Originally posted by: NiharikaMishra
I agree with Surabhi. Anupamaa is strongly gaslighted into believing that Leela's "corrective" measures are for her own good.
She also wrongly believes that Vanraj cheated only because they were incompatible and that VanYa can have a better life. (He cheated just because he thought he could get away with it and had no plans to leave Anupamaa or marry Kavya)
Most importantly, she is extremely wrong in still wanting to micromanage all housework, inspite of the fact that she now has financial responsibilities and a medical loan to pay off, which she too up with so much pride and vanity.
Life can throw stones and boulders at you any time and that is when you prioritize what's important.
The fact that some perfectly capable adults (minus Pakhi) are well-fed at all times cannot be a number one priority if you are not a full-time housewife anymore.
My thoughts exactly!
Anupamaa is as human as everyone else and it's high time the show highlights some of her flaws and faults too.
Her husband cheated because he knew he could get away with it. He knew his meek wife wouldn't even dare to think about divorce, let alone file it. He knew his kids would side with him over their old-fashioned mom.
I also agree that it's absolutely ridiculous that she's micromanaging all the housework. Ghar ki beti hai, fine, but it's rather problematic agar ghar ki beti din bhar ghar walon ke nakhre utha rahi hai. To some extent I can understand why the family doesn't want to hire a maid. I've seen similar cases where family members feel a sense of pride in working through chores as a unit rather than with the help of a maid. However, this family is not your average family. There are too many complicated relationships and too many members in different stages of their lives. Koi parh raha hai, koi retired hai, koi jab kar raha hai. Not everyone is functioning on the same schedule.
If the family truly wants to support the working members, then they need to actually do 100% of the household chores instead of doing 75% and expecting the working members to finish up the rest. Forget Kavya, woh toh hai hi ek nuisance, but Kinjal isn't actually wrong here. Being a sweet and understanding wife + daughter-in-law doesn't mean you become a doormat. Kinjal's concerns are absolutely valid - ultimately kaam toh ghar ka woh kar rahi hai na, ab chahe microwave use kare ya pateeli, the point is that the family is being fed rice for dinner. Baat khatam.
Also, they should be showing Vanraj helping out in the house more instead of constantly moping and being unable to handle his marital problems. He doesn't speak up for his parents or children. He just witnesses tamasha after tamasha. Usse chahiye ke jab tak part-time job kar raha hai tab tak ghar ke kaam mein help kardiya kare. Why is it only falling on the ladies and the retired elders?!
Lastly, I hate to say this, but being a doormat at work cannot be compared to being a doormat at home. Job pe agar boss ulta seedha sunaye then he/she is still paying you a salary and is helping you put food on your table and pay your bills. Ghar pe Baa ke taaney aren't helping Kinjal in any way. She's doing her best and that should be good enough. I really hope the family members don't start associating her with Kavya now. Kavya isn't doing her best. She just walks from room to room, eaves dropping and throwing temper tantrums. Kinjal on the other hand is doing her day job and is pulling her weight at home. She truly does represent today's youth and that should be applauded, not degraded!
P.S. Excuse my rant. This week's episodes paired with Anupamaa's repetitive monologues have me riled up to no extent! 🤔
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