This Is How Star Justified This Track And An Ode To The Show (EDITED)

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Posted: 10 years ago
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I called Star twice today.

The first time; the guy on call didn't even bother as I spoke to him about YHM, the creatives, the rudeness, actor bashing, crude language, the means by which surrogacy is dealt with, communal surrogacy, perspective, portrayal of Indian men and women in general media, portray of Star and #NayiSoch, infertility, the show's base, the social stigmas, tracks, infrequency, abrupt ends and so many other things. Sadly, all he got was that the viewers hated the concept of surrogacy being shown.

I called them once again, minutes after the first time, put for my views once again this time coupled with last night's recap, personalizing, generalizing, viewer connect and so much guilt that there was me and a hundred other viewers talking to and even screaming at a man who probably never watched the show or even heard of the tracks. He was a sweetheart but all he had to say to me was that, 'Would Raman have to ask Ishita for consent; would she have said yes? He just wants her happy!' And I asked him if this was what moral values meant to him and if he had to do the same to his wife. When I quoted last nights precap and Ishita's insecurity and asked him what if it was his sister or his friends who had the same place as Ishita is in now; round around the table we came to a conclusion that he would ask her to get treatments and it was because she couldn't carry a child full term.

After being a part of a campaign, insulted by the so called creatives' and so on and so forth; I myself feel insulted to call myself a part of this show or this forum where we discuss it. It's not even social responsibility anymore. I am done.

The first one had to say that the decisions were taken by a team of members and were just, one of them disconnected calls and rudely behaved to a friend, another told Kavya that they were working on it and the list goes on.

If the general mentality of them is that we care rebelling against the concept of surrogacy on national television and not the means; a man who has two biological kids can apparently justify the means he used and has no reasoning for a third - I have nothing to say.

I told him of my career path and how doctors were portrayed in the show when Ishita herself is one; and they had nothing to say.

I am done.

I was angry, hurt and felt wronged but now I'm done. There is nothing more to this.

I told him that I come from a family that looks down on Hindi tele, a father who would rightly disown me for what he considers trash and that I would fall down in the eyes of my friends if I had to acknowledge Star. I told him I wouldn't threaten to unsubscribe because people do it and I care less because he gets nothing from my end or my community. That people are revealing plots to general audiences who themselves quit after listening to it. I told him that the viewers who connect to the show once related to it and now feel insulted.

I feel blank. No anger or anything but just obliged to tell all my friends here that I am done with the show and the forum. Thank you for being there for me, for loving me and for holding me close but this is where it ends.

I cannot be a part of, watch or follow a show where I fail to connect to their views if not their matter.

You have hope; I've lost mine.

As an only girl child of parents who went through various troubles to bring me to life; right from my mother being on complete bed rest for nine whole months to my father supporting, caring for and loving her through the worst. As the only daughter of a man who never once judged, criticized, mocked or demanded that my mother give him a male heir; I find it hard and disrespectful to follow this show any longer. We all have our demons that connect us as a family and as viewers to the show and it is heartbreaking to see the makers ever so callously demean them.

If it's Meherbaan; I will post it on Wattpad in a few months. Please tell me if you want the same character names because I, for once, want to change them.

If it's Scars; please tell me if you need closure because writing it itself has made me gain mine.

And a big thanks to Boo who listened to me rant at 3 am for hours as I analyzed, dissected and found myself over this show.

I believe this is goodbye until the day I find something to connect myself to this show and to you all over again.

Thank you, once again.





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Posted: 10 years ago
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I hope I have the courage to leave the show and forum as well..I'm sure I will get it soon..angry with myself on why I got involved with this show so much..I'm not watching episode since 10 days..I'm still reading written updates with some hope.. Coz I always agree that evil would never win no matter how hard they try
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Screw the show but don't stop your writing(especially Scars) yaar.. Its pretty good I must say...
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Posted: 10 years ago
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Kiara..yes when I called SP person told me they receiving many complaints and they are working on it... But what they told you is totally unacceptable... why they are playing with viewers emotions.. they should give us a straight forward answer .. rather than giving us hopes And then breaking them... i really appreciate the efforts ppl making to stop this nonsense.. disgusting track... i just hope SP listen to fans.. because I don't have much hopes from PH... i hope ppl who making so much efforts get there due and SP listen us...

Kiara hopefully things will get better... And if not then still we can keep it touch with each other... Continue your write ups... kiara 😊
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Posted: 10 years ago
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Originally posted by: s_kavya

Kiara..yes when I called SP person told me they receiving many complaints and they are working on it... But what they told you is totally unacceptable... why they are playing with viewers emotions.. they should give us a straight forward answer .. rather than giving us hopes And then breaking them... i really appreciate the efforts ppl making to stop this nonsense.. disgusting track... i just hope SP listen to fans.. because I don't have much hopes from PH... i hope ppl who making so much efforts get there due and SP listen us...

