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Posted: 9 years ago
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My father keeps abusing us (My mother and me). He calls us from names, says nasty things about us, especially about me. He can't tolerate if anyone tries to argue with him, even in a decent language. If my mother ever tried to argue with him, he starts domestic violence as well. In his presence I feel like a terrible. Even with any stranger, I feel more comfortable. My mother is physically unswell, she has a tumor (maybe thanks to my father's abusive nature) Even many times he gave me threat that i should run away from his house otherwise he will kill me, when my mother will not with me.
Many peoples must be thinking that if we are so fed up, then why we are even living with him. To be very honest, we (my mother and me) wanted to live separate from him for a very long time but financial condition doesn't allow us. I've no place to go anywhere and as I told you before my mother is unwell so of course I can't stay with her on the footpath. She needs medical treatment and I'm still a student, plus have to take care my mother as well. So with the part time job. I can provide food for us, but can't afford a house, even to rent.
Will you guys please help me, I want to come out of all these. Please suggest me what should I do? please don't say stay in any relative home, as I can stay with them for a few weeks, but can't become a burden on them for months or years. May I get legal help? I don't feel safe with him at all.

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Posted: 9 years ago
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Thanks for sharing ur story. It is really sad to read all this.

I dont know what to say. I would suggest seeking legal help and maybe contacting some NGO who looks into such issues as they can provide legal help too

I cant think of anything else ..

Good luck
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Posted: 9 years ago
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Originally posted by: hippopotamus

Thanks for sharing ur story. It is really sad to read all this.

I dont know what to say. I would suggest seeking legal help and maybe contacting some NGO who looks into such issues as they can provide legal help too

I cant think of anything else ..

Good luck


Which NGO ? can you tell me 😕
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Posted: 9 years ago
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Originally posted by: NitikaSS


Which NGO ? can you tell me 😕


Hippo is from jungle's of Africa and does not know much about humans, other countries like India and organizations there.


However a quick search on my computer led to this article which mentions 6 human rights organizations fighting for women in India.

I think this could help you if you tell them your story.

I would advice you to first do it quietly and your father should now know.

http://www.bustle.com/articles/89136-6-indian-womens-rights-organizations-that-are-bravely-fighting-for-change
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Posted: 9 years ago
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Originally posted by: hippopotamus


Hippo is from jungle's of Africa and does not know much about humans, other countries like India and organizations there.


However a quick search on my computer led to this article which mentions 6 human rights organizations fighting for women in India.

I think this could help you if you tell them your story.

I would advice you to first do it quietly and your father should now know.

http://www.bustle.com/articles/89136-6-indian-womens-rights-organizations-that-are-bravely-fighting-for-change


Thank you for the link
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Posted: 9 years ago
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How many more years left before you finish your studies?
Its difficult offering advice especially if you are already considering leaving. I think do not agravate him in any kind of way in the meantime, ensure your mother is treated. And just use him for what he can offer you...Just stay calm and do not upset him.. then when you mum is treated you can consider your options again.

In these kind of situations try to take it day by day .. and work to a plan which is get a fulltime job and leave. Break it down:
1. Mums health
2. Complete your studies
3. Fulltime job
4. Ghost leave.. which is when you just vanish out of his life. No warning.. just take all the valuable things in the house and leave LOL

At the moment he seems like a looney who will come find you and beat you up.



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Posted: 9 years ago
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This is so sad. You are in school talk to your teacher who can be truested and who you think will help you and find out NGO's or welfare societies who can help you and also your mother's health which is the most important. What about your mother's parents and siblings try to talk to them if they can help you out. I know it is difficult take it easy.
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Posted: 9 years ago
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Originally posted by: NitikaSS

My father keeps abusing us (My mother and me). He calls us from names, says nasty things about us, especially about me. He can't tolerate if anyone tries to argue with him, even in a decent language. If my mother ever tried to argue with him, he starts domestic violence as well. In his presence I feel like a terrible. Even with any stranger, I feel more comfortable. My mother is physically unswell, she has a tumor (maybe thanks to my father's abusive nature) Even many times he gave me threat that i should run away from his house otherwise he will kill me, when my mother will not with me.
Many peoples must be thinking that if we are so fed up, then why we are even living with him. To be very honest, we (my mother and me) wanted to live separate from him for a very long time but financial condition doesn't allow us. I've no place to go anywhere and as I told you before my mother is unwell so of course I can't stay with her on the footpath. She needs medical treatment and I'm still a student, plus have to take care my mother as well. So with the part time job. I can provide food for us, but can't afford a house, even to rent.
Will you guys please help me, I want to come out of all these. Please suggest me what should I do? please don't say stay in any relative home, as I can stay with them for a few weeks, but can't become a burden on them for months or years. May I get legal help? I don't feel safe with him at all.

no one deserves to be abused.How are you and your mom doing??please update and take care.
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Posted: 9 years ago
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I'm presently in India and let me know if you want me to knock some sense into him.
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Posted: 9 years ago
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Originally posted by: TheBoss

I'm presently in India and let me know if you want me to knock some sense into him.


Ideal way to deal with such domestic abusers

1. Get a chair and place the abuser on the chair

2. Hippo standing 30 feet from the chair

3. Hippo takes position

4. Hippo sips water

5. Hippo starts to move

6. Hippo accelerates

7. Gains momentum

8. Hippo has reached full speed

9. Hippo is near the chair

10. Hippo crashes into the chair

11. The abuser (along with the chair) is in the air

12. Abuser falls 20 feet away

13. Hippo has not stopped and he is after

14. Hippo reaches the abuser and sits on him

15. Police is called and abuser is turned into police.

The girl and her family lives happily after...

Hippo is seen going towards the jungle...

This is what I want to happen. Just my wish


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