If a Marriage is Not a Big Deal!!

After ridhhima signed the divorce papers today a thought struck my head n wanted it to share it with you guys n also wanted your opinion on it (even AR fans are welcome)

We've argued enough bout this thing - how the SR fans want ridhhima to stay wit sid n their marriage is a big reason for it n how AR fans want her to divorce him n run back to armaan! I dont want to get into the discussion of whether SR's marriage is a burden or not (coz frankly today's episode really cleared tht one out for me..n for those who still have a doubt, please read Neha's post "The shackles still remain")

Wat i wanna ask is if being in a marriage is really no big deal n you can walk out of it anytime you want then why do ppl say "oh my god marriage..thts a big step"..why ppl think 1000 times before entering it?

Like u say love should be the basis of marriage n nothing else..i agree with tht partially..but then i see so many couples around who really are genuinely in love but havent gotten married yet coz they say its a big step...n tht led me to believe tht thr r other things tht r bigger than love which are required for a marriage..Companionship, Trust, Respect and a Mutual understanding...u see coz marriage is a different ball game...living with a person 24/7 changes things..when in love, sab acha lagta hai..even ur partner's weaknesses u tend to overlook but in a marriage it doesnt work like tht...

Maybe thts y so many love marriages fail - coz in arranged marriages you learn to live with the weaknesses of your partner, u accept them unconditionally but in love marriage u feel bass i ve had enough..kab tak aisa chalega!

And now comes the biggest word tht i believe makes a marriage so much bigger than love - COMMITMENT! wen u marry someone, you are committed for life n thts y it becomes so difficult to break it...'til death do us part

So wen ridhhima signed the papers today, i cud feel y it was tearing her apart..coz in her relationship..all the things tht i said are imp for marriage apart from love were present n the biggest thing was her commitment to sid..she just cudnt walk out on it..perhaps love took a backseat this time around...perhaps love sometimes does take a backseat..

wanna end on this marriage vow:
to have and to hold from this day forward, for better for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, 'til death do us part