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Episode Analysis
I
am happy to say I am now all settled in my new apartment, with
internet, so I am totally ready to jump back into action on all fronts
(including my long-abandoned FF, which I am even more inspired to write
after the last few episodes).
There are a few things I just have to get off my chest about he last few episodes. First of all, I am loving this whole journey because the CVs are exploring Yash's emotions from the other direction. Usually we see cause followed by effect in story telling but here we are seeing effect and then (hopefully, someday) cause. I feel like this subversion of logic gives a completely different perspective to the actions and reactions of the characters, especially Yash. To me, it makes it clearer that the effect is not that of a sole cause, but the accumulation of suppressed pain and anguish within Yash. We were all so disappointed in his indifference to his daughters and to his family, but now that we see the kind of pain he had constantly simmering inside him, just waiting for an outlet to burst out of, I am impressed that he managed to keep it together as much as he did. I am sure it was an effort for him every day to keep these wild and uncharted emotions in check and so he didn't have much energy or focus to put on his kids. I am by no means excusing him, but I can honestly say he was doing the best he could, just by keeping this craziness inside of him in check on a daily basis. Can you just imagine?
Secondly, it was wonderful to see the perspective shift to the kids just when I was getting restless about their lack of presence and the lack of attention on them. I like the way the CVs made sure to show that this was no accident and that the kids were being neglected in all of this. Nobody really took the time to explain things to them and so they felt like they had to take things into their own hands. It was hugely refreshing to see Aarti step out of the Yash funk thanks to the money-stealing and wake up to her children's needs. It was reminiscent of Shobha's advice to her on the teej vrat. She can't afford to be stubborn and battle it out with Yash, toe to toe, because someone has to think of the kids and the family for both of them. Yash is going through a rough patch right now and the last thing Aarti should do is slump into his black hole of depression and insanity with him. She needs to hold the fort and be sensible for the kids, even though it is not the easy or appealing wayto her romantic mind. Good lesson, I say!
And finally, I just LOVE the relationship building between Aarti and SP. The latter, of course grows more and more in my esteem every day because he is a consummate leader. All these days I realise that he misinterpreted Aarti's intentions for the family, that is, after the kidnapping. He misinterpreted her initiative as rebellion. This was partly because he had a set idea of what a bahu was capable of in Yash's life and in their family. He pretty much wanted someone who could seduce Yash and have a male heir so that Yash would not be alone in his old age. Before we thought it was chauvinism, and while it is still coloured by that, it is more SP's need to provide everything to his children, for their entire lives. But ever since the Neelam incident, SP has started to see how much more Aarti can do for the family, rather than just being a pretty face, a child bearer or a domestic wife like Gayatri and Vidhi. Like him, she too is a leader.
He has seen amply by now how she tried, not just hard, but intelligently for the family peace. She is not selfish or nearsighted, he knows exactly what is going on with Bua, and has observed that Aarti does not complain, and I think the real clincher for him was Palak's stage fright, and how Aarti dealt with that. Through all this he has seen that she is in this for real, wants the best for the family, and is willing to put her own immediate needs or wishes aside to achieve this in the long run. The reason SP doesn't treat anyone in his family like adults, from his wife to his sons, to his sister, is because they don't act it, where we thought he was purely patriarchal and misogynistic. Now he has an equal in the family, someone with whom he can have adult discussions and come to rational solutions for the best shot at making the family run smoothly and keeping everyone happy. This is what we saw in front of the mandir, where he calmly discussed Aarti's decision with her, heard her side, gave her permission and support, and then, to my delight, repeated it almost ad verbatim to Yash when the latter asked where the kids were. Clearly SP has no issues respecting women when they command it, like Aarti does by this point with her tenacity and her presence of mind, in dealing with difficult situations.
I think Aarti's maturity hit him hard because he seemed just a little bit less tolerant of the family's hemming and hawing and general fidgety-ness at the dinner table towards the end of the episode, and just out and told Yash where the kids were, sparing no details about why. He trusts Aarti because he knows Yash, no frills, unlike Gayatri. And now that he sees the maturity with which Aarti is handling things, I think he finds it hard to be patient with Yash who is acting like a cranky teenager. Granted he is dealing with issues of his own, but the fact of the matter is that he is also part of a family and he needs to remember that, and at the very least.
