Agree with you completely. But:
1. He told Ruhi about his deal marriage coz his character is like that. He is a people pleaser and doesn't want people to dislike him coz he seeks validation from everyone who he loves. He just wants acceptance. When he saw that Ruhi is getting angry and crying coz he married despite telling her that he will always only love her, he told her about the deal marriage to pacify her. That doesn't mean he wants to lead her on, coz later he made it clear to her that she needs to move on with Rohit coz his love for his brother far exceeds his love for her. She was ready to move on as well during Rohit's disappearance.
2. Him blaming Abhira will happen till he starts feeling something for her and starts trusting her. His idea of ideal women are Poddar family women who do not create trouble or oppose Dadisa. Even Ruhi fits in that mould. Abhira is a completely different personality. He doesn't know how to deal with her kind. He sees her as a trouble maker, that's why blames her. But unlike other male leads, he apologies for his mistakes also once he realises he is wrong. Their relationship will be a slow burn and both characters will have misunderstandings and differences initially.
3. When Ruhi got hurt, he was rattled coz he still loves her. He didn't consider anything and lashed out at Abhira in heat of the moment. He was wrong, but again, had he lover Abhira and she had met with an accident, he would have gone crazy for her too.
I didn't mean he wanted to lead on Ruhi but it certainly ended up having the same effect. He should have set his boundaries with Ruhi the day he got to know of the engagement. He is a lawyer he should have thought this through.
I would have still given him a fair chance after his outburst on Abhira when Ruhi got hurt. But later when Abhira made a kaada for Ruhi he dumped the whole thing and asked her to stay away from Ruhi as if Abhira wants to intentionally harm her.
Also just because you love someone doesn't give you the free pass to hurt others. He was so clouded that he didn't even let her speak. What says about that? Impulsive. Abhira tried to explain herself in a calm and articulate manner but he passed his judgement. He is a flawed man. I am not expecting someone perfect. But I do expect some growth. During the muh dikhai rasam he asked Abhira to not to argue with elders and leave for the bedroom. While in private he explained to her that she needs to put her points forth effectively. If she is rude while doing so however correct she would never be able to win. Being a lawyer such a guidance is expected of him. Then he did the exact opposite of that. Instead of some growth he dipped down. Moreover, he kept tending to Ruhi whenever she got hurt. That does nothing but makes it difficult for the other person to move on. Given she is his brother's wife he ahould have been more careful. Had he thought about her when alone, lamented about what life could have been had he stood up for his love in private I would have sympathised. But everytime he runs behind Ruhi and defends himself when she catches him having a moment with his wife. This doesn't sit well with me.



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