The path ahead is not easily discernable and you do not know which way to go. There’s an additional pressure of taunts, angst and the unfair expectations of people around that are tossed on you to bear, then your heart breaks. With your mind it’s just another painful agonizing story.
The confusion of Hamlet’s “to be or not be” has seized every honest man’s mind has it not? For an honest and principled person like Mishti, her life, after her being berated verbally and crushed mentally by Meenu has become impractical and more complicated.
She retraced her steps back to the right road from the fast-approaching darkness that Meenu has engulfed her in. Thus using her flashlight of practical wisdom she realizes now that she had forgotten the pain and feelings of the other half of her – Abir.
She saw him break down in the hall and then decided that in her agony she had never even asked him to share his thoughts, pain and feelings. Is personal happiness possible when your neighborhood is on fire?
Her priorities changed and as priorities change when you advance in life, many relationships recede to the background and other new relationships and traits surface which have been neglected. To be good towards someone, you need not be bad towards another. For retaining your personal happiness, you must get out of the general trend of the folks around you who always imbibe on the principle of might is right.
You cannot expect any change in the outside world, because it will be exactly what you are and what you perceive it to be. Once you become sensitive to reality, and retain an awareness of seeing the truth, and most significantly the present and future repercussions of your actions, you become sensitive to pain, and Mishti perceives very clearly how her pain is integrated with Abir’s pain, his dreams and plans for the future.
Hence, she delivers herself the blow and she automatically decides to sever herself from generating the all-consuming fire of pain not only for the safety of others but for her own safety too. The world around you is what it is and you look at it like you are.When you look at it without colored glasses of prejudices, likes and dislikes hatred and jealousy it is that and for the first time she sees it from Abir’s perspective based on what Meenu has advocated.
You need to have a psychological freedom to understand this wondrous, amazing reality and separate it from the kaleidoscopic pattern of falsehood, erratic illusions and wrong conceptions and Mishti seeing it through the eyes of another understood that.
Once you see this, you’ll know what to do; the confusion of to be or not be will disappear like the dew drops in the bright sunlight. Freedom is wisdom. Wisdom always comes with pain because it involves breaking yourself away with a set of beliefs hopes and dreams. It’s like a stream of clear water and is a true real mental condition. It is intelligence.
It’s a James Bond kind of move – calculated but based on reason that she perceives as right. You don’t have to understand her journey because you never walked her path.
The uncertainty of future happy life has made it more clear to Mishti that the existing system is fast headed towards danger, emitting flashes of happiness and an illusion of security based on a compromise, so she retraces her steps to a new orientation of thoughts and she decides to leave.
It happens even to the best of us. We just take an action based on what we think at that point in time.
- Abir took that decision when he brought back Kunal to the mandap after Meenu played the game and didn't tell Mishti about it
- Mishti took that decision when she blurted out Kuhu’s secret during haldi
- Kuhu took that decision when she realized Kunal does not love her
- BM made that decision when she handed Naman the money
- Mishti’s daadi may be made that decision when she sent her away with Maheshwaris
- BP made that decision when he wanted Mishti to marry Nannu
I can go on and on but I’ll stop here.
A single conversation across the table with a wise person is worth a month's study of books. Abir had it with BM today and she told him that if he has to fight through the bad days to get to the best days of his life. Life isn’t about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself. BM says she did that for Mishti, Varsha did that for Kuhu and when God closes one door, he always opens another.
Her final pearl of wisdom was that with Mishti and his family’s support he can get through it all. “THE SEPARATE PARTS MAKE NO CARRIAGE."
Kunal is the only one who understood very well that Mishti and Abir need time to settle in. Everyone is moving at a speed and agenda of their own. Time heals and fills the void with other opportunities and options and BM explained that to Abir.
The subliminal dialog of BP with Mishti was most touching because it was Mishti’s note of thanks to him and her pride in always being his Gudiya Rani and also seeking his blessings by asking if whatever she is going to do is right or wrong. If only BP knew…She also communicates to him, that she was relieving Abir of his bhoj so that his dreams of being a dad could materialize because she is freeing him technically by moving away and this is a liberation of all kinds for her.
Little does she realize then his dreams mean crap unless she is linked to them. She removes all traces of Mishti from his life where she takes her diaries, her origami hanging everything with her.
Tum haroge tab na jab me tumhe harne dungi.
That’s her only guiding light right now her all-pervading thought. She needs him to be a dad and without her (because she is a bad daughter, bad wife and bad bahu jaisey maa ne kaha tha)
But what about his heart and his memories Mishti – he will wither and die. She knows it deep within but she is irrational right now.
Without the theen sawalon waali his ghar is Khokli Imaarat but little is she in a clear headed position to comprehend that now.
The beautiful dialog between the adoption agency and Abir was the most meaningful one. Great minds have purposes. Little minds have wishes. Abir to become a dad the former and Meenu’s waaris wish.
“The fragrance of sandalwood and rosebay does not travel far. But the fragrance of virtue rises to the heavens," and the fragrance that is Abir Rajvansh, touched all our hearts breaking all geographical barriers, through our Television sets as we basked in his shine and luster. "Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away." Abir took our breath away with that simple honest and straightforward statement.
Goodbyes are only for those who love with their eyes.
Because for those who love with heart and soul
There is no such thing as separation. So, no such separation for Abir and Mishti.
Abir, remember that out of periods of loss comes the greatest winning streak. There is an Ugandan Proverb The thread follows the needle
The thread that is Abir will follow the needle and will bring Mishti back save Meenu from the wrath of BP and the slammer. He’ll set the gaping mommy void in Mishti’s life right. A stumbling block to the pessimist is a stepping stone to the optmist and he’ll find a way as always.
Faith
makes all things
possible,
Hope
makes all things
work,
Love
makes all things
beautiful. And fortunately for us, Abir Rajvansh is blessed with all the three.
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