Vanshaj {EDT #53} Rishton ki Mahabharat - Page 106

Originally posted by: Spandan24

kahir leave it

I admit that I have done wrong and saying sorry for that

You are important to the forum , as when you told us that you might left the show and the forum after VH , I was the one who told you first not to leave and I am definitely not important to this forum so don't leave , I am leaving

Thanks for all the love you guys , you have given to me , I will never forget the love you have given to me and the thing is maybe I am unable to forget the love you have given to me

Thanks a lot

Second thing, I am done with being unasked moderator, so I will be the bad guy now and say this that if anyone of you are going that's your decision, that's on you and nobody else, nobody can hurt you unless you decided to get hurt by a particular thing, Arpi, you said something, no matter the intention, it did hurt them, and spandan you said something, again no matter the intention it did hurt Arpi, and now that you both have acknowledged that you were wrong then what's the issue here?? You both apologised and I will say this, it may hurt you Arpi, but Spandan was the first person to accept that whatever happen was okay even though it was not, and he moved on, let's give him the due credit and you bro, you Arpi, you have played a great part in keeping this forum alive and people here have appreciated that, go through the Award threads, all of them, none of their answers were complete without mentioning you, so you have to decide you want to choose their love or a fight, you all unintentionally or intentionally picked up?? Whatever you choose will be your choice and none of us have to play a part in that.

And spandan, please rethink about your decision again, leaving is never an option, especially leaving like this is not an option yaar, I am saying this to both of you and to those too who are going to take this decision, you leaving the forum is not and shouldn't be anyone's burden to share, if you can't talk with each other then don't, avoid each other's posts but don't make anyone else feel guilty for your decision, that's my only request to all of you

Originally posted by: Moonks

First thing first, There is no one more or less important on the forum. This forum is a happy place because of all of us, so please stop with this nonsense.

Second thing, I am done with being unasked moderator, so I will be the bad guy now and say this that if anyone of you are going that's your decision, that's on you and nobody else, nobody can hurt you unless you decided to get hurt by a particular thing, Arpi, you said something, no matter the intention, it did hurt them, and spandan you said something, again no matter the intention it did hurt Arpi, and now that you both have acknowledged that you were wrong then what's the issue here?? You both apologised and I will say this, it may hurt you Arpi, but Spandan was the first person to accept that whatever happen was okay even though it was not, and he moved on, let's give him the due credit and you bro, you Arpi, you have played a great part in keeping this forum alive and people here have appreciated that, go through the Award threads, all of them, none of their answers were complete without mentioning you, so you have to decide you want to choose their love or a fight, you all unintentionally or intentionally picked up?? Whatever you choose will be your choice and none of us have to play a part in that.

And spandan, please rethink about your decision again, leaving is never an option, especially leaving like this is not an option yaar, I am saying this to both of you and to those too who are going to take this decision, you leaving the forum is not and shouldn't be anyone's burden to share, if you can't talk with each other then don't, avoid each other's posts but don't make anyone else feel guilty for your decision, that's my only request to all of you

Exactly....

You leaving this forum should not be anyone's burden to share...

People can get offended by anything...there is no fixed criteria to it...so not invalidating anyone's feelings..

But all I can say is Spandan did not mock Arpi Dii...He was mocking the situation & was being sarcastic about the certain atmosphere change in the EDT...as he made most of these statements while interacting with me...

Because I know for that matter he respects her...

She should have just told him to stop right there & he would have...I am sure...bcz he is a fun person but he also knows how to respect people....

Whatever but it would be nice if things move on with a apologies....

So I just want to this forum to be a bit more transparent....where people just tell eachother what they feel, there can be misunderstandings,we may oppose, but like a family... things shouldn't escalate to this extent...where even apologizing is not gonna solve this...

Just wanted to add this...

Everything started because Pete Asmita and Spandan were impulsive, I wrote something at late night directly to Suyash Bhai, before I come back online they just assumed something out of that conversation and felt bad that too when I wasn't wrong if I suggested to keep off topics away from EDT, that's how it should be. EDT should be for episode discussions only.

When two people talk about something, the first thing that the 3rd person should do is WAIT for some clarity instead of assuming and reacting.

Anyways chalo I didn't mind that, I explained them everything next morning. We collectively agreed to seperate topics between EDT, GDT, AT.

But next morning again I see indirects with same topic. Now if you cover up saying that wasn't towards me that's lame excuse because it's about not accepting that going off topic on EDT was wrong, pehle bhi hota tha, hota rehta hai is no justification, what is wrong is wrong even if all of us did that. Hum SAB hi Galat the when we discussed off topics on EDT. Accept that instead of passing sarcastic comments.

