Celina plays an Agony Aunt

Dear Celina,
My boyfriend and I have been together for two years now, we plan to get married when I graduate from college. Presently, we are in a long distance relationship. The phone is our only way of communication and I feel that we should talk to each other as much as we can. But he never wants to tell me his feelings over the phone. He always suggests that we should talk about it when we see each other. I know he loves me but I feel that we should communicate more. Am I getting hyper?
—Shraddha

Dear Shraddha,
No you are completely right and I acknowledge the fact that you need to communicate more often in a long distance relationship. Trying meeting up at weekends. Get net savvy so that you can either chat or send each other e-mails every day. The next time you meet him have a word with him about your concerns and apprehensions. But please put across your words in a sensible way so that he can understand the situation.

Dear Celina,
I have been seeing this guy for about two months. We talk everyday on the phone or chat on the Internet. I am at the college hostel so I can't physically be with him. Anyway, for the past couple of days he hasn't called or smsed me. It's driving me nuts, because I just keep waiting for him to respond. He did this before, a few weeks ago and had told me that he went on vacation with his family for a couple of days. This time I know he is not away anywhere. I've begun to wonder if maybe he is seeing someone else. I don't know what other reasons could there be?
—Neetu

Dear Neetu,
It's clear that he doesn't feel responsible towards you. At least his strange bouts of silence or should I call it detachment reveals it. But I feel you should give some more time, talk it out with him for your personal satisfaction and then come to a conclusion. If you think that the guy is not worthy enough to make any emotional investment, call it off and move on.

Dear Celina,
I am 25-year-old virgin. Never been kissed and never had any girlfriend. I have low self-confidence since I used to get bullied in school all the time. Recently, I watched The 40 Year Old Virgin and felt uncomfortable while viewing it. I don't want to be a 40-year-old virgin. I guess you could say I need help. How do I start?
—Prem

Dear Prem,
You don't need to get stressed out over the issue. Start meeting girls, go out with them for coffee or a evening stroll. Gradually, you will meet a new set of people and get a taste of their likes as well as dislikes regarding music, books, careers or simply food. Eventually, you will gang up with like-mined individuals and start doing things together. You will share a stronger bond and things will naturally work out for you.

Dear Celina,
I am 18 and have never had a girlfriend and never even kissed a girl. Do you think it would be good to pull a random girl in a club to boost my confidence? I always thought that my first kiss would be special. What do you suggest?
—Rajesh

Dear Rajesh,
Let's admit that you are young, immature and driven by your hormones. You should meet women to make friends with them and not only to satisfy your sexual urges. Concentrate on your studies rather than on such issues. No matter how hard you try you might just have someone special in your life.