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The Early Stages of Falling in Love
There's nothing quite as exhilarating as the early stages of a romantic relationship. 😳 Just the thought that you may have found your one-and-only can be so thrilling. But, the early stages of falling in love can be as frustrating as they are wonderful. Your new love life may consume your energy, focus, and time to the point where everything else going on in your life may feel like a rude intrusion. You can't stop thinking about your lover. You get up and go to sleep obsessing about the relationship and what your future will look like together.
When you fall in love you are not yourself ; your emotional center of gravity is displaced and you may topple headlong into the hands of fate. To some of you, this reaction to love may seem over board. But, many of you know first-hand how falling in love can turn you into an obsessed, needy, and insecure person for a time. Remember, the saying is not staying balanced in love, it is falling, losing yourself to love.⭐️ So, if you are in the early stages of falling in love right now, and you feel a little crazy,🤪 don't worry, you kind of are. You are under the influence of your hormones that are making you feel, all at once, euphoric, endangered, and exhausted. Let's call these the Three E's of falling in love. The researchers say, it is more than two hearts igniting, when people fall in love. Their hormones ignite as well. The nerve transmitters adrenaline and phenylethylamine (PEA-also present in chocolate) increase when two people are attracted to each other that puts them in emotional overdrive. Additionally, the relaxation, feel good hormone serotonin lowers, causing you to obsess about your lover and consistently reflect back on the romantic times spent with him or her.
Falling in love produces a biological state that is a high similar to being on cocaine.😵 More interestingly, it was discovered that falling in love also alters testosterone levels in men and women. Increased testosterone levels in women during the early stages of romantic love make them more sexual and aggressive. While decreased testosterone levels in men make them more emotional and receptive at this time.😛
First, the euphoria that you feel can disorganize you.😲 You are adding a new relationship to your normal, busy routine. Your normal responsibilities at work and home may fall to the wayside, as you put more energy into solidifying your love relationship. This can make you more anxious than normal. Also, loving asks you to lower your defenses and loosen up your personal boundaries so that you can merge your needs and desires with those of your lover. This process can be threatening and make you feel unsafe.😲 Nonetheless, this is the making of a strong, healthy relationship attachment. It takes time to trust each other and to know that this attachment will not hurt you. No wonder we can feel anxious and unsafe when we first fall in love. There's much to gain and to lose, in the process.👍🏼 The fear you feel is palpable. Many of you may unconsciously create emotional issues and dramas to give voice, and make tangible, the endangerment that you feel. With all of the hormone changes and fears going on inside of you, it is no wonder you may feel exhausted in the early stages of falling in love.
Recommendations:
- Enjoy the high, but don't lose yourself in it. 😛
- Acknowledge you are under the influence of some powerful hormones. 🤪
- Don't lower your defenses, personal boundaries, and expectations to the extent that you are denying what you really desire and need. This never works out well. You want to build an authentic relationship attachment, rather than one based on fantasy alone. 😳
- Accept the process and let love unfold in its natural way.
Psss: Yesterday we saw a crazy Ammu. But it was actually the hormones which are driving her crazy! 😛
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