Finally...AMAN! Yay! I am so happy to have someone fresh and cheerful and proactive 100% on Aarti's side. Yash has enough people kissing his feet and the balance has been thoroughly skewed so far, so bring on the charm and the fun, Aman! The only thing I am scared of is the Scindias questioning Aarti's character for this, because how could they not, being the type of people they are? I hope Aman is like a brother to Aarti and they grew up together or something. In the end I trust the CVs of course, so I will leave them to run the course of the story. But the one most significant thing I noticed about Aman, and Aarti's reaction to him is that he is the first person with whom she didn't force herself to smile or put on a strong front. In every other interaction I have seen of hers, even with Shobha, there is a sense of urgency and of agitation. For the first time with this Aman, I saw her totally relax and just express what she was feeling, despondence and lonely, and she just stood there feeling, waiting for him to read her. There was no frantic explanation to make him understand, no defensive humour, nothing and he just got her. I also really liked that he was unhappy with the idea of her being treated badly. It's about time someone was! Shobha, supportive though she is, has been squarely on team Yash since the day he vouched for Ansh. And Papa Dubey was a little better, but then he had his vested Prashant interests too. Hopefully this Aman is going to join our three little angel-children and spruce Team Aarti up!
_________________ There are a few things I just have to get off my chest about he last few episodes. First of all, I am loving this whole journey because the CVs are exploring Yash's emotions from the other direction. Usually we see cause followed by effect in story telling but here we are seeing effect and then (hopefully, someday) cause. I feel like this subversion of logic gives a completely different perspective to the actions and reactions of the characters, especially Yash. To me, it makes it clearer that the effect is not that of a sole cause, but the accumulation of suppressed pain and anguish within Yash. We were all so disappointed in his indifference to his daughters and to his family, but now that we see the kind of pain he had constantly simmering inside him, just waiting for an outlet to burst out of, I am impressed that he managed to keep it together as much as he did. I am sure it was an effort for him every day to keep these wild and uncharted emotions in check and so he didn't have much energy or focus to put on his kids. I am by no means excusing him, but I can honestly say he was doing the best he could, just by keeping this craziness inside of him in check on a daily basis. Can you just imagine?
Secondly, it was wonderful to see the perspective shift to the kids just when I was getting restless about their lack of presence and the lack of attention on them. I like the way the CVs made sure to show that this was no accident and that the kids were being neglected in all of this. Nobody really took the time to explain things to them and so they felt like they had to take things into their own hands. It was hugely refreshing to see Aarti step out of the Yash funk thanks to the money-stealing and wake up to her children's needs. It was reminiscent of Shobha's advice to her on the teej vrat. She can't afford to be stubborn and battle it out with Yash, toe to toe, because someone has to think of the kids and the family for both of them. Yash is going through a rough patch right now and the last thing Aarti should do is slump into his black hole of depression and insanity with him. She needs to hold the fort and be sensible for the kids, even though it is not the easy or appealing wayto her romantic mind. Good lesson, I say!
And finally, I just LOVE the relationship building between Aarti and SP. The latter, of course grows more and more in my esteem every day because he is a consummate leader. All these days I realise that he misinterpreted Aarti's intentions for the family, that is, after the kidnapping. He misinterpreted her initiative as rebellion. This was partly because he had a set idea of what a bahu was capable of in Yash's life and in their family. He pretty much wanted someone who could seduce Yash and have a male heir so that Yash would not be alone in his old age. Before we thought it was chauvinism, and while it is still coloured by that, it is more SP's need to provide everything to his children, for their entire lives. But ever since the Neelam incident, SP has started to see how much more Aarti can do for the family, rather than just being a pretty face, a child bearer or a domestic wife like Gayatri and Vidhi. Like him, she too is a leader.
