Originally posted by: Kumuda-123
@bold If she cared about her ego or like what u mentioned, she wouldn't have tolerated maa begum and haya insults and insisted on meeting murtasim.
She could have easily went with her fathers not caring to see murtasim, but she wanted to stay for him, meet him, show her gratitude.
It looks like you missed the scenes where she felt guilty for bullet scene, cried, tried to make it up for him by cooking food, only when he dragged nyla by claiming izzat, she lost her cool and fought with him.
@Italic She didn't apologize because she didn't do anything like murtasim thinking. Murtasim thought she went to karachi to meet rohail which is untrue.
If she wants to prove her character to maintain her ego, then why didn't she do the same with her fake fathers? Why she wanted to give explanation only to murtasim
U think she was ready to jump for her ego? If it was old meerab she would have told him to go to hell instead of doing such stunt.
Meerab will believe anyone easily except khan family. Because she hated them since her childhood. Years of hate won't get vanished in months.
Regarding maintaining boundaries. Murtasim crossed his boundaries the moment he let haya sit on his bed and feed him. So nothing can beat that for me.
That Bullet incident guilt was useless when she doesn't has the decency to apologize instead she talked with him as if he is stupid to be angry. The reason why I call Meerab stupid is because when nyla came, all Meerab had to do was apologize for running in the field and removing bullets, then she could have politely question his decision like an educated and graceful woman, yet she went all dominant at him like an illiterate. No man will tolerate such behavior, especially a feudal like Murtasim.
The reason why I call Meerab an illiterate is her rude behavior, because in my eyes the first thing education teaches is to respect others and here we are talking about her husband. Islam emphazies upon husband's respect as obligatory. A woman who doesn't respect her husband is punishable in another world, so her disrespect for Murtasim in my eyes is not justifiable from any angle, especially when a husband like Murtasim is in question who treasures her respect as his own.
In my eyes, for Meerab Murtasim is nothing but a toy which she uses for her own benefit. We all know how she would have been treated by others without Murtasim's support. So she definitely wants to use him to shelter her from the consequences of her every blunder, as we have seen it happening plenty of times by now, it's also one of the reason why she agreed to marry him.
I felt that Meerab struggling to prove herself correct isn't out of care or love for Murtasim but out of her pride to stay good in Murtasim's eyes. The reason why she didn't clear herself in both father's eyes is because she considers them useless in her life, but Murtasim is pretty useful for her, as she continues to enjoy the privilege of being his wife.
If Murtasim unintentionally crossed boundaries with Haya, then I also remembers that he had apologized for it and is getting her married in a month to stay out of trouble, unlike Meerab who didn't have the guts to give a proper shut up call to Rohail but speaks as if she is opressed, when we all know that she can easily walk out of the marriage whenever she wants. You pointed out Meerab's guilt but refuses to acknowledge Murtasim's apology in this matter is beyond my understanding.
It isn't the point that Meerab did nothing wrong to apologize because her intentions are correct, but Murtasim has apologized plenty of times even for things he hadn't done or the mistakes he committed unintentionally unlike Meerab who shows attitude and prioritizes her ego.
They should have shown a proper reason as to why she hates Khan family before the parentage truth, because we all know that she was loved and respected a lot there. If she hates Khan family for the parentage truth, then she must hate Rohail too who in her own words kidnapped her and gave disgusting ideas to get out of marriage. It's beyond illogical to see her trusting him still.
It's my personal opinion and you are free to disagree, but I really feels that we must get out of the phase of sympathizing with women and allowing them to play victim card, but cruelly expecting men to tolerate them and remain a saint. I believe in equality and here Meerab is more in wrong than Murtasim.
We keep calling out Murtasim for slapping Meerab, even though he apologized for it. Meerab has done things far worse and didn't even apologize but we keep justifying it for the sake of her being woman. In my every day life I've seen girls slapping boys on street for no reason and justifies it being a woman. It's a hypocrisy because I believe that a man and woman both must give equal respect to each other. In Meerab and Murtasim's relationship, there is only one sided respect and I don't see Meerab respecting him soon, Maryam's stunt is a prove of how much she respects him.
I will end this debate right here because I don't want to fight for a fictional character but my point remains that I refuse to sympathize with Meerab and ignore her mistakes just for the sake of her being a woman. I sympathized with her as long as she deserved it but now her mistakes are senseless and exaggerated. Similarly I refuse to expect Murtasim to let go of his self respect and become a doormat by ignoring Meerab's blunders just because he is a man.
I don't like holding personal grudges for anyone, instead I just hope that the society will move out of the phase of mysogynism or feminism. Every human being is equal in my eyes, irrelevant of their gender. I extremely hate the societies where woman's are deprived of their basic rights and dominated by men's but I also hate women who plays victim card and takes no strong action like Meerab but continues to blame others unecessarily and refuses to take charge of their actions.
Peace ❤️
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