Ok I remember when initially we used to get carried away with Mahabharata discussions, we used to remind each other it's EDT let's shift. Hum yahan pehle Mahabharat discussions tak limited Karte the but suddenly Yahan everything on earth started getting discussed. It was necessary for someone to point that out and I did exactly that to Suyash Bhai. Now coming to phrase and all which Pete said arreh tho subha tak ruk jaate, I wasn't even online yaar and you guys just assumed something.

Now you guys don't even see anything wrong in that impulsive assumption. It's all Arpita's sentence, phrase that's wrong! Chalo I accepted even that but still Spandan had the audacity to pass sarcastic comments on that instead of moving on. But of course Arpita can't feel bad about it because everyone loves Arpita, she won awards and all

Regarding importance I have slightly different views, NO ONE is that important. Everyone comes here for their own entertainment, if any one stops coming, after 2-4 days others will get back to normal. Mark my words Spandan, na tum aur nahi main, none of us is that important.

You said sorry, I am accepting that even I am sorry about this whole thing. But the fact is, zindagi aur koi site kisi K liye nehi rukhti bas such impulsive assumptions leaves a bad taste.

It's just that, I got a bad taste ki yaar tum log bura manne se pehle Mujhse ek bar Puch tho lete whether I meant this or that. It was as simple as that.

For example Pete said, 6 mahine se Meri

"Shut Up Pete" chubh raha hai ushe, arreh pehle bol dete. It's like we use this emoji often but we don't mean it always waise hi that Shut Up thing is my love language, I don't mean that in negative way still he felt bad tho I said sorry and I will not say that sentence ever again. But such stuffs leaves a bad taste and I am not ready to take that.

Even I am a human being, I feel bad too. Just because I always explain, even I have some limits I can't always explain, I deserve some benefit of doubt and understanding too.

Spandan you want to leave or stay is entirely your decision, I am leaving not precisely because of you but because this whole thing has left a bad taste in my mouth so don't feel guilty about it.

Whatever happened wasn't right but let's move on.

Thank you for all the good time

Originally posted by: A_for_Arpita

Everything started because Pete Asmita and Spandan were impulsive, I wrote something at late night directly to Suyash Bhai, before I come back online they just assumed something out of that conversation and felt bad that too when I wasn't wrong if I suggested to keep off topics away from EDT, that's how it should be. EDT should be for episode discussions only.

When two people talk about something, the first thing that the 3rd person should do is WAIT for some clarity instead of assuming and reacting.

Anyways chalo I didn't mind that, I explained them everything next morning. We collectively agreed to seperate topics between EDT, GDT, AT.

But next morning again I see indirects with same topic. Now if you cover up saying that wasn't towards me that's lame excuse because it's about not accepting that going off topic on EDT was wrong, pehle bhi hota tha, hota rehta hai is no justification, what is wrong is wrong even if all of us did that. Hum SAB hi Galat the when we discussed off topics on EDT. Accept that instead of passing sarcastic comments.

Ok I remember when initially we used to get carried away with Mahabharata discussions, we used to remind each other it's EDT let's shift. Hum yahan pehle Mahabharat discussions tak limited Karte the but suddenly Yahan everything on earth started getting discussed. It was necessary for someone to point that out and I did exactly that to Suyash Bhai. Now coming to phrase and all which Pete said arreh tho subha tak ruk jaate, I wasn't even online yaar and you guys just assumed something.

Now you guys don't even see anything wrong in that impulsive assumption. It's all Arpita's sentence, phrase that's wrong! Chalo I accepted even that but still Spandan had the audacity to pass sarcastic comments on that instead of moving on. But of course Arpita can't feel bad about it because everyone loves Arpita, she won awards and all

Regarding importance I have slightly different views, NO ONE is that important. Everyone comes here for their own entertainment, if any one stops coming, after 2-4 days others will get back to normal. Mark my words Spandan, na tum aur nahi main, none of us is that important.

You said sorry, I am accepting that even I am sorry about this whole thing. But the fact is, zindagi aur koi site kisi K liye nehi rukhti bas such impulsive assumptions leaves a bad taste.

It's just that, I got a bad taste ki yaar tum log bura manne se pehle Mujhse ek bar Puch tho lete whether I meant this or that. It was as simple as that.

For example Pete said, 6 mahine se Meri

"Shut Up Pete" chubh raha hai ushe, arreh pehle bol dete. It's like we use this emoji often but we don't mean it always waise hi that Shut Up thing is my love language, I don't mean that in negative way still he felt bad tho I said sorry and I will not say that sentence ever again. But such stuffs leaves a bad taste and I am not ready to take that.