He has seen amply by now how she tried, not just hard, but intelligently for the family peace. She is not selfish or nearsighted, he knows exactly what is going on with Bua, and has observed that Aarti does not complain, and I think the real clincher for him was Palak's stage fright, and how Aarti dealt with that. Through all this he has seen that she is in this for real, wants the best for the family, and is willing to put her own immediate needs or wishes aside to achieve this in the long run. The reason SP doesn't treat anyone in his family like adults, from his wife to his sons, to his sister, is because they don't act it, where we thought he was purely patriarchal and misogynistic. Now he has an equal in the family, someone with whom he can have adult discussions and come to rational solutions for the best shot at making the family run smoothly and keeping everyone happy. This is what we saw in front of the mandir, where he calmly discussed Aarti's decision with her, heard her side, gave her permission and support, and then, to my delight, repeated it almost ad verbatim to Yash when the latter asked where the kids were. Clearly SP has no issues respecting women when they command it, like Aarti does by this point with her tenacity and her presence of mind, in dealing with difficult situations.
I think Aarti's maturity hit him hard because he seemed just a little bit less tolerant of the family's hemming and hawing and general fidgety-ness at the dinner table towards the end of the episode, and just out and told Yash where the kids were, sparing no details about why. He trusts Aarti because he knows Yash, no frills, unlike Gayatri. And now that he sees the maturity with which Aarti is handling things, I think he finds it hard to be patient with Yash who is acting like a cranky teenager. Granted he is dealing with issues of his own, but the fact of the matter is that he is also part of a family and he needs to remember that, and at the very least.
Finally...AMAN! Yay! I am so happy to have someone fresh and cheerful and proactive 100% on Aarti's side. Yash has enough people kissing his feet and the balance has been thoroughly skewed so far, so bring on the charm and the fun, Aman! The only thing I am scared of is the Scindias questioning Aarti's character for this, because how could they not, being the type of people they are? I hope Aman is like a brother to Aarti and they grew up together or something. In the end I trust the CVs of course, so I will leave them to run the course of the story. But the one most significant thing I noticed about Aman, and Aarti's reaction to him is that he is the first person with whom she didn't force herself to smile or put on a strong front. In every other interaction I have seen of hers, even with Shobha, there is a sense of urgency and of agitation. For the first time with this Aman, I saw her totally relax and just express what she was feeling, despondence and lonely, and she just stood there feeling, waiting for him to read her. There was no frantic explanation to make him understand, no defensive humour, nothing and he just got her. I also really liked that he was unhappy with the idea of her being treated badly. It's about time someone was! Shobha, supportive though she is, has been squarely on team Yash since the day he vouched for Ansh. And Papa Dubey was a little better, but then he had his vested Prashant interests too. Hopefully this Aman is going to join our three little angel-children and spruce Team Aarti up!
Episode Analysis
I have been wondering about this for a while but why are there no pictures of Ansh in the kids' room? 😕
I hope they address this soon. It would be adorable if Yash put one up
because he missed him so much. After all they share that special bond.
They do still share a special bond, right? His stubborn claim that SP
sent the kids away and SP would have to bring them back, shows that he
is stung he wasn't in on the decision, but I was disappointed that he is
willing to make this issue an ego battle. I mean, if he isn't willing
to set his ego aside to get his kids back, I don't think he is ready to
have them back yet, nor does he deserve to.
Even though the episode was sad and foreboding, I saw many things that showed me hope. Vidhi may be angry, but she is not against Aarti persay, she is just mad at her. The very fact that in the precap she is confronting Aarti and shouting at her shows her how much she loves her and feels betrayed by her. This will make this relationship stronger, I think because Vidhi is really acting like Aarti's older sister here, not just in being her confidante and her friend, but also scolding her when she has done something stupid.
This all comes down to one thing: Aarti's NADAANI. Shobha really hit the nail on the head there with this trait of Aarti's. She is honestly so innocent and like a child in many ways and has know knowledge of worldly nitty gritties. She is kind of like a female Peter Pan, in her own personal Neverland. That is why the way she went about trying to heal Yash was not much different from the way Payal and Ansh did. And that is why she can move on with life relatively easily when it strikes her down. She just doesn't have a cynical bone in her body, but the disadvantage to that is that she sometimes cannot wrap her head around the bitterness in others, and how it can affect the way they look at her. The prime example of this is Bua. She doesn't understand that Bua can be malicious to the kids, out of sheer spite, and always seems to underestimate the low to which Bua can stoop.
