiv wanted to marry Pari, why does Neeti have to know about it since they are getting a divorce?  Simple. He wants to inflict maximum damage. Maximum hurt and maximum humiliation.

And this is what PariRaj fans love the most. They enjoy it when Rajiv abuses Neeti.

Meanwhile, Neeti's reactions have been actually normal. She was rightfully angry then sad. Then she bargained that she can make it better then she lashed out. It's a cycle of grief. She is going through the stages. We saw one stage when she finally admitted it was not just Pari's fault BUT BOTH Pari and Rajiv's fault. Also, the attempted murders of the other woman is something many wives have actually done. There are many cases of crimes of passion when a wife has killed or tried to kill the mistress. Too many to recount but the story of Betty Broderick is one famous one in the US.  Now, it is true this is one extreme reaction but lashing out at the mistress while denying the husband's culpability is actually coping and denying that you have been deceived. There are cases of physical violence, hiring hit men to kill husband and other women, alienating the children, public humiliation, etc. Everyone will react differently to deceit.

In many ways, we are seeing Neeti go through the stages of grief, first for her marriage and yet for her lost friendship.

insulting the husband n the girl whom he romanced, is the most common n most normal thing to do for a wife obviously this doesn't come in news because it's normal. The writers of this show r insane that they r portraying neeti insulting pariraj, as insane behaviour. Yes murdering is insane but humiliating the cheaters is very right n sane thing

Originally posted by: kiransgirl

Rajiv has all the signs of being an abuser:

1) He blames the victim for HIS actions. Notice, he says it is because of NEETI'S EGO that the marriage is falling apart, not that HE married her under fraudulent circumstances and have lied to her. He blames Neeti for his behavior. Most abusers say if the victim didn't irritate them, they won't beat them. They blame the victim for their violence.

2) He isolates the victim. Rajiv has driven a wedge between friends. Neeti no longer has the support of a best friend. He also sides with his family against her.  He has never supported her against his family. He has done everything to make her seem as the unreasonable, egotistical one. He even said she didn't keep their dirty deeds WITHIN the family. She exposed them publicly. He wants to abuse privately and keep up the facade of great person in front of others. He didn't own up to his mistakes. He blames the victim.

3) Love bombing. Abusers start out making their victim feel as they can't live without them. They pursue them endlessly and win their confidence. I didn't see the first parts of this show but from what I gather, Rajiv pursued Neeti with a vengeance. It was all in the chase. When they turn on their victim, it's too late. She is confused and it is difficult to reconcile the person who loved her so dearly with the monster she knows now.  Look at the situation today: he publicly RAGED at Neeti because she lashed out from seeing him romance her "best friend."

4) He moved his mistress into the house and has been carrying on in an open affair with her while gaslighting Neeti. One tactic of abusers to make victims think they are going crazy.

5) HIs behavior is escalating. He invited Neeti  to a party under the pretense of going as his wife. When she got there, he sided with his mistress and told her he preferred her to Neeti. It's ritual humiliation. Why didn't he just take Pari? Let's say, he found Pari there; of course, she is there. Why won't she be?The appropriate thing for him to do would be to send her from there, knowing her presence upsets his wife. Instead, he romanced her in front of Neeti, just to humiliate her.  How is this anything other than abuse. In upcoming spoilers, we hear Rajiv has sent Neeti his marriage invitation to Pari.  If Rajiv wanted to marry Pari, why does Neeti have to know about it since they are getting a divorce?  Simple. He wants to inflict maximum damage. Maximum hurt and maximum humiliation.

And this is what PariRaj fans love the most. They enjoy it when Rajiv abuses Neeti.

Meanwhile, Neeti's reactions have been actually normal. She was rightfully angry then sad. Then she bargained that she can make it better then she lashed out. It's a cycle of grief. She is going through the stages. We saw one stage when she finally admitted it was not just Pari's fault BUT BOTH Pari and Rajiv's fault. Also, the attempted murders of the other woman is something many wives have actually done. There are many cases of crimes of passion when a wife has killed or tried to kill the mistress. Too many to recount but the story of Betty Broderick is one famous one in the US.  Now, it is true this is one extreme reaction but lashing out at the mistress while denying the husband's culpability is actually coping and denying that you have been deceived. There are cases of physical violence, hiring hit men to kill husband and other women, alienating the children, public humiliation, etc. Everyone will react differently to deceit.