Even I am a human being, I feel bad too. Just because I always explain, even I have some limits I can't always explain, I deserve some benefit of doubt and understanding too.

Spandan you want to leave or stay is entirely your decision, I am leaving not precisely because of you but because this whole thing has left a bad taste in my mouth so don't feel guilty about it.

Whatever happened wasn't right but let's move on.

Thank you for all the good time

Will miss you, not that I was much active nor I can't be that active in future but whatever time, we spend together was valuable, will miss you

Love you

Originally posted by: Moonks

We understand buddy, It's okay if you want to leave, hope we will meet on some other forum

Will miss you, not that I was much active nor I can't be that active in future but whatever time, we spend together was valuable, will miss you

Love you

Thank You Kusum

I will miss you guys too

I am not mad or something I am genuinely hurt that Jish Forum waloon ko I gave my six months woh mujhe ek raat nehi de paaye and just decided to assume and feel bad.

I can't explain everything na thoda bohat benefit of doubt tho I deserved.

Anyways hopefully we will meet in some other forum

Btw you are doing a superb job as a Mod

Keep slaying, stay blessed

Originally posted by: A_for_Arpita

Thank You Kusum

I will miss you guys too

I am not mad or something I am genuinely hurt that Jish Forum waloon ko I gave my six months woh mujhe ek raat nehi de paaye and just decided to assume and feel bad.

I can't explain everything na thoda bohat benefit of doubt tho I deserved. Sorry for that buddy

Anyways hopefully we will meet in some other forum

Btw you are doing a superb job as a Mod I am not doing anything🤦‍♀️ I hardly handles any report🫣

Keep slaying, stay blessed

I know it was our fault in assuming and we apologised for it

I didn't say anything for 6 months cause it was a minor issue and i never made a big deal out of it but felt like saying it yesterday that's all.....and i was aware that you didn't mean it but i can't have a control over what i feel bad abiut and it hurt on the surface level....it's not about you it's a personal issue of mine

I've never posted this here but i have cleft palalte so i look and sound different so the words "Shut up" and many more insulting stuff is something I've been hearing all my life from most of the people i meet........now I've never posted it here cause i don't want any sympathy but it's a psychological knee jerk reaction for me to react whenever i hear that word....i felt close to all of you and yeah your posts did hurt me but i kept it to myself thinking that it's no biggie but after a point i couldn't...my apoearance is the root cause for many of my obsessive behavior to be liked , to be treated as normal which i have been in the forum I'm not denying that , so yeah it did hurt but that was due to my past experiences and not because of you and i didn't have a right to burden anyone with my trauma so i didn't share it with anyone

I'm doing it now cause i don't like to be seen as the bad guy over here , I'm not....I'm just flawed like everyone

That's the reason why I'm always the first one to write stuff like "I'm sorry it offends you"

Sometimes there are 2 sides to every story , sorry we didn't listen to yours Arpi di but it doesn't mean we don't have our side of the story as well

I got hurt with that post because even we spammed but that was never an issue , you tag me to tag everyone , why couldn't you have tagged me to ask for all the live updates links? I have done that once for Preet di and i could've done that for you....

Everyone gets hurt once in a while

I agree that we became impulsive.....I'm not good with words like you so there would be a lot of repeted lines in this post........but you posted that "some people always need explaining" or something which left a bad tase so i argued again to clear the air that there's no hard feelings so that our interactions won't be affected because of this......this is a public forum , so i had to defend myself, if you had really felt it that way you could've avoided.my posts for a while and i would've been ok with thacause everyone needs time but saying stuff like "you hetting offended is wrong" is wrong. You can't decide what offends someone and what doesn't and that applies to me as well that's why i stopped defending Spandan after a post

And when everything was sorted out for a second time you posted that "i was being polite but they were clearly posting thst they were not wrong" atleast i was upfront with my feelings , that user whom i was defending for said something else in a PM and posted something else over here so i was asking her not to do it and speak her mind....that was why i told her that we weren't in the wrong for standing up for what we thought as wrong but we took your feelings into consideration and didn't invalidate it....if you say that it was wrong for us to assume something out of the convo you and Suyash bhai had then it's equally wrong for you to assume from the convo that i and Samiha had

You said that you' leaving the forum has nothing to do with us but the first line says something else and while i know that you'r leaving the forum.is your own decision but others won't think that.....all they will see and think is PETE , ASMITA AND SPANDAN MADE ARPITA LEAVE THE FORUM.....no i don't want that tag on me ( even if no one admits it , it'll be on their minds) and now this decision is made because in my head i will always think and feel guilty that i drove you away from the forum and i don't want that kind of guilt to weigh on me whenever I'm discussiong with anyone in the forum.....i don't want to wonder what people are talking about me in their PM's or anything and this is my decision.....I'm not ready for that kind of ordeal

You said that no one is important and everyone will forget about it in 2 days , ok i beleive it too goodbye , I'll miss you all

Originally posted by: A_for_Arpita

Everything started because Pete Asmita and Spandan were impulsive, I wrote something at late night directly to Suyash Bhai, before I come back online they just assumed something out of that conversation and felt bad that too when I wasn't wrong if I suggested to keep off topics away from EDT, that's how it should be. EDT should be for episode discussions only.