Similarly here with Yash, she is seeing it only from her perspective, of complete innocence and sincerity, and not through the lens of bitterness and self-loathing that Yash sees the situation through. This is what makes Aman such a refreshing and positive change in Aarti's life. While she was fragile herself, she was busy trying to rescue Yash and that is what has led to this whole mess. She thought she was in control of her feelings and would channel them only in certain directions to help Yash find his laughter and joy again, but as we saw, she sort of lost control of herself in Mumbai. Like she wrote in her diary, her feelings started washing over her in waves that were too strong for her to harness, which made her want to shout her love from the rooftops. But she had to keep it all in.
And then came Aman. Someone she had known all her life, with whom she shared everything and suddenly here he was just when she was overflowing with new feelings and sensations, not only that of her own feelings but of Yash's happiness, her success, the new way he was looking at her, the fire and how he had saved her over Arpita, We saw how she had distanced herself from other people in the family because they were being too pushy and simply not listening to her, so she must have been feeling awfully lonely having to keep all of that in, so I can just imagine her joy when an unbiased and close confidant just popped up out of nowhere. Being the uninhibited person that she is in the first place, she must have been ecstatic and just let all her feelings rush forth in a burst of relief. Plus, she was in Mumbai, where she was free of her responsibilities as a householder and a DIL so she was probably not very cautious in her interactions.
But seen from Yash's perspective this is totally different. Now, the only thing we don't know is whether Aman and Yash were introduced to each other before Aarti went out with him, not to come back until 3 am. I guess not, from what we saw today. I can see, like how I mentioned yesterday, why Yash would hate himself because he sees what Aarti can have and takes a good look at himself, only to find that he comes up short on all counts. She cheated him, not simply by being with another man, but by making him believe for a moment that he was worthy of love and deserved happiness, and then taking that belief away because she shared her laughter with another.
I also think the rain has a lot to do with the whole thing, and maybe even Lakhan (I still refuse to believe this is just going to be dropped). Yash did use the word "hadsa." What if Lakhan threatened Yash, that he would do something to Aarti, and then Yash couldn't reach her, it was raining and she didn't come home? He would have been frantic. Also, I keep thinking about that flashback he remembers of her playing in the rain, when he told her he didn't like "bachpana." Why does he keep thinking of that day, when this Mumbai incident is brought up? It is something about Aarti's relationship with the rain, and how she is changing his own attitude towards it that is completely unnerving him. Another indicator of the importance of the rain is the poem in the kids room.
Finally, I loved that the truth is finally coming out with the three brothers (thought it is uncanny how similar Pankaj and the psych's treatments of choice are!). They have always sort of been the zone in which Yash is most comfortable, where he is most uninhibited. Though honestly, Pankaj and Prateek should stop whining. Maybe Paridhi would understand how much Prateek loved her if he hadn't LIED to her about working after marriage and then done NOTHING for the progress of that situation. Vidhi might be in the mood to romance Pankaj if he didn't go around calling her an idiot for believing Aarti one minute, and then expecting her to sew on his button romantically the very next. Respect is the best foreplay, Panku! These Scindia men have a lot to learn about how to be good husbands...YEESH!
Aw, SP was a darling when he ignored Maya. There is really no need to doubt Aarti's character, even if she was sitting in a car with another guy. I was glad to see someone on her side, however briefly.
Even though the episode was sad and foreboding, I saw many things that showed me hope. Vidhi may be angry, but she is not against Aarti persay, she is just mad at her. The very fact that in the precap she is confronting Aarti and shouting at her shows her how much she loves her and feels betrayed by her. This will make this relationship stronger, I think because Vidhi is really acting like Aarti's older sister here, not just in being her confidante and her friend, but also scolding her when she has done something stupid.
