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Sid didn't mince words today. And you know what? Good for him. It is about time the people around Armaan took off their kid gloves and gave him a hit of reality. Sid has held his tongue for as long as he could. He tried every other method to try and get Armaan to see that the future was still there for him he only had to open his eyes and reach for it. But the tears he saw Ridz shedding the night before the tears and anguish he saw in Shilpa broke his vow of silence. He would no longer stand in silence and watch people he loved get hurt by the lashing words of Armaan. If you watched the episode then it was abundantly clear that Sid did not speak these harsh words out of distaste or anger, but out of love. He cares about Armaan.As he repeated countless times he doesn't want Armaan's happiness for Ridz's sake, but for all their sakes. See Sid has always seen Armaan as a good friend, and not so long ago he even gave Armaan the honorary title of Big Bro. Thus, Sid wants only Armaan to be happy. Oh sure he didn't bother to hide the fact that with each of his actions Armaan wasn't just impacting his own life, but the lives of everyone around him. That Armaan has become a selfish angry man that no longer resembles the man that had once sacrificed it all so that his love could a live a life without burden as he lost his health. Or the selfless man that did everything he could to keep his ex's marriage from falling apart. Sid and Armaan both know that the man standing with them is a bitter shell of the man he is supposed to be. Although I know the words hurt Armaan, I personally think they were needed at this point. The kid gloves simply weren't working. Armaan needs to be thrown back into the evolving world again, he needs to be dragged out of the dark cave he has taken refuge in and face the world. As Sid said, only Armaan has the power to determine what he wants his future to be. And until Armaan makes that decision there is nothing anyone can do. But Sid also wanred Armaan off, that he would no longer stand by silently and watch Armaan hurt Ridz and even Shilpa. That Armaan is free to throw his life away and continue to wither away in the black and white world of yesterday. But he is not, absolutely not, allowed to try and guilt and hurt those around him anymore. Sid won't stand for it.
Can I just say that I think Siddhant Modi is one hell of a guy. This man continues to show kindness and compassion towards a man he has every right to avoid and ban from seeing his wife. And yet instead of doing that he wants to help this man move forward so that, "They can celebrate life and happiness together". Sometimes when I sit back and think about Siddhant Modi and the character he has been made into it makes me wonder if people like him do exist. If there are people out there willing to put their lives on hold so that those around them are able to ease into the reality they have all been forced to accept. A man that is willing to stand silently by his wife and hold her hand when she reaches for it, and let it go when she releases it. Who drops everything so that he can come running to help his wife with her new side project, her ex. Who stands by silently and watches her tear herself into pieces over her past and not demand that she move forward, not demand that she forget about the other man. Then the CVs go and grant me my wish. They finally make the kind sensitive man that seems almost too good to be true become real again. He finally breaks and spills all he has been holding in. He finally will tell his wife that he is sick of hearing about her ex in every moment they spend together. How he wishes that in some of those breaths his name comes first. How even after all this time all that his wife is concerned about is Armaan, and not about the fact that her husband has been feeling neglected and has been supportive. Silently hoping that at least some of the time he is the one she shows concern about. That he is the one on her mind. You know what I am glad Sid will let Ridz know the hurt she has been unknowingly been causing him by becoming consumed with the need to help heal her ex. This is something I like about this couple. Sure they sit by silently and suffer, but when it gets to be too much they crack like little porcelain dolls and spill all that they have been holding back. These two can't keep their feelings from each other for too long, it all comes out eventually.
As for Ridz. Who would have thought Ridz would have spoken the truth for once out loud. She admitted to the one person who she disliked the most the truth about loving a dreamer. "The highs of his love will be the highest high you will ever feel. But the path towards his love will also be filled with lots of pain and tears." (If you need more clarification on this refer to my post about realists and dreamers) I think today Ridz got to see a part of the real Shilpa. Today was the first time Ridz saw Shilpa acting human, adult like, by crying tears of anguish alone. And no matter how much Ridz dislikes Shilpa she couldn't stop herself from going towards the woman and offering her words of comfort. For Ridz knows best the pain that comes with loving Armaan as she has been through it countless times. I would just like to point out that today when Ridz uttered the words about the path of tears a woman has to travel to find love with Armaan she seemed relieved that she wasn't the one crying those tears. I have maintained from the beginning the Ridz willing to tear herself into pieces to fight for Armaan has been gone for a long time. And once again we got to see how she was quite all right in knowing that Armaan needed to move on. In fact she was so okay with it that she gave Shilpa the go ahead.
As for the kangan I don't really think the way Ridz reacted was too out of line. I mean she had clearly just warned a woman she dislikes that if she continues toward the path of trying to find happiness with Armaan that inevitably there will be pain, and that she just wants her to have her eyes wide open as to what she is walking into. This in itself was a big gesture by Ridz. She indirectly gave permission to Shilpa to pursue Armaan, if she had the strength to. And then as she turned to leave she glanced back and there sat the kangan. And what would any woman do upon seeing something that was theirs? Claim it as such out loud. It doesn't matter that what it once symbolized no longer holds true because when you find something that was yours you still say, "Oh that's mine." Now I believe that as Ridz held that kangan and slowly walked out she was thinking of the good times they represented. She wasn't shedding tears of anguish nor was she heartbroken at what would never be. To me it seemed as though she was smiling at piece of her past. A memory that she holds near and dear to her heart, for it is a part of who she is. But it no longer represents who she has become. Just think of the look on her face when she was waiting for Sid to get the ghar pravesh stuff and she glanced down at the ring he had given her. That was the look of a woman lost in memories of her present and future. That was a woman who was excited to embark on the future that ring represented. Now think about today's kangan scene. The look on her face is one of a woman reflecting back on old memories, like when one looks at old yearbooks.
So I leave with this...Sid once again played the realist and
tried to help his good friend see the pain he was not only causing himself but those
that cared for him as well. Ridz
once again proved that Armaan and her will never be and she doesn't regret it,
she only hopes that if Shilpa is the one that decides to pursue Armaan that she
has her eyes wide open and knows that the path to his heart won't be easy so that
neither of them get hurt in the end.
As for Mr. and Mrs. Modi I can't wait for tomorrow. It is about time this married couple
finally speak to each other instead of silent thoughts. I am glad Sid will get off his chest all the hurt he has
been harboring by playing second fiddle to the ex, and that Ridz gets to hear
and see the pain she has been unknowingly causing her husband. Sid doesn't want Ridz to stop caring
for Armaan and he certainly doesn't want her to abandon her project to help him
become his old self. He only wants
her to spare a few of those moments and spend them with him and him alone. He wants some quality time with his
wife where they talk about each other to each other. As for Ridz she needs to realize the cost her obsession
with playing Armaan mender is causing her marriage. She needs to be pulled back into reality and be reminded
that the relationship she shares with Sid is new and vulnerable and needs to be
nourished as much, if not more, than any other relationship in her life.
-Arp
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