When two people talk about something, the first thing that the 3rd person should do is WAIT for some clarity instead of assuming and reacting.

Anyways chalo I didn't mind that, I explained them everything next morning. We collectively agreed to seperate topics between EDT, GDT, AT.

But next morning again I see indirects with same topic. Now if you cover up saying that wasn't towards me that's lame excuse because it's about not accepting that going off topic on EDT was wrong, pehle bhi hota tha, hota rehta hai is no justification, what is wrong is wrong even if all of us did that. Hum SAB hi Galat the when we discussed off topics on EDT. Accept that instead of passing sarcastic comments.

Ok I remember when initially we used to get carried away with Mahabharata discussions, we used to remind each other it's EDT let's shift. Hum yahan pehle Mahabharat discussions tak limited Karte the but suddenly Yahan everything on earth started getting discussed. It was necessary for someone to point that out and I did exactly that to Suyash Bhai. Now coming to phrase and all which Pete said arreh tho subha tak ruk jaate, I wasn't even online yaar and you guys just assumed something.

Now you guys don't even see anything wrong in that impulsive assumption. It's all Arpita's sentence, phrase that's wrong! Chalo I accepted even that but still Spandan had the audacity to pass sarcastic comments on that instead of moving on. But of course Arpita can't feel bad about it because everyone loves Arpita, she won awards and all

Regarding importance I have slightly different views, NO ONE is that important. Everyone comes here for their own entertainment, if any one stops coming, after 2-4 days others will get back to normal. Mark my words Spandan, na tum aur nahi main, none of us is that important.

You said sorry, I am accepting that even I am sorry about this whole thing. But the fact is, zindagi aur koi site kisi K liye nehi rukhti bas such impulsive assumptions leaves a bad taste.

It's just that, I got a bad taste ki yaar tum log bura manne se pehle Mujhse ek bar Puch tho lete whether I meant this or that. It was as simple as that.

For example Pete said, 6 mahine se Meri

"Shut Up Pete" chubh raha hai ushe, arreh pehle bol dete. It's like we use this emoji often but we don't mean it always waise hi that Shut Up thing is my love language, I don't mean that in negative way still he felt bad tho I said sorry and I will not say that sentence ever again. But such stuffs leaves a bad taste and I am not ready to take that.

Even I am a human being, I feel bad too. Just because I always explain, even I have some limits I can't always explain, I deserve some benefit of doubt and understanding too.

Spandan you want to leave or stay is entirely your decision, I am leaving not precisely because of you but because this whole thing has left a bad taste in my mouth so don't feel guilty about it.

Whatever happened wasn't right but let's move on.

Thank you for all the good time

Since you have taken my name here...I think I should respond ...

I wrote whatever I wrote at that time because I genuinely felt hurt.....

Now if you are saying that my feeling bad was just an impulsive reaction then I don't know...You are just invalidating my feelings....

If you feeling bad is fair then how are we wrong if we felt bad....

You again said that we jumped to conclusions by looking at a statement you made while talking to Suyash bhai in a public forum & didn't ask you directly..

.so in that case the statement Spandan made was also to someone else...most of them were to me ..You also felt bad without trying to ask him personally,...You also did not let him answer or defend himself.....

There is no point discussing that....

I don't know but lagta yahi hai ki ASMITA,Pete & Spandan made you leave this. forum.....

We are the villains here....

Me, Pete or Spandan,we don't deserve this...

Whatever happened should not have happened for sure...but ismein bhi kuch accha hoga...

Thank you ......for the good times...

But mujhe lagta nahin ki this forum is for me anymore......

I can't live here as a villain who made you leave this forum.......

