Romantic Love lessons from Bade Achche Lagte Hai
By Vidhi Agrawal
At an age when most of the Indian men and women prepare for their mid-life crisis, Ram and Priya of Bade Achche Lagte Hai experience the magic of falling in love. On the one hand, the serial is breaking all the stereotypes related to love, romance and marriage. On the other, it is reinforcing the importance of trust and companionship in a marital relationship.
Opposites attract, yes. It's fun to fight like Tom and Jerry, certainly. Here's a list of lessons in love that we can learn from this mature love story:
Love is magical, fairy tale like
People tell us how Bollywood kind love stories do not happen in real life. The Mills and Boons romances only raise our expectations and leave us dismal when expectations are not met. But, Ram and Priya's story re-instills our faith in the magic of love. Theirs was a perfect marriage of compromise: A middle class Girl, past her marriageable age marrying a middle aged overweight guy.
Both did eventually find true love, the mind boggling and earth shattering kind, the kind of love that sweeps you off the ground and transforms you completely, for better or for worse.
Looks don't matter when you're in love
Priya loves an overweight Ram and not at all for his 2,000 crore. Ram loves Priya, who's a plain, simple girl with high ideals in life. She's not a drop-dead gorgeous beauty with whom men fall in love at first sight. They love each other for what they are and they stand for and that's what really matters.
Trust is the foundation of love
You need to trust the person you love, no matter what people say. Pay heed to rumors and the love goes for a toss. Every relationship has its shares of trials and tribulations. The key is to stand up for each other and face the music.
'making me smile and no one else could
A successful marriage depends on the little gestures of love, done consciously or unconsciously. Whether it's about cooking your spouse's favorite food or fulfilling her most childlike wishes, these acts of love make us feel truly blessed. Love is not about buying expensive gifts but about expressing it in the most delightful ways.
It's like by that age you have seen all your relatives and friends in relationships and exactly know where they are wrong and where right and so you value it all the more and try to make it right.
Theirs is a marriage that truly epitomizes the wedding vows, 'for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, till death do us apart'
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