Originally posted by: return_to_hades
Having read Gender Queer for a workplace book club, there is absolutely no scene with minors and adults in any sexual relationship.
Gender Queer is about a person assigned female at birth who identifies as non-binary. When the writer hit puberty they started having male-oriented sexual fantasies. Some of them are picturing gay sex while masturbation, imagining having a penis and rubbing it, or a woman performing a blow job on it.
The oral sex scene takes place when the college-aged author is dating. In order to fulfill the fantasy of getting a blowjob, the writer's girlfriend gets them a strap-on and performs oral sex on it.
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A lot of my colleagues have teenage daughters, so we did have a good discussion on censorship. Almost all parents said they would never give their children such a book on their own. But at the same time, they would be awkward but fine with their kids reading it. After all, teenagers are thinking about sex a lot - and teens who don't share the same heteronormative sexual fantasies as their peers deserve to be seen.
I think teenagers should have access to good information about sex. But as someone who doesn't have kids, my opinions don't matter as much. It is for actual parents to decide what is best for their kids.
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But there is another kind of censorship happening. Where history is being erased to make people comfortable. Stories depicting the horrors of slavery, indentured labor building railroads, Japanese internment camps, and even the holocaust are being erased so that children do not feel bad, guilty, or uncomfortable about what their ancestors did. I don't think censoring history is right at all. What happened should be taught openly and transparently without sugar coating.
1. I have seen the image. While context matters, the courts have already ruled that *appearance* of the person/character matters more in deciding whether p*rn is child p*rn.
Substitute a cartoon pic for a photo or video, and all considerations for the suggestible nature of children out of the window.
So why are there movie ratings? Video games? Age restrictions for alcohol and tobacco? Why is there an age restriction for military?
2. Even if argument is bought that since it's not actual people, they're not children, p*rn is still p*rn. When did it become OK for it to be in middle school libraries?
3. Yes, it IS up to the parents. If you (generic you) want your kid to read that? Go right ahead. There is still the public library and the bookstore.
Gender Queer has not been banned from any of those places.
The same way I do not get to ban books from your children, you (generic you) do not get to expose my kids to p*rn.
4. You certainly do not get to call my child IT. He/she is a precious human.
5. And yeah, if you (generic you) are a pedophile, don't bother labeling yourself minor-attracted. You should still be castrated, then pound to a pulp.
5. I 100% agree that the horrors of history should not be hidden from children. To forget history is to repeat the mistakes of the past. But again, don't teach children to hate each other.
Edited by HearMeRoar - 3 years ago
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