In many ways, we are seeing Neeti go through the stages of grief, first for her marriage and yet for her lost friendship.

bold- if u want to know how much rajiv pursued neeti, i recommend u to watch episode 51. Also the very important thing, the main reason for rajiv marrying pari, was to pursue neeti to Chandigarh using pari's property. That time neeti didn't even remember him after rejecting him, still he crossed limits for her, he actually decided to ruin pari's life to pursue neeti n pari really respects him for that

Edited by Jazzkapur - 5 months ago

Originally posted by: Jazzkapur

bold- if u want to know how much rajiv pursued neeti, i recommend u to watch episode 51. Also the very important thing, the main reason for rajiv marrying pari, was to pursue neeti to Chandigarh using pari's property. That time neeti didn't even remember him after rejecting him, still he crossed limits for her, he actually decided to ruin pari's life to pursue neeti n pari really respects him for that

Well yeh fraudy Sanju/Rajeev was able to CHEAT ON NEETI only and only because PARI ALLOWED him to get close to her. Pari bhi utni hi baddi dhokebaaz aur disgusting character hai jitna ki yeh Sanju/Rajeev.

Like he is the one who has committed all the sins and yet he has nerves to COMPARE Neeti with Pari and then cry that Neeti left him and Pari being with him deduces to Neeti not being a GOOD PERSON

MATLAB KI NEETI KA PYAR JHOOTA HAI AUR PARI KA SACHHA?????KYUN? KYUNKI NEETI IS VERY SELFISH TO SHARE HER HUSBAND AND PARI IS MAHAAN WHO IS READY TO SHARE HER HUSBAND?????WOH PARI JO USS SANJU/RAJEEV KI CHOICE BHI NAHI THI???? KITNA GANDA AUR SHITTY CHARACTER HAI PARI KA! I MEAN SHE HAS ENABLED ALL THIS SHIT. 

Message yeh hai ki chahe jo bhi ho ek ladki ko apna pati nahi chodna chahiye chahe woh jitna bhi apko CHEAT KARE, ABUSE KARE, MANIPULATE KARE AUR CHAHE WOH APKO PATNI KA DARJA BHI NA DE, APKO AS A WOMAN HAMESHA USSKI IZAT KARNI HAI VRAT RAKHNA HAI AUR USSE FEVICOL JAISE CHIPKE REHNA HAI CHAHE WOH JITNA BHI ZULM KARLE???? 

What are the makers smoking really? 

Can Sanju/Rajeev be given a choice ki kaun si ladki achhi hai uske liye? Woh ladka jisne khud hi fraud kiya ho usko choice di ja rahi hai???? 

Seriously I am waiting for thi Sanju/Rajeev and Pari to get punished so badly! They need to SUFFER. 

Edited by sumz_d - 5 months ago

Originally posted by: sumz_d

Well yeh fraudy Sanju/Rajeev was able to CHEAT ON NEETI only and only because PARI ALLOWED him to get close to her. Pari bhi utni hi baddi dhokebaaz aur disgusting character hai jitna ki yeh Sanju/Rajeev.

Like he is the one who has committed all the sins and yet he has nerves to COMPARE Neeti with Pari and then cry that Neeti left him and Pari being with him deduces to Neeti not being a GOOD PERSON

MATLAB KI NEETI KA PYAR JHOOTA HAI AUR PARI KA SACHHA?????KYUN? KYUNKI NEETI IS VERY SELFISH TO SHARE HER HUSBAND AND PARI IS MAHAAN WHO IS READY TO SHARE HER HUSBAND?????WOH PARI JO USS SANJU/RAJEEV KI CHOICE BHI NAHI THI???? KITNA GANDA AUR SHITTY CHARACTER HAI PARI KA! I MEAN SHE HAS ENABLED ALL THIS SHIT. 

Message yeh hai ki chahe jo bhi ho ek ladki ko apna pati nahi chodna chahiye chahe woh jitna bhi apko CHEAT KARE, ABUSE KARE, MANIPULATE KARE AUR CHAHE WOH APKO PATNI KA DARJA BHI NA DE, APKO AS A WOMAN HAMESHA USSKI IZAT KARNI HAI VRAT RAKHNA HAI AUR USSE FEVICOL JAISE CHIPKE REHNA HAI CHAHE WOH JITNA BHI ZULM KARLE???? 

What are the makers smoking really? 

Can Sanju/Rajeev be given a choice ki kaun si ladki achhi hai uske liye? Woh ladka jisne khud hi fraud kiya ho usko choice di ja rahi hai???? 