Kiara hopefully things will get better... And if not then still we can keep it touch with each other... Continue your write ups... kiara 😊



I asked both of them if their other shows like Saathiya were ever called out on their illogical tracks? If there was any difference to them in the viewership discontent. If it meant anything or if it made a difference in displeasing 100 viewers in their usual tracks to displeasing 990 viewers with this track out of a sum of 1000 assumed viewers. But I told you last night, I wouldn't want to speak with someone who had no idea and they refused to connect to someone who was related to the show and now I care less.

I have you on call, so there's no escaping. 😆


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Posted: 10 years ago
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Originally posted by: Divya5377

I hope I have the courage to leave the show and forum as well..I'm sure I will get it soon..angry with myself on why I got involved with this show so much..I'm not watching episode since 10 days..I'm still reading written updates with some hope.. Coz I always agree that evil would never win no matter how hard they try



You will get there. I stopped watching last year. You won't get over it immediately, it'll be a cycle. It will happen.

It's not about good and evils. It's an illogical debate either way. It's futile.

Edited by -Ara- - 10 years ago
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I can't believe that Star India seriously thinks people hate the "concept of surrogacy being shown". That is utter rubbish. SP show EK Hazaron Main Meri Behena also had the concept of surrogacy when it was shown that Jeevika had trouble carrying a baby to full term. In their case the surrogacy was done with full consent of both parties and it was also successful in the end.

So this theory that people hate surrogacy being shown is utter BS! It's HOW it's being shown that is wrong. Which part of that don't they get? A man acting crazy and trying to "Get" a baby by hook or crook for his wife? He thinks THIS is the right way to do it? Getting her to sign surrogacy consent forms through pretence? Lying and using his ex as a surrogate and hiding it from his wife? This is the way to provide a woman with fertility issues with a child? Showing it like this is suppose to make the audience feel for Raman? Sorry to say but most of the time I feel like kicking him!


I have known of this show but didn't follow it at the start. I have an aunt to watches it on cable. She told me the show was good so I also checked it out online. (I am an overseas non Indian viewer), but I have been watching Indian TV shows since IPKKND the original. However, I sometimes find it hard to digest the way they portray women and also men on Indian TV shows. More often than not the way subject matters are dealth with is regressive. I also find that women being the subject of harassment, disrespect or ill treatment is considered as entertaiment. I followed a show where a woman with memory loss was told some random man was her husband and they showed her continue to fall deeper into the pit of this lie for months and tried to justify the actions of the man! They showed her eventually shun her real husband thinking this other man to be her husband and continued to show her put herself in compromising situations with this man. I found it SO offensive. But the makers justified it by trying to show this man as a good person who only wanted to "look after the mental health of this stranger" who he now "loved". The woman's rights didn't even come into it! It was insulting.


Sadly this is a similar type of scenario where again a woman's rights are totally disregarded. She is treated with condescension and "others" know what is best for her, be it her husband or other people. It's so offensive. So now I try to pick and choose the Indian shows I watch carefully. I pick finite shows and mostly historical or mythological style shows as I find them a lot more enlightening and entertaining. Other shows tend to drag the plot too much and show mostly regressive things that in the end make me angry and I think it's best to avoid watching them! That is what I have learnt from my experiences watching Indian TV shows! I have watched shows from all over the world and sad to say Indian shows have dissapointed me the most in their handling of sensitive subject matter. It feels like they don't even give a damn about what they are showing as long as they get ratings! It's a shame!



Edited by MrDarcyfan - 10 years ago
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Posted: 10 years ago
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Ara hats off to you dear. you really have lots of patience to hear all this crap. and really feeling bad after hearing SP views. Frankly saying so SP really didn't deserve so much respect from us. just hope our protests give them some piece of mind. but yup hats off to you girl.
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Posted: 10 years ago
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Hi Kiara,
It is your wish if you want to watch the show or not and continue in the forum but I do have a request for you.

You are a amazing writer and I like your Meharbaan and Scars story I am not on wattpad so I would appreciate it if you could complete these two stories in IF or if you don't won't to post it in the general form can you at least pm me when you update.

Thanks

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Posted: 10 years ago
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Originally posted by: mayasundar

Hi Kiara,

It is your wish if you want to watch the show or not and continue in the forum but I do have a request for you.

You are a amazing writer and I like your Meharbaan and Scars story I am not on wattpad so I would appreciate it if you could complete these two stories in IF or if you don't won't to post it in the general form can you at least pm me when you update.

Thanks



Hey Maya,

Thank you. That means so much to me coming from you. It truly does. I shall make a note of that. Let's see how it goes though. I will be giving Scars a closure because we have the plot and everything at hand but what I'm worried, as a person, is that it is not Raman centric and that fact is not really well accepted, secondly I'm trying to detox myself and boy is it hard and lastly it's more of a selfish take on Ishita. So let's see how it goes.

Thank you.

Edited by -Ara- - 10 years ago

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