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I have never in my life compared and weighed which is more wrong.. Adultery or rape. Both are wrong, heinous and the most despicable thing which can be done to a person. But then I watched this wretched serial & read some discussions here, for the first time I am comparing which is worst. Now before coming to me with pitchforks and fire, I am not comparing the act itself or consent or motive which is associated with the act. I am discussing from the Victim's or a better word, Survivor's POV... whether their plight can be compared or not Writers presented 2 women-
one woman is victim of abuse and marital rape
other is a victim of adultery and double betrayal(bff & husband)
Some fans believe Nandini's history of suffering abuse and marital rape excuse/justify her actions or at least feel that she deserve sympathy. Even after EMA, even after witnessing Mauli's whole world crashing down, some feel that Mauli's suffering is minimal compared to Nandini's plight reasoning that rape is more heinous than adultery. From these arguments I conclude that some think a Rape survivor suffers much more than a victim of adultery. Is it true?
Does being cheated on by a husband of many years, feels less worse than Rape? I don't know.. I think only person who will know this is the one who suffered both but I really hope that no one had such a fate.
Rape can break people's soul. It leads to varied emotions in the survivors ranging from anger to disgust. The middle aged guy who rubs me 'accidently' in a bus can make me nauseous and smothered. So I can't even imagine the plight of a rape survivor, to be violated to such an extent, the subsequent trauma they face and yes, it requires hell lot of strength to come out of it. I don't think anyone think otherwise
But adultery... a betrayal of trust, love.. can we say its victim's' suffering is as severe as rape victim? The extent of pain and betrayal will vary among victims. But we can safely say that Mauli suffered the worst kind. Some females take years to come back from the trauma and infact never fully recover from the betrayal. When your husband of many years cheat u, especially like in Mauli's case, u start to wonder whether the life u lived was a lie. U will feel your husband is a stranger.. They start to question their worth and their confidence decreases. I had read once in quora that a female felt violated after learning that her husband was cheating on her (https://www.quora.com/Is-it-normal-to-feel-violated-after-being-cheated-on-How-do-I-recover). In some extreme cases some people do commit suicide unable to live with the pain but sadly no one get punished (https://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/1524508/Wife-killed-herself-after-husbands-affair-with-best-friend.html)
I am in no way minimizing rape survivors plight... I am just wondering whether a infidelity survivor suffer as much
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