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There was a time when commitment was a virtue, something to be admired, a trait that earned the respect of those around you.
I am really appalled at how easily so many members on this forum are jumping up and down for SR to divorce. And no, I am not an SR fan.
A lot of folks here are saying that Riddhima should choose Armaan because she has feelings for him. How can she ignore her heart? Because none of us has ever had a change of heart, right? And if I recall correctly, one member even said that "Feelings are all that matters!"
BUTTT feelings change...like everything else in life. Change is the only constant thing in life. Change is a law of nature. Nothing escapes change, not even time itself.
And THAT is the reason why marriage is called a commitment. Because a commitment is based not on feelings (which are fleeting, restless, and ever changing) but instead, it's an agreement, a pledge, a promise to fulfill a certain goal, to achieve a desired result, to turn a dream into a reality.
Imagine if marriages were based on feelings alone? Everyone on the planet would be divorced! It is not humanly possible to feel love for your spouse every single second of every single day. There are times when you will be so pissed off you'll want to murder the person you're married to! And I'm sure those on this forum that are married can attest to this. The younger members have a very fairytale, Bollywoodish, and unrealistic understanding of love and marriage. In marriages, you have good times and bad times, but it is your commitment, your belief in the institution, your promise to the person, to knowing that what you have build together is priceless, sacred, and worth all the trials and tribulations that time may put you through that motivates you to move forward when you'd rather quit and walk away.
And I am NOT saying that Riddhima should stay in a marriage just for the sake of the institution. But I'm sure everyone who has been watching DMG saw the phone conversation between Naina and Riddhima where she says "I may just end up falling in love with Sid." And before Armaan comes back, Riddhima seems happy with the decision she has made to give Sid a chance, to give her married life a chance.
Someone on this forum very aptly said that whether 1910 or 2010, values are values. I understand that everyone has different values but tell me ladies, would you go for a guy who based his decision on his feelings or someone who followed through with their commitments? What's the guarantee someone who does only what they feel like will stick around, will not cheat when they see someone attractive? A commitment means believing in a higher purpose and being determined to fulfill that purpose.
What exactly, as fans of this show, are we advocating for the sake of seeing certain couples together? Yes, it's JUST a show. But (as a psychology student) beliefs are formed by repetitions, not logic! This is the reason why a young mind repeatedly shown an advertisement about how cool Nike shoes are will want a pair!
I truly wonder, what kind of a message this show is sending to young, impressionable minds about the meaning of love, commitment, and marriage. I hope the CV's know what they are doing. If they are going to break a marriage, please do it for the right reasons!
Sometimes, the things we hold on to as if our life depended on them are the very things we need to let go of to begin life again. And sometimes we have to let go of something good, to find something great.
Love,
Cookies
P.S. I've been a silent reader for eons but just felt compelled today. I'd really love to hear everyone's honest opinion. This post is NOT meant to bash AR fans or SR fans or the characters or actors. It's just a post on commitment, its meaning, and value.
P.P.S. Please pleaseee ladies and gentlemen, no bashing. Or as little as possible 😆
I am really appalled at how easily so many members on this forum are jumping up and down for SR to divorce. And no, I am not an SR fan.
A lot of folks here are saying that Riddhima should choose Armaan because she has feelings for him. How can she ignore her heart? Because none of us has ever had a change of heart, right? And if I recall correctly, one member even said that "Feelings are all that matters!"
BUTTT feelings change...like everything else in life. Change is the only constant thing in life. Change is a law of nature. Nothing escapes change, not even time itself.
And THAT is the reason why marriage is called a commitment. Because a commitment is based not on feelings (which are fleeting, restless, and ever changing) but instead, it's an agreement, a pledge, a promise to fulfill a certain goal, to achieve a desired result, to turn a dream into a reality.
Imagine if marriages were based on feelings alone? Everyone on the planet would be divorced! It is not humanly possible to feel love for your spouse every single second of every single day. There are times when you will be so pissed off you'll want to murder the person you're married to! And I'm sure those on this forum that are married can attest to this. The younger members have a very fairytale, Bollywoodish, and unrealistic understanding of love and marriage. In marriages, you have good times and bad times, but it is your commitment, your belief in the institution, your promise to the person, to knowing that what you have build together is priceless, sacred, and worth all the trials and tribulations that time may put you through that motivates you to move forward when you'd rather quit and walk away.
And I am NOT saying that Riddhima should stay in a marriage just for the sake of the institution. But I'm sure everyone who has been watching DMG saw the phone conversation between Naina and Riddhima where she says "I may just end up falling in love with Sid." And before Armaan comes back, Riddhima seems happy with the decision she has made to give Sid a chance, to give her married life a chance.
Someone on this forum very aptly said that whether 1910 or 2010, values are values. I understand that everyone has different values but tell me ladies, would you go for a guy who based his decision on his feelings or someone who followed through with their commitments? What's the guarantee someone who does only what they feel like will stick around, will not cheat when they see someone attractive? A commitment means believing in a higher purpose and being determined to fulfill that purpose.
What exactly, as fans of this show, are we advocating for the sake of seeing certain couples together? Yes, it's JUST a show. But (as a psychology student) beliefs are formed by repetitions, not logic! This is the reason why a young mind repeatedly shown an advertisement about how cool Nike shoes are will want a pair!
I truly wonder, what kind of a message this show is sending to young, impressionable minds about the meaning of love, commitment, and marriage. I hope the CV's know what they are doing. If they are going to break a marriage, please do it for the right reasons!
Sometimes, the things we hold on to as if our life depended on them are the very things we need to let go of to begin life again. And sometimes we have to let go of something good, to find something great.
Love,
Cookies
P.S. I've been a silent reader for eons but just felt compelled today. I'd really love to hear everyone's honest opinion. This post is NOT meant to bash AR fans or SR fans or the characters or actors. It's just a post on commitment, its meaning, and value.
P.P.S. Please pleaseee ladies and gentlemen, no bashing. Or as little as possible 😆
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