Yes… I can see people being in inertia due to depression or overwhelming anxiety. That I could understand. But I’ve seen that with people staying with their OWN family. I just don’t accept that as satisfactory or remotely believable or sympathy inducing when a kid is involved and when it’s strangers that are footing your bill. Nobody would do that.
Also, usually the kid is what gives you the Dhakka that you need. But when do they ever show the realities of raising a child in these types of shows?! As a mom, it was highly ridiculous to me to see her pining away doing nothing and lamenting while she had a young child to raise at the same time and not thinking about what’s best for the kid. That’s what usually happens when you become a parent. You start thinking of the kids first…even your own discomfort gets pushed and you get courage to do what’s best for your kid. At least a good mom would. What is really weird is that we are supposed to see that Meerab is thoughtful and has a good heart. And at the end of the day, even if she didn’t want her child to be raised and living in the haveli, an even relatively decent person would let the dad of that kid know..unless he himself was a terrible person that she needed to keep the baby safe from. But that was also never emphasized here. Instead, she comes off as a mom that is just thinking of her own self issues which are not even issues instead of what’s best for her kid. (That happens in real life…for kids with drug addict moms or moms that have severe mental issues..in which case she shouldn’t be taking care of a kid at all in the first place. But she is shown as neither of these.) And what’s best for the kid, is always that they are with both parents unless there is a good reason they can’t be like divorce or b/c one of the parents is bad and unable to care for them.
As a mom, I’m like, wow…how selfish have you made this character re her living off other people, and also keeping her kid away from her dad/ or at least his awareness of the kid. Saba out of all people had to tell her to think about what’s best for her kid. Like, what is that. I know people love Meerab, but this has got to be one of the worst characters that I’ve seen that was projected as a female lead. That doesn’t mean I think Murtasim is great either btw..before all those comments start rolling in.
Originally posted by: hypnotoad
She said "Iss saare arsay mein itni himmat nahi jamaa karsaki ke mein uske paas waapis chali jaon."
I know it is not satisfactory but it seems like she made a rash impulsive decision which she regretted but she couldn't find the courage to go back as she felt it was either too late or her mistake too big. Maybe she felt no one would accept her explanation, forgive her or accept her back - that she will find herself abandoned yet again. Or that she would be yelled at or reprimanded so badly that it would be debasing.
She seems to be in some kind of stasis or inertia - we do not see her working a job or continuing her studies and not what we expect someone on a self-discovery journey to do. I can empathize with that kind if inertia and toxic procrastination where you keep putting off difficult things to the detriment of yourself. Saba was maybe that dhakka she needed to get out of her inertia.
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