This all comes down to one thing: Aarti's NADAANI. Shobha really hit the nail on the head there with this trait of Aarti's. She is honestly so innocent and like a child in many ways and has know knowledge of worldly nitty gritties. She is kind of like a female Peter Pan, in her own personal Neverland. That is why the way she went about trying to heal Yash was not much different from the way Payal and Ansh did. And that is why she can move on with life relatively easily when it strikes her down. She just doesn't have a cynical bone in her body, but the disadvantage to that is that she sometimes cannot wrap her head around the bitterness in others, and how it can affect the way they look at her. The prime example of this is Bua. She doesn't understand that Bua can be malicious to the kids, out of sheer spite, and always seems to underestimate the low to which Bua can stoop.
Similarly here with Yash, she is seeing it only from her perspective, of complete innocence and sincerity, and not through the lens of bitterness and self-loathing that Yash sees the situation through. This is what makes Aman such a refreshing and positive change in Aarti's life. While she was fragile herself, she was busy trying to rescue Yash and that is what has led to this whole mess. She thought she was in control of her feelings and would channel them only in certain directions to help Yash find his laughter and joy again, but as we saw, she sort of lost control of herself in Mumbai. Like she wrote in her diary, her feelings started washing over her in waves that were too strong for her to harness, which made her want to shout her love from the rooftops. But she had to keep it all in.
And then came Aman. Someone she had known all her life, with whom she shared everything and suddenly here he was just when she was overflowing with new feelings and sensations, not only that of her own feelings but of Yash's happiness, her success, the new way he was looking at her, the fire and how he had saved her over Arpita, We saw how she had distanced herself from other people in the family because they were being too pushy and simply not listening to her, so she must have been feeling awfully lonely having to keep all of that in, so I can just imagine her joy when an unbiased and close confidant just popped up out of nowhere. Being the uninhibited person that she is in the first place, she must have been ecstatic and just let all her feelings rush forth in a burst of relief. Plus, she was in Mumbai, where she was free of her responsibilities as a householder and a DIL so she was probably not very cautious in her interactions.
But seen from Yash's perspective this is totally different. Now, the only thing we don't know is whether Aman and Yash were introduced to each other before Aarti went out with him, not to come back until 3 am. I guess not, from what we saw today. I can see, like how I mentioned yesterday, why Yash would hate himself because he sees what Aarti can have and takes a good look at himself, only to find that he comes up short on all counts. She cheated him, not simply by being with another man, but by making him believe for a moment that he was worthy of love and deserved happiness, and then taking that belief away because she shared her laughter with another.
I also think the rain has a lot to do with the whole thing, and maybe even Lakhan (I still refuse to believe this is just going to be dropped). Yash did use the word "hadsa." What if Lakhan threatened Yash, that he would do something to Aarti, and then Yash couldn't reach her, it was raining and she didn't come home? He would have been frantic. Also, I keep thinking about that flashback he remembers of her playing in the rain, when he told her he didn't like "bachpana." Why does he keep thinking of that day, when this Mumbai incident is brought up? It is something about Aarti's relationship with the rain, and how she is changing his own attitude towards it that is completely unnerving him. Another indicator of the importance of the rain is the poem in the kids room.
Finally, I loved that the truth is finally coming out with the three brothers (thought it is uncanny how similar Pankaj and the psych's treatments of choice are!). They have always sort of been the zone in which Yash is most comfortable, where he is most uninhibited. Though honestly, Pankaj and Prateek should stop whining. Maybe Paridhi would understand how much Prateek loved her if he hadn't LIED to her about working after marriage and then done NOTHING for the progress of that situation. Vidhi might be in the mood to romance Pankaj if he didn't go around calling her an idiot for believing Aarti one minute, and then expecting her to sew on his button romantically the very next. Respect is the best foreplay, Panku! These Scindia men have a lot to learn about how to be good husbands...YEESH!
Aw, SP was a darling when he ignored Maya. There is really no need to doubt Aarti's character, even if she was sitting in a car with another guy. I was glad to see someone on her side, however briefly.
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