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Posted: 3 years ago

A woman of my own ❤️‘S view …

Thank you for articulation of the pov’s of husband and wife.. looking around in my fam and friends , I found my mom and dad, uncles and aunts,elder cousins and their spouses doing the same.

It is specially true when it comes to emotions and feelings, but,

if it is about principle or value,it is a conversation that had to be had, fight it… face it, talk it,write it ,whatever but determine a common ground before moving on but never fly from it…this has always been the mantra between people at home, not just couples but also for us and even the kids….since this is daily normalcy, I find it a bit odd to explain to people as something extra ordinary… your post helped me realise it…

Though the current generation who are recently married are still finding ropes, the above two rules helped them immensely… ice and fire.. wonderful analogy! ❤️ , though very known, don’t know how it never crossed my mind


Also, can I link your post about RaYa above, to someone that I dabbled with on dm’s?🙏 only if you don’t mind… I know it is public forum, but contextualising it requires your consent and credit…


… she might understand it better than my posts which have been disjointly spread across edt’s….


…A dabble that made me so confused I had to get an opinion of forumwasis in a separate thread about being crass not loyal to single actor, hypocrisy, priya and rams actions and thoughts and individual povs…

and therefore I gave a huge public opinion on my stand😆

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Posted: 3 years ago

Originally posted by: Mages


I have one in my home😡

My hubby gifts dhaai vaadas gift wrap chocolates and chocolate milk cartons on V'Day when i expect a G-shock watch from him😡😡😡


So for me its pretty normal🤦🏻‍♀️

Yeh sab reality me hota hai so not surprising though for me when everyone was laughing at it🤣

Jiske saath yeh hua hai wohi samjh sakta hai

After that 2 yrs V'Day i ask my jerk to stop giving craps on V'Day if u don't want to gift me say it loud i can buy all these stuff myself and he still does not understand what i wanted and what he gifts me. He says its beautiful day lets eat together😡😡. I was like i am done with you

I understand chocolates… but dhahi wadas?🤣

I can’t…🤣..

also, sorry for intrusive nose which gives stupid 💡 ideas,😆

You must be giving gifts for your hubby,too right?

Why don’t you give him a charging wire or razor blade or something or nimbu,mirchi and dhaniya cooler or a bath towel or a curtain for a window or thelabag for groceries …? ( don’t ask me how I got these ideas,years of assisting lovers ,newly weds figuring out life helps 🙈☺️)

…..unless Mr.Mages gets excited for simple things, this can pinch the same nerve that was pinched of you🤣

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Posted: 3 years ago

Originally posted by: TheCoolDocSid

A woman of my own ❤️‘S view …

Thank you for articulation of the pov’s of husband and wife.. looking around in my fam and friends , I found my mom and dad, uncles and aunts,elder cousins and their spouses doing the same.

It is specially true when it comes to emotions and feelings, but,

if it is about principle or value,it is a conversation that had to be had, fight it… face it, talk it,write it ,whatever but determine a common ground before moving on but never fly from it…this has always been the mantra between people at home, not just couples but also for us and even the kids….since this is daily normalcy, I find it a bit odd to explain to people as something extra ordinary… your post helped me realise it…

Though the current generation who are recently married are still finding ropes, the above two rules helped them immensely… ice and fire.. wonderful analogy! ❤️ , though very known, don’t know how it never crossed my mind


Also, can I link your post about RaYa above, to someone that I dabbled with on dm’s?🙏 only if you don’t mind… I know it is public forum, but contextualising it requires your consent and credit…


… she might understand it better than my posts which have been disjointly spread across edt’s….


…A dabble that made me so confused I had to get an opinion of forumwasis in a separate thread about being crass not loyal to single actor, hypocrisy, priya and rams actions and thoughts and individual povs…

and therefore I gave a huge public opinion on my stand😆


Being married i learn this much but its never ending learning becos marriage is pure and divinity the instuition of it made by god but honestly two different people & personalities comes together & build a home its not easy at all literally trust me its not easy when your spouse is a stranger. The principals mindset values understanding is totally different from you and all we do is observe adjust & accept


We dream of prince who sweep our feet but in real life it does not happen at all


Even 25 yrs marriage cripples that says enough that marriage is an instuition made by heaven but even married couples who says that they are friends and all that stuff the fact is you understand your own soul but not others all you need to do is adjust observe accept than build the trust & understanding it also depends on the person how seriously he/she takes the marriage


If you understand a total stranger entering your life be it love or arrange divorce will never happen


Yes yaar...go ahead use it

Edited by Mages - 3 years ago
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Posted: 3 years ago

I should try gifting someone Kachori, Dahi Vada etc for next Valentine. Let me try it out and see the outcome

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Posted: 3 years ago

Originally posted by: TheCoolDocSid

I understand chocolates… but dhahi wadas?🤣

I can’t…🤣..

also, sorry for intrusive nose which gives stupid 💡 ideas,😆

You must be giving gifts for your hubby,too right?

Why don’t you give him a charging wire or razor blade or something or nimbu,mirchi and dhaniya cooler or a bath towel or a curtain for a window or thelabag for groceries …? ( don’t ask me how I got these ideas,years of assisting lovers ,newly weds figuring out life helps 🙈☺️)

…..unless Mr.Mages gets excited for simple things, this can pinch the same nerve that was pinched of you🤣


He is fine with whatever i gift him.i did gift him shirts & power bank for his birthday and also throw a small party and vice versa for me he always buy clothes for me


But V'Day i don't believe on it thus i never gift him but he likes this V'Day idea and brings in food stuff🤦🏻‍♀️i am not a foodie thus seeing foods irritates me and he loves to irritate me


Dhaai Vaadas is for my maa she loves it & he loves & respect her always say that V'Day is for parents too


For me chocolates & carton chocolate milk🤦🏻‍♀️


He is never fussy with gifts but gosh kanjoos and calculative afterall a Leo he is🤦🏻‍♀️

Edited by Mages - 3 years ago
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Posted: 3 years ago

Originally posted by: tirchinazar

I should try gifting someone Kachori, Dahi Vada etc for next Valentine. Let me try it out and see the outcome


Depend on the person how he/she reacts how special is that V'Day for him/her


For me i don't believe in it thus stock it in fridge while dahi vaadas are eaten by maa i have bad sinus and dahi triggers it thus i avoid it otherwise i will get nose bleed

Edited by Mages - 3 years ago
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Posted: 3 years ago

Doesnt matter behen. Will try it on someone. I hope no one gets offended though. I will have to wait for one more year!

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Posted: 3 years ago


OMG 😳 I dont know about Priya but I think all us female forumwasis going to be in a swoon tonite ❤️ dashing Ram Kapoor / Nakuul ❤️

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