Originally posted by: Pete15rogmourey

I know it was our fault in assuming and we apologised for it

I didn't say anything for 6 months cause it was a minor issue and i never made a big deal out of it but felt like saying it yesterday that's all.....and i was aware that you didn't mean it but i can't have a control over what i feel bad abiut and it hurt on the surface level....it's not about you it's a personal issue of mine

I've never posted this here but i have cleft palalte so i look and sound different so the words "Shut up" and many more insulting stuff is something I've been hearing all my life from most of the people i meet........now I've never posted it here cause i don't want any sympathy but it's a psychological knee jerk reaction for me to react whenever i hear that word....i felt close to all of you and yeah your posts did hurt me but i kept it to myself thinking that it's no biggie but after a point i couldn't...my apoearance is the root cause for many of my obsessive behavior to be liked , to be treated as normal which i have been in the forum I'm not denying that , so yeah it did hurt but that was due to my past experiences and not because of you and i didn't have a right to burden anyone with my trauma so i didn't share it with anyone

I'm diing it now cause i don't like to be seen as the bad guy over here , I'm not....I'm just flawed like everyone

That's the reason why I'm always the first one to write stuff like "I'm sorry it offends you"

Sometimes there are 2 sides to every story , sorry we didn't listen to yours Arpi di but it doesn't mean we don't have our side of the story as well

I got hurt with that post because even we spammed but that was never an issue , you tag me to tag everyone , why couldn't you have tagged me to ask for all the live updates links? I have done that once for Preet di and i could've done that for you....

Everyone gets hurt once in a while

I agree that we became impulsive.....I'm not good with words like you so there would be a lot of repeted lines in this post........but you posted that "some people always need explaining" or something which left a bad tase so i argued again to clear the air that there's no hard feelings so that our interactions won't be affected because of this

You said that you' leaving the forum has nothing to do with us but the first line says something else and while i know that you'r leaving the forum.is your own decision but others won't think that.....all they will see and think is PETE , ASMITA AND SPANDAN MADE ARPITA LEAVE THE FORUM.....no i don't want that tag on me ( even if no one admits it , it'll be on their minds) and now this decision is made because in my head i will always think and feel guilty that i drove you away from the forum and i don't want that kind of guilt to weigh on me whenever I'm discussiong with anyone in the forum.....i don't want to wonder what people are talking about me in their PM's or anything and this is my decision.....I'm not ready for that kind of ordeal

You said that no one is important and everyone will forget about it in 2 days , ok i beleive it too goodbye , I'll miss you all

See Pete obviously I am not supposed to know about your medical condition, I didn't even ask any explanation about the whole shut up thing I just said arreh pehle kyun nehi bola and decided to not use it. I gave that as an example ki this is how things should be instead of being sarcastic about everything.

I will definitely not give you any sympathy because that's kinda insulting. You are a very strong and intelligent guy.

You can say anything to me and I won't mind, I do love you that much, the whole spamming thing wasn't for you at all. Your spamming is different from what Spandan does. There was absolutely no need for you to make it all about you.

I am not at all making you the bad guy or something but I guess it's useless to continue this topic. I seriously don't know how this will get fixed. I have always explained everything from show to everything to you in detail but now I am exhausted.

Ok I am taking upon me. You don't wanna be the bad guy. Fine. You guys were right, I was invalidating your feelings I overreacted.

I am leaving because I couldn't stay with you guys in mutual understanding. MY FAULT.

None gonna talk about you in PM Pete. Mera password le Lena and check kar Lena (I don't even remember my own password fukkk) I hardly talk to people on DM/PM I don't know how to make you believe that.

Uff! This is.... I AM SORRY Pete. I am leaving because of my issues. It has nothing to you yaar! Everyone is mature enough to grasp that.

Originally posted by: asmitamohanty

Since you have taken my name here...I think I should respond ...

I wrote whatever I wrote at that time because I genuinely felt hurt.....

Now if you are saying that my feeling bad was just an impulsive reaction then I don't know...You are just invalidating my feelings....

If you feeling bad is fair then how are we wrong if we felt bad....

You again said that we jumped to conclusions by looking at a statement you made while talking to Suyash bhai in a public forum & didn't ask you directly..

.so in that case the statement Spandan made was also to someone else...most of them were to me ..You also felt bad without trying to ask him personally,...You also did not let him answer or defend himself.....

There is no point discussing that....

I don't know but lagta yahi hai ki ASMITA,Pete & Spandan made you leave this. forum.....

We are the villains here....

Me, Pete or Spandan,we don't deserve this...

Whatever happened should not have happened for sure...but ismein bhi kuch accha hoga...

Thank you ......for the good times...

But mujhe lagta nahin ki this forum is for me anymore......

I can't live here as a villain who made you leave this forum.......

Stop defending Spandan. Just stop that. It's a request. That's the least you can do for me right now. Stop defending him.

Yup yeh forum hum mein se Kisi ka nehi, chalo let's leave together