Interesting Disccusion! Lets open it up to the whole forum!!!
I am of the opinion that "cyber romance" in its classical sense is a foolhardy thing to do unless and until one is ready for a committed relationship or marriage. I think it's infinitely better to consider a new person in your life a FRIEND, rather than a life partner, until such time as you've observed them in group situations for a while. I think it's far safer to conduct a social life with a group of friends instead of being paired as couple straight away.
One thing that is common in 95% Cyber Romance is that it starts with Cyber Friendship. I have witnessed cases where just after 5-10 sessions of good chat people tend to think him/her as a good friend of yours. I request especially to gals, please dont misunderstand it. Dont be too fast; give such relationship a decent probation period and take it as a good acquaintance, then friendship and if you 200% sure of what you are getting yourself into then take the next step....
It's even easier to cultivate the "romance" mindset on the cyberspace than in real world as its fast, safer, convenient and for some its cheaper as you dont have to buy real greeting cards (you can make her/him happy with free online egreetings too) . Secondly, the "romance" mindset is as pervasively encouraged by the media and society at large as, say "A man and a woman can't really be JUST FRIENDS" - Ek ladka aur ek ladki kabhi SIRF dost nahin ho sakte (remember the famous Maine Pyar Kiya dialogue)-- So the sense of "LOVE" sets in verrrrry fast.
I've heard from more than one person that they like Cyber romance because you get to know someone "from the outside in" so that physical appearances don't matter. Well, perhaps that's true, but in my experience, you also achieve too much emotional intimacy in too short a time when interacting online without meeting in person right away. That means that if you meet and there's no chemistry, you've given a big chunk of your innermost self to a stranger. And if you meet and there's even a little chemistry, many people will feel an obligation to move forward with the relationship despite any misgivings. And such relationship begun out of obligation is no bargain in my opinion.
I dont know how much I have made sense but then I think many people don't want to hear about the drawbacks to Cyber Romance because they don't want to face the risks they are taking by opening themselves up to strangers.
Dont be disappointed.. Cyberspace is not full of Bad people there are good one's too.. its just that you have to chose the right one..
love comes in all forms, shapes and size but personally I don't believe in net dating but I do think u can fall in love without seeing the person. sometimes u can just feel that they are close to u but yet far even though u have never seen them before. They are alot of frauds on the net today and u shouldn't trust anyone to do such thing unless u have met the person from a friend or family.
YES, one may seek someone. Yet one should take it slow, esp net romance since many things not known. I agree ucan luv someone without seeing them. Yet u should takke it slow. Take it as u would when u go thru matrimonials.
If its a serious relation involve others, let them know too, take as u would a matrimonal match.
on other side:
One has tobecareful many weird people out there and say things. never meet the person alone since u not know who and how they are. Jusybeacuse u have talked etc..if meeting personbe careful..do not disclose too much..etc..
Edited by teenindia_usa - 13 years ago
Topic started by SolidSnake
Last replied by Sunitha.V