Seriously I am waiting for thi Sanju/Rajeev and Pari to get punished so badly! They need to SUFFER. 

i agree with ur every statement expect this "sanju/Rajeev was able to CHEAT ON NEETI only and only because PARI ALLOWED him to get close to her" because the time when sanju did fraud cheating with both the girls, that time pari didn't know anything. kisike sath fraud karna bhi cheating hi hota hai. Jabtak pari ko pata chala, sanju fraud kar chuka tha. Yes after pari got to know the truth, usne sanju ke fraud ko badhawa dia n ladki chahe kitni b ghatiya se ghatiya ho, i don't think ONLY she should be blamed for a man cheating his wife, both husband n other woman r wrong. If a man truly loves his wife, he will not cheat her at any cost except if his wife cheats him 1st. Sanju was a ghatiya fraud cheater before pari even married him. Pari ki galti ye hai that she encouraged sanju to become worse, also his family also encouraged him to become more shameless

Originally posted by: Jazzkapur

i agree with ur every statement expect this "sanju/Rajeev was able to CHEAT ON NEETI only and only because PARI ALLOWED him to get close to her" because the time when sanju did fraud cheating with both the girls, that time pari didn't know anything. kisike sath fraud karna bhi cheating hi hota hai. Jabtak pari ko pata chala, sanju fraud kar chuka tha. Yes after pari got to know the truth, usne sanju ke fraud ko badhawa dia n ladki chahe kitni b ghatiya se ghatiya ho, i don't think ONLY she should be blamed for a man cheating his wife, both husband n other woman r wrong. If a man truly loves his wife, he will not cheat her at any cost except if his wife cheats him 1st. Sanju was a ghatiya fraud cheater before pari even married him. Pari ki galti ye hai that she encouraged sanju to become worse, also his family also encouraged him to become more shameless

abhi bhi the entire family and pari acts like neeti is crazy for expecting sanju to ditch pari as if she is telling sanju to ditch his mom and not the other women in his life. And pariraj fans please do not even try to tell me pari is not the other women she absolutely is. Neeti has been his wife in the true sense physically and even emotionally until very recently it is immaterial that pari ne pehle phere liye rajeev ke sath. I can marry 5 guys but the person i stay with, sleep with and want to plan a future with is my husband na. They were going to have a child and even are having one so yes neeti is the wife. And that has been the impression given to neeti as well by sanju and pari. So when they are accepting that neeti is the wife i think pariraj fans should too. 

Originally posted by: shirin04

abhi bhi the entire family and pari acts like neeti is crazy for expecting sanju to ditch pari as if she is telling sanju to ditch his mom and not the other women in his life. And pariraj fans please do not even try to tell me pari is not the other women she absolutely is. Neeti has been his wife in the true sense physically and even emotionally until very recently it is immaterial that pari ne pehle phere liye rajeev ke sath. I can marry 5 guys but the person i stay with, sleep with and want to plan a future with is my husband na. They were going to have a child and even are having one so yes neeti is the wife. And that has been the impression given to neeti as well by sanju and pari. So when they are accepting that neeti is the wife i think pariraj fans should too. 

@Bold well said 

Is it so hard to understand or accept this fact about Pari being the "other woman"? 

Anyways have given up with these Pari and Sanju/Rajeev fans

Originally posted by: Jazzkapur

i agree with ur every statement expect this "sanju/Rajeev was able to CHEAT ON NEETI only and only because PARI ALLOWED him to get close to her" because the time when sanju did fraud cheating with both the girls, that time pari didn't know anything. kisike sath fraud karna bhi cheating hi hota hai. Jabtak pari ko pata chala, sanju fraud kar chuka tha. Yes after pari got to know the truth, usne sanju ke fraud ko badhawa dia n ladki chahe kitni b ghatiya se ghatiya ho, i don't think ONLY she should be blamed for a man cheating his wife, both husband n other woman r wrong. If a man truly loves his wife, he will not cheat her at any cost except if his wife cheats him 1st. Sanju was a ghatiya fraud cheater before pari even married him. Pari ki galti ye hai that she encouraged sanju to become worse, also his family also encouraged him to become more shameless

Yes Sanju/Rajeev was a fraud but he had conscience before. He felt guilty at times. 

But since Pari forgave him and romanced him he now doesn't feel guilty ulta now wants to put the blame on Neeti. Pari has made him worse as a human and hence I say Pari is equally at fault. 

Edited by sumz_d - 5 months ago

Originally posted by: sumz_d

Yes Sanju/Rajeev was a fraud but he had conscience before. He felt guilty at times. 

But since Pari forgave him and romanced him he now doesn't feel guilty ulta now wants to put the blame on Neeti. Pari has made him worse as a human and hence I say Pari is equally at fault. 

yes i agree that's what I'm trying to say. Pari n this whole family have encouraged him to become worse including that mahilaon ko insaf dilane wali mukhiya