Rajiv has all the signs of being an abuser:
1) He blames the victim for HIS actions. Notice, he says it is because of NEETI'S EGO that the marriage is falling apart, not that HE married her under fraudulent circumstances and have lied to her. He blames Neeti for his behavior. Most abusers say if the victim didn't irritate them, they won't beat them. They blame the victim for their violence.
2) He isolates the victim. Rajiv has driven a wedge between friends. Neeti no longer has the support of a best friend. He also sides with his family against her. He has never supported her against his family. He has done everything to make her seem as the unreasonable, egotistical one. He even said she didn't keep their dirty deeds WITHIN the family. She exposed them publicly. He wants to abuse privately and keep up the facade of great person in front of others. He didn't own up to his mistakes. He blames the victim.
3) Love bombing. Abusers start out making their victim feel as they can't live without them. They pursue them endlessly and win their confidence. I didn't see the first parts of this show but from what I gather, Rajiv pursued Neeti with a vengeance. It was all in the chase. When they turn on their victim, it's too late. She is confused and it is difficult to reconcile the person who loved her so dearly with the monster she knows now. Look at the situation today: he publicly RAGED at Neeti because she lashed out from seeing him romance her "best friend."
4) He moved his mistress into the house and has been carrying on in an open affair with her while gaslighting Neeti. One tactic of abusers to make victims think they are going crazy.
5) HIs behavior is escalating. He invited Neeti to a party under the pretense of going as his wife. When she got there, he sided with his mistress and told her he preferred her to Neeti. It's ritual humiliation. Why didn't he just take Pari? Let's say, he found Pari there; of course, she is there. Why won't she be?
The appropriate thing for him to do would be to send her from there, knowing her presence upsets his wife. Instead, he romanced her in front of Neeti, just to humiliate her. How is this anything other than abuse. In upcoming spoilers, we hear Rajiv has sent Neeti his marriage invitation to Pari. If Rajiv wanted to marry Pari, why does Neeti have to know about it since they are getting a divorce? Simple. He wants to inflict maximum damage. Maximum hurt and maximum humiliation.
And this is what PariRaj fans love the most. They enjoy it when Rajiv abuses Neeti.
Meanwhile, Neeti's reactions have been actually normal. She was rightfully angry then sad. Then she bargained that she can make it better then she lashed out. It's a cycle of grief. She is going through the stages. We saw one stage when she finally admitted it was not just Pari's fault BUT BOTH Pari and Rajiv's fault. Also, the attempted murders of the other woman is something many wives have actually done. There are many cases of crimes of passion when a wife has killed or tried to kill the mistress. Too many to recount but the story of Betty Broderick is one famous one in the US. Now, it is true this is one extreme reaction but lashing out at the mistress while denying the husband's culpability is actually coping and denying that you have been deceived. There are cases of physical violence, hiring hit men to kill husband and other women, alienating the children, public humiliation, etc. Everyone will react differently to deceit.
In many ways, we are seeing Neeti go through the stages of grief, first for her marriage and yet for her lost friendship.
WOH PARI JO USS SANJU/RAJEEV KI CHOICE BHI NAHI THI???? KITNA GANDA AUR SHITTY CHARACTER HAI PARI KA! I MEAN SHE HAS ENABLED ALL THIS SHIT. 
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