Originally posted by: anita87
It depends on the person, if her attitude towards those insult was dismissive then she would learn to ignore it. If she really did have a healthy self-esteem then she could have understood that these guys have some problems unrelated to her that result in such maltreatment. If she doesn't reflect on these insults and accept them as truth then it is her fault. But i guess she was being treated badly when her mother was around as well.
There shouldn't be any space for enjoyment for Jhanak at the moment because according to her speech she has a life's purpose. She should be focused on fulfilling that and cultivate the qualities required for that.
A girl thinks to the point she becomes sick when the time comes to decide her groom. She is so impulsive while showing no signs of mental efforts when Ani has raised suspicion on the groom her mousi will decide. Why not just talk with Ani and leave the house with the money you have. I am not saying that Ani would accept that but atleast talk instead of saying that he has no rights. But I guess she doesn't trust Ani when so much that you have said about him is right.
I read both your and Paulaji's post. And I agree with Paula ji here. Yeah, she is impulsive. But there is a long history behind that.
Jhanak is 21. She is naive. Hell, I was naive at 21. Indian society never really lets us grow much until we get jobs. True that she looked like she had healthy self-esteem and talked back. Even when she was in Kashmir, she was mistreated but could bear it because there was an aim for her. To get a job to help her mother have a better life. Her mother was the reason for her efforts. Now she is not there. Who will she do all this for? No one. She has no one. Like Paula ji said, she has no one to shield her from the repeated insults and humiliation not only she but her dead mother receives from the Basus on a daily basis. Ani is not always there and even if he is, he either lies to wash it off his hands to maintain the status quo or does fight which just makes the others bully her behind his back.
As for Bold, along with the reason I said above. It's easy for anyone to tell her to grow up and be better. But I am sure if you or me or Paulaji or anyone were in her shoes we would probably react the same way. She just got back from the hospital and the Basus started bombarding her with questions, and manipulations on the go even before she entered the house properly. Are we right to think she has the mental capacity to give a sharp and witty refusal? I don't think so.
She is impulsive by nature, hence Ani's comments about her being naive and needing someone to guide her. As for her trusting Ani enough to talk to her, his actions are confusing, she can see he is lying and manipulating people around him; especially the one he supposedly loves: Arshi. I don't think it's in her nature to trust someone who lies and manipulates the person they claim to love. Also, if you go back to the date episode she does mention and has gripes about his help, she says something along the lines of " Whenever it's your turn to help me, you leave me to suffer the consequences alone" which is true. Ani is a very capable person within the family, everyone listens to him to a certain extent. But as Paula ji said, he never once was proactive about the situation. Even this Holi Kaand, he remembered what he did with Jhanak, but never once decided to proactively make sure she was okay. Instead, this entire 3 epi spiel was his reaction to finding her unconscious in part due to his negligence in checking on her. Her first suicide attempt was also a result of his actions only and he was reactive there at best. If he was proactive and only wanted her to be successful, he should have ideally removed her from his home and kept her incognito. But no, because his emotions got mixed in, he wanted to keep her beside him, to have a way open to access her at any time possible. He was smart with his words and convinced his family to do things for that purpose, so he was capable of accomplishing what I said above. He just decided not to because he was selfish.
I agree with Paula ji that I think for Jhanak the marriage is a way out because at this point, she probably knows she is not safe in this house. There is also a war within her, part of her finds it hard to live without her mother while the other half wants to succeed in life. In both of these cases, being in Basu Badi is detrimental to her, so maybe that's why she decided to leave by any means possible.
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