Originally posted by: Tani91
continuing the discussion from the other post!
Thanks for the information did not know that! All that just doesn’t make me respect him then. He went though the ends of the earth to get her back and didn’t even trust that she was pure? Toh phir faida kya hua? Then the people who question his worthiness as a god are right then. If he’s God (or avatar of God) then he should stand up for right and justice which is what he’s known for, this just leaves a sour taste for me. Sorry but as a woman this irks me a lot that despite all that she still had to prove herself. And him taking the role of a king more serious of a husband and father? That’s what it doesn’t sit right with me, he performed his duty as a son so well but failed as a husband then in my eyes.
See no one can Deny that he didn't behave well as a husband there. Forget you and me, even Valmiki ji himself mentioned that kind of words Ramji was totally unpleasant and Seetaji didn't deserve to hear those. So it's not that Ramji wasn't criticized for this
But we must understand that things are never binary, it's not always good vs bad. Ramji clearly knew that he was a man of high rank and would always be in view of public. He couldn't have let scar on his family name.
Again it wasn't about him trusting her, it was more like he said he can't believe Ravan controlled himself (I.e. didn't force himself onto her), now we all can agree that had Ravan actually forced, things might have been different even if Seeta ji didn't reciprocate and tried to remain loyal)
It wasn't her fault, but that was the society back then and even now, in such situations, Women are punished knowingly or unknowingly. Being a Human Avatar, he couldn't have behaved different from how humans will behave.
Lastly as I said in other post, I think he played diplomatically here, saying harsh words so that Seeta ma decides self immolation, he knew she was pious so won't be burnt and then all will believe in her.
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