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Here are the poems said in the promos which I transcribed, beautiful shayari!
Teri yaadein, teri baatein ab bhi maujood hain yahi,
Tera sab kuch hain mere paas, bas ek tu hi nahin
Beete hue lamhe chute mujhse
Sapne saare roothe mujhse
Tu nahin, teri kami hi sahi
Naa koi aaya hain, na koi aayega kabhi
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The moral I took away from today's episode was that sometimes men (or people really, because let's not to sexist) need to be hit over the head with things before they understand that what they are doing is wrong. Yash is so used to everyone working around his idiosyncrasies that he is too confused even to be shocked when Aarti challenges his decision and the importance of his business call. It is only when they threaten to leave, that Yash realises the importance and value of those who are close to him right here and now.
Away from the pressures of the household, the pallu and the kitchen (politics), Aarti is free to let the youthful girl just under the surface come out to play. I also noted that she was not wearing the kangn in today's episode, perhaps because it denotes her status as bahu and nothing else, she felt free not to be burdened by Arpita's legacy any more than she had to. She becomes one of the children with her new avataar and so feels up to demanding Yash's time the same way that Ansh might, without any consideration for his pain or his past, just because he is here, now, he is a father and a husband and that gives him certain responsibilities. I just love how Aarti and the children played off each other in this scene, as though she was giving them a voice and they were giving her a reason to speak. This is exactly what I wanted to see in a more assertive Aarti and I thoroughly enjoyed it. I also enjoyed how her unencumbered situation allowed her to be more humourous about Yash and his anger, not taking it to heart and finally getting him to surrender to her, acknowledging that she knew what was right for the family.
In this scene, Yash allowed for Aarti to become the leader of their family in this phase of their life and promised to follow her directions, because he trusted her to see his faults where he himself was blind. Yash is a man who wants to improve, who wants to do right by his kids and even Aarti, but he does not know how. Today he acknowledged that Aarti can teach him and in giving her his phone, he became an involved and eager member of the family of five, under Aarti's watchful care. I just loved the dialouge when he stopped her physically and said, "you are not going anywhere, the kids are not going anywhere, nobody is going anywhere!" That to me was his declaration or commitment, that he would not fall into his usual tropes of escapism, like business calls. It was also a huge jump from the man who did not want to come to Mumbai in the first place, because now he is ready to stand and fight.
It was interesting that the Arpita pictures were constantly in focus for the audience and to me it juxtaposed the audience's attention on Arpita with Yash and Aarti's complete oblivion of her ever-looming presence. They were so involved in the moment, their moments, that Arpita's pictures became just that, pictures on the wall, rather than a living being present in the room between Yash and Aarti. It was also significant that when Aarti first approached Yash, Arpita's picture was looking right at them and was placed between them. On the other hand, when Yash grabbed Aarti's arm and eventually surrendered her phone, the Arpita in focus had her eyes downcast. In addition, the second one was side by side with Aarti, in clear view of Yash, meaning he had a choice. At that moment he chose Aarti.
At first I didn't understand why Aarti wasn't playing football herself, but then I guess I appreciate that she didn't foist herself on Yash at all times. She was content to fade into the background and just enjoy the fun, while he let go with the kids...and what happened? He came to her, and soon enough the whole family was revolving around her. She is the nucleus of this little family, but it is only with Yash's acknowledgment that she can take up this role in the truest sense.
And now to the pottery scene. SIGH. I just love how they brought this about, where Yash was playing with his children and suddenly, motion, abandonment and energy met stagnation and neglect. I kept wondering all weekend how these objects were related to Arpita, and the CVs totally took me by surprise with their profound and interesting connection with Yash! Now I understand his expression both on Friday and today. Here was his favourite hobby, that had given him hours of pleasure and peace, beckoning him and yet he probably felt guilt to pursue it. It is also like some strange logic of self punishment, where because he can't derive pleasure from being with Arpita any more, he can't derive pleasure from anything he used to do that gave him pleasure. Because he can't recreate his memories with Arpita, he can't recreate his pots. He probably feels the injustice as well, the contrast of what he is and what he used to be, and his abandonment of his friend the faithful wheel. Here Aarti enters to help him transform that guilt into healing and understand that the only way to do justice to his skill is to create, just like the only way to do justice to his capacity to love, is to actually love the ones who are here, create new love, rather than miss the love that is gone.
I think what I loved most about the Aarti and Yash exchange was the fact that Arpita's name did nothing for him. In fact, it made him more determined, from what I could see not to go near that wheel. It was when Aarti said that the kids...and her get happiness from seeing him happy that he took her to that wheel and rediscovered his love. Aarti can't speak for Arpita without irritating Yash, but she can speak for herself and the kids, and it works because Yash genuinely wants to make them happy and he is slowly starting to understand that even one unhappy member can tip the balance of an entire family.
By making him take to the wheel again, Aarti mirrors what Yash did for her when she worked with him. He helped her discover the person she was before Prashant and his abandonment defined her, and as a result she was able to understand and realise her feelings for him, get through to Palak, by exposing her own similar vulnerability and its conquest and win the unconditional trust of her ILs. He made a huge difference in her life by telling her that she was talented, creative and intelligent. Since Yash is a man who understands actions more than words, Aarti didn't dwell on telling him how great he was, but coaxed him into actually making that pot, proving his sustained ability even after Arpita. Here is something he did perfectly without her. Yash was so affected by Arpita's death that he believed nothing could be the same. Aarti is showing him that he can be the same person, though obviously a little wiser and sadder in his soul, and there is no shame in that.
The last scene was fantastic! Their growing camaraderie and the fun they had together was so organic, unplanned and beautiful. They were two souls, lost in their own little world, with bubbles wafting in. I would like to believe that it was the kids who were blowing them, just to make their presence felt in the scene. Yash's slight smile of satisfaction as he worked was a sight indeed. But I think my favourite part was how Aarti kept hurrying to do things and Yash kept steadying her as they went along. If you saw, when she first put her hand on the wheels she was moving them all over the place with a completely crazy fun expression on her face, and he placed his hands over hers and steadied them, just as he steadied her hair before that...but probably had the opposite effect on her heart.
The Aarti-Yash relationship is like that pot right now. It is smaller than the ones Yash has created before, it is still wet and vulnerable but Aarti and Yash made it together, and they are holding it together in both their hands. It was almost a pact when they held that pot, to safeguard their vulnerable and nascent relationship until it dried and hardened and was fired in the kiln. It also goes back to the elemental symbolism because pottery involves all of them...from earth and water for the clay, to wind for it to dry to fire for it to be made hard and durable against all the elements! What a beautiful, symbolic hobby they chose for Yash.
I end by saying...sorry I didn't talk about anything but AarYa. 😆 But I can't help it. Gayatri said it right. The rain which has only brought Yash pain for years now, this year, may it bring happiness, peace...and maybe even a hint of love?
but today for the first time in the show Yash wears such a bright colourful printed blue t-shirt and jeans which I believe indicated the fact that slowly colors and brightness is returning back in his present life courtesy his present wife Aarti 😳😳
..it was a loop closure since last time while playing with water in the garden ,Aarti was hiding behind Yash so that Ansh cannot put water and this time Yash hiding behind Aarti 
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