Originally posted by: return_to_hades
Perceptions on Jai seemed to be formed based on FB. As far as I know his public behavior has never been abrasive. I refuse to accept any personal assessment based on FB statuses.
- Their authenticity is unreliable
- Even if authentic they are not fully managed by the person
- There is greying of the lines between professional and personal interaction
- It does not reflect inflection and emotion
Celebrity social networking are meant to follow a celebrity as in fact updates, appearances, whats going on, not for interpersonal assessments. Forget celebrities, I'd be upset if people gauged me as a person based on FB updates and sporadic interactions.
But that is fine, social networking is a double edged sword and when someone chooses to be out there, they are fair game for such assessment.
Either way, no matter what this assessment is based on - both honesty and humility are equally important factors in being a good human. Some people choose to be humble, some people choose to be honest.
There is nothing wrong in being honest, there is nothing wrong in expressing undiluted opinions as long as it is respectful, sincere, and downright honest. To give an example Maks in DWTS is extremely outspoken - he does not hold back from arguing with judges, nor does he mince his words if he feels a contestant is undeserving. He accepted his elimination sportingly but very brazenly expressed that Bristol Palin did not deserve to get as far as she did. Some people hate Maks for him being so outspoken. However, a lot of people including the judges and fellow choregraphers do respect him because he is a great choreographer, knows his stuff and is brutally honest.
However, if you genuinely want the epitome of cocky, disrespectful and rude then look at Marcel in Top Chef. Marcel accepted his elimination gracefully and never called anyone undeserving etc. But it was clearly evident in how he treated people that he was full of himself and actually considered himself superior even if he did not say it in words.
Sometimes criticism and disagreeing is a form of honesty and respect, being dishonest and disrespectful can be done through saying nothing but undermining in other ways. I personally find saccharine coated humility to be over the top and disrespectful to honest assessment of talent.
Finally, I understand that perhaps to some people Jai Kumar Nair does actually appear to be a rude, disrespectful, full of himself, cocky person who is a terrible human being and a sore loser. None of that, absolutely none of that undermines talent and accomplishments. Credit has to be given when it is due, and Jai Kumar Nair has worked hard to be where he is, he is immensely talented, he has accomplished things very few people can and more opportunities are going his way. Why should his accomplishments be undermined simply because he has other flaws or is disagreeable to some. Bottom line is merit and accomplishment.
Unless of course being a good human being, sportsmanship and other such virtues are supposed to be practiced on a pick and choose basis. Its purely arbitrary who should be commended and appreciated and who should not. You pick and choose who you like and praise their success, and undermine all others. After all being a good human being and sportsmanship teach us the tit for tat system. Sportsmanship means if you find someone to be a prick, thats good enough reason to be a prick back at them and undermine everything they do. After all good humans make sure we point out the bad humans and put them down all the time.
ummmm so you think ridiculing Jai for his cocky behavior is wrong.....ummmm what are your thoughts when people ridicule Geeta Ma for her perceived behavior? Geeta has proved hereself way more then Jai has....she has had a full career in the industry, Jai still has to get his foot in the door let alone having had a career........If undermining Jai's efforts doesn't reflect well on people who are doing it then what does undermining Geeta's career and achievements reflect on people who are doing it?
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