Originally posted by: iheartChai
Harshvardhan wasn't the best for sure but you also cannot say Manjari did not do some things that made sure the father and son rift continued outside of the domestic violence issue.
There is some parellel to Abhi and Harshvardhan's relationship and what everyone assumes will happen between Abhi and Abhir. At least with the anger issues at first. There will be of course a big difference as Abhi is not like Harshvardhan. Akshu is not like Manjari. Anger will be there but it will be resolved and Abhir will eventually accept his relationship with Abhi despite what he may find out that happened between his mother and his biological father.
yes manjari is equally responsible as she would like to have that illusionary perfect family which birla house is so obsessed with .so she conntinued without DV seeing her sons pain.
the thing is abhi and harsh can only be compared with abhi and abhir even in terms of anger issues when situation is extreme like that of neilsand twins death otherwise there is no reason for abhi to get angry at akshu...
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exactly abhi is not like harsh he never looked down on akshu like harsh does and even supports her career and descision as long as she doesnt involve herself with his toxic family and get yelled upon which he absolutely dreads.
also akshu is not manjiri because though manjiri cares for everyone on thev outside but she doesnt give everyone their rights to make decision for their own happiness which akshu does...
also akshu likes to share both happy and sad movements in family which results in akshu being yelled at as it may reveal the fakeness of perfect birla family .and thats why akshu tried to mend this family which results in her getting blamed. and abhi being angry at akshara because he knew exactly how fake his family is and he doesnt want her to get involved in that mess in which he suffered for years ,, and this cycle continues. untill major incidents like neils and twins death happen ..
the current situation has laid bare in front of both abhi and akshu their raw traits their core characters which they need to balance if they ever hope to reunite.
AKSHARA from childhood carried that ideal of being selfless and want everyone to be happy as being an orphan and being blamed by arohi .. she always tried to sacrifice to make others happy and then abhi happened and shook her world for first time being with abhi she felt it was okay to fight for her happiness , her career , her respect and her love.. but aksharas core character had always been of that selfless being which she moulded since childhood and on that illfated day the same ideal caused her one of the twin and neil...
but she expected abhi who supported her this much against arohi, against goenkas and supported her career, who thought her its okay to fight for herself will support her this time also ,thats why this statement...
"situation esi thi abhi esme meri kya galti" the fact is at that time the mother in her was fighting the ideals in her and for that little moment her ideals had taken over...and she forgot about her babies... in her point of view abhi should understand her because he always supported her in her ideals then why this time... in her anger and denial of abhi combined with all accusations of others she is failed to see what she lost as a mother and failed to see that abhis pain as a father is just as grave as her loss. and the guilt is what made her accept all accusations because neither her ideals were wrong nor abhis qs were only thing is she could have done better as a mother and she expected abhi to support her in that journey which he failed resulting in this changed behavior of complete ignorance and change in personality though still her core character remains same depicting her worries when aarohi is injured.., because for her all those people and accusation doesnt matter but it was abhi who once made her fight for her ideals ..the rejection by the same person which hurt her the most...
ABHIMANYUS case...from childhood he seen his mother getting abused so he hated marriage and hated family but somewhere he loved his mother who despite suffering loved him and worked for the family ...thats where his love for someone who loves selflessly and hate for sacrifice seeing his mother sacrifice her happiness for family...two traits fighting against each other in the same person...since childhood he knew how exactly fake his family is so he never really bothered... abhimanyu always was a SELFISH PERSON ... BUT A RIGHTEOUS ONE...and after seeing aksu the exact same qualities ...selfless and sacrificing for family... and he fall in love... but he hated that sacrifice part so he helped akshu to fight her battles ,to fight for her career and fight for her love...in the process he came across manish and rest and experienced what normal(close)family felt like...
after seeing akshara fighting all those battles he became sure that the sacrifice part which he hated will never come. and him being in love so deeply he thought he could start a family...
but this deaths of neil and twins lead him to a point were again that sacrifice thing which he hated for his mother his wife has done the same selfless act for those ngo kids and again just like hie saw his mother being accused all those years he saw akshara being accused of being selfless which he himself know was not completely wrong but the death of three cannot be easily dealt with ..
the akshara whom he loved for being selfless and fighting for her ideals because of that same nature his family is almost destroyed and his fears of being in failed marriage again surfaces... in his anger he is not seeing everything was not lost ... even if the loss was great he still had akhshara .
but that day akshara had hoped abhi would have been earlier abhi who never cared for families and fought for her ,for her ideals..
and abhi had hoped akshu would have been earlier akshu and would thhave thought for neil her babies and for everyone else..
that was their expectations as a couple but both had forgotten that each others presence had healed some of their wound abhi had started caring for families, and akshara has started fightingt for herself without thinking about others... and they failed to see each others pain and loss in this process .
this leap will be interesting if they show how both abhi and aksu come out of their childhood trauma and balance their core characters.. and in process reunite with abhir...
because the way this is going abhir is going to be another abhi who hates his father and will carry that burden and he doesnt deserve that.
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