Is bhabho behind chavi's lies

i have never seen bhabho as a caring mother for chavi

Nice post. She is responsible for most of the RP lying because they cannot walk up to their mother and talk to her about their problems. In most families if one parent is strict the other is lenient. So the children go to the lenient one with their problems and the lenient one talks to the strict spouse to get the matter sorted out. Here Bhabasa totally gave up monitoring, Bhabo the strict parent was left to handle them. They found solace in no place. So they lied to have their way. Bhabo's bitterness, harshness and crude behavior stems from her difficult past. Her experiences and struggle have made her bitter and harsh. That has had an effect on the children as well. Only one child remained golden hearted in this mess and that is Suraj. Since his shop is close to the house, Bhabo must have influenced him as well. So for Suraj Bhabo has to get credit and equally she has to take the blame for others.Edited by UMDU - 10 years ago

u said right thala.not only for chavi's lie but for mohit's lie and vikram too long before.

in all..bhabo's upbringing is imp,good teachings,showing love to all not partiality-bhabo missed all this.
if bhabo can say lie,then y cant they.like mother like children.she stooped low, so they too.so its bhabo's mistake also by their own.

if bhabo is reason behind suraj's good characters then here also.all person has some good qualities in them but how get they moulded,its in the hands of the parents.




Edited by udnis - 10 years ago

sorry forgot to add vikram and mohit too in this list

We'd a great debate on this matter in the past esp in Uma aunty and Fatima Ammi's created threads!

I firmly believe that after certain age lets say teenage, we're responsible for our actions. We cant blame it to anyone. Many important factors affects to build up person's character like surroundings, kinda people he/she stays in touch, eating habits, environment etc..

I don't think we should completely blame Bhabho's "Parvarish" for their lies. Let's say if anyone becomes a "terrorist" - Is it because her mother taught it the childhood? - No. right?.

In my opinion Bhabho has failed as a mother, a wife and mother-in-law.  Her tyranny has brought nothing but problems for her family.  I would say that Suraj has turned out well inspite of her and not because of her. The woman has no principles. She will stoop to any level to get what she wants and the worst part is her trying to justify it in the name of good for the family. Why should it be Sandhya's responsibility to straighten all that she has made crooked?  I've never seen a more selfish mother who cares two hoots about the wishes of the son whom she claims to love. 


She very well knows that Sandhya's dreams have now become Suraj's dream and yet she does not stop in her efforts to shatter them.  Who is she to decide what is good for him?  He is thirty years old and quite capable of leading his own life without her interference. She talks of Chavi and Meena lying but what about her? She was encouraging Chavi to learn from the leaked question paper.  She tricked Sandhya into eating those liquor chocolates. 



It is more dangerous to be around people like Bhabho who pretends to be righteous and caring but are nothing but control freaks who are unscrupulous than to be around people who are outright bad and have no qualms in showing their true colors because at least in the second case, one knows the deal and stays clear from them.    


If she continues to hide the fact that she is aware of Chavi's and Emily's deeds which had caused Sandhya to lose the two pots it only means that she is not interested to correct them.

Bhabasa may be useless but he has a heart of gold.  He never fails to show her the mirror and even when her conscience troubles her she quickly recovers to blunt it and let her arrogance rule.


I so want her treachery in feeding those liquor chocolates to come to light in front of the whole family. That would dispel everyone's high opinion of her.
Edited by Opti - 10 years ago

It is not solely Bhabho who is responsible for Chavi's lies. Because Chavi's basic nature is like this only.

Originally posted by: -Amlu-

We'd a great debate on this matter in the past esp in Uma aunty and Fatima Ammi's created threads!

I firmly believe that after certain age lets say teenage, we're responsible for our actions. We cant blame it to anyone. Many important factors affects to build up person's character like surroundings, kinda people he/she stays in touch, eating habits, environment etc..

I don't think we should completely blame Bhabho's "Parvarish" for their lies. Let's say if anyone becomes a "terrorist" - Is it because her mother taught it the childhood? - No. right?.

 

Bhabho had to resort to being a disciplinarian when she had 4 little kids in the house perhaps. She has refused to grow up with them and make modifications to her parental behavior. She is in love with the false sense of power she has gained by instilling fear. Her mammoth ego will not let her see the error of her ways. She is still focusing on bringing that one untouchable spirit called Sandhya that is far above her in her every way under her control. In the process, she is headed towards losing everything.