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Originally posted by: VaishnaviG

I guess she is habitual to that remember when Dev abandoned her at the altar then she was forced to get married to Shiva.That time she had expressed her emotions but was there anyone who really cared about her ? To support her ? Dhara aayi sorry boli aur move on karo bolkar chali gayi . Then at haveli, she cried because of the kiss accident tab bhi koyi tha nahi bass log sympathy dekar chale gaye lekin samajhne wala nahi tha koi usse. Phir after teh temple confrontation, woh phir royi aurr express kiya lekin usse koi sunne wala tha ki aisa kya hua ; kiski galti thi ya tujhe kya lag raha hai ? Nahi koi nahi tha uske pass usko support karnewala usse samjhane wala.

Now I will tell you my thing, I have been emotionally drained many times, like people come and hurt me and go.No one comes to aks me whether I am okay or not. This was happening from 5th grade. I was in SSC(State board ) school then shifted to ICSE board. There during first 2-3 years no one used to like me, they used laugh at me for my poor english then how I am not good at studies, how I don’t know many things. No one used to befriend me and the one who did, threw me out of the group because my name’s initials was V and rest of them were S so they wanted to make S initial group. In my family a;Lao my family members love me very much but they have hurted me many times and then haven’t felt anything for me after that. Agar mein rooth bhi jaau like toh koi manane nahi aata mujhe. Lekin meri family mein sab ke jhagde mein solve karti hoon , sabko mein samjhati hoon bhale mein uss mein involve hoon ya nahi.

Toh phir mera yahi ek defence mechanism bann gaya hai ki agar bohot bura laga toh sabke samne fasle smile karo aurr bathroom ya room mein ja kar ro lo.Kyuki mujeh paat hai koyi nahi aanewala mujhe manane aur na samjhane .Sabko yahi lagta hai Aree Vaishnavi toh hamesha hasti rehti hai aurr sabse samjha daar hai . Na hi mein koyi tantrum throw karti hoon aur jab mujeh gussa ata bhi hai toh bhi koyi manane nahi aata kyuki Vaishnavi toh gussa reh hi nahi sakti . I can not stay angry for more than 15 minutes with my loved ones bhale mujeh kitna bhi hurt kiya ho , mein agar unko dekh liya toh muskuraane lagti hoon. So I can understand woh reaction kyun nahi deti itna .

Toh woh Raavi ne express karna hi chodd diya hai kyuki itna bada hi one ke baad yeh choti choti cheezon se farak padta hi nahi hai .

Sorry agar bore kiya toh

I think it takes great courage to share something so personal and beautiful.

I believe life always throws curveballs at people who are more robust and have the knack to deal with situations, issues and people better. Most of the actions of hurting others stem from the lack of perception and empathy for others. Empath's, people who have a flair for life, make each day count are generally the strongest people.

That's you-your USP. Human emotions are fragile, and everyone has their own journey in the form of grief. Everyone has their own cathartic style, and it's okay as long as it helps you cope up.

Shedding tears and then emerging as a Phoenix from ashes is important. Whether you shed those tears in public or private shouldn't matter. Accept yourself and move on. That should give you strength. 🤗

Much love to you.

Originally posted by: seja

Raavi will need reassurance from Shiva that he will not leave her this time but in order to do that Raavi will need to show some kind of feelings to Shiva otherwise their story will not move forward.

They both are ziddi so I don’t know how makers by throwing this 3rd angle planning to show.

It’s alright giving Shivi scenes but if the story does not more forward it gets boring to watch.

Both are ziddi and don't want to show feelings voluntarily for very different reasons. That's why this third angle. One of them has to lose control and break, then the other will take charge and fix the relationship.

This is what will happen I think, of course with a lot of shit, cringe and dragging in the middle 😆

Originally posted by: VaishnaviG

I guess she is habitual to that remember when Dev abandoned her at the altar then she was forced to get married to Shiva.That time she had expressed her emotions but was there anyone who really cared about her ? To support her ? Dhara aayi sorry boli aur move on karo bolkar chali gayi . Then at haveli, she cried because of the kiss accident tab bhi koyi tha nahi bass log sympathy dekar chale gaye lekin samajhne wala nahi tha koi usse. Phir after teh temple confrontation, woh phir royi aurr express kiya lekin usse koi sunne wala tha ki aisa kya hua ; kiski galti thi ya tujhe kya lag raha hai ? Nahi koi nahi tha uske pass usko support karnewala usse samjhane wala.

Now I will tell you my thing, I have been emotionally drained many times, like people come and hurt me and go.No one comes to aks me whether I am okay or not. This was happening from 5th grade. I was in SSC(State board ) school then shifted to ICSE board. There during first 2-3 years no one used to like me, they used laugh at me for my poor english then how I am not good at studies, how I don’t know many things. No one used to befriend me and the one who did, threw me out of the group because my name’s initials was V and rest of them were S so they wanted to make S initial group. In my family a;Lao my family members love me very much but they have hurted me many times and then haven’t felt anything for me after that. Agar mein rooth bhi jaau like toh koi manane nahi aata mujhe. Lekin meri family mein sab ke jhagde mein solve karti hoon , sabko mein samjhati hoon bhale mein uss mein involve hoon ya nahi.

Toh phir mera yahi ek defence mechanism bann gaya hai ki agar bohot bura laga toh sabke samne fasle smile karo aurr bathroom ya room mein ja kar ro lo.Kyuki mujeh paat hai koyi nahi aanewala mujhe manane aur na samjhane .Sabko yahi lagta hai Aree Vaishnavi toh hamesha hasti rehti hai aurr sabse samjha daar hai . Na hi mein koyi tantrum throw karti hoon aur jab mujeh gussa ata bhi hai toh bhi koyi manane nahi aata kyuki Vaishnavi toh gussa reh hi nahi sakti . I can not stay angry for more than 15 minutes with my loved ones bhale mujeh kitna bhi hurt kiya ho , mein agar unko dekh liya toh muskuraane lagti hoon. So I can understand woh reaction kyun nahi deti itna .

Toh woh Raavi ne express karna hi chodd diya hai kyuki itna bada hi one ke baad yeh choti choti cheezon se farak padta hi nahi hai .

Sorry agar bore kiya toh

More power to you Vaishu!! Thank you for sharing 🤗🤗

Originally posted by: Transference

I think it takes great courage to share something so personal and beautiful.

I believe life always throws curveballs at people who are more robust and have the knack to deal with situations, issues and people better. Most of the actions of hurting others stem from the lack of perception and empathy for others. Empath's, people who have a flair for life, make each day count are generally the strongest people.

That's you-your USP. Human emotions are fragile, and everyone has their own journey in the form of grief. Everyone has their own cathartic style, and it's okay as long as it helps you cope up.

Shedding tears and then emerging as a Phoenix from ashes is important. Whether you shed those tears in public or private shouldn't matter. Accept yourself and move on. That should give you strength. 🤗

Much love to you.

Very true Piu.

But I have learned to express my emotions to my self and move on. After crying I always feel that I gain lot of strength.Then about the people who have hurted me, I think its okay no one is always going to make you happy. And about forgiving, I think we have only one life and if we keep grudges then we would have no one by side, so forgive and move on and be in peace.

That’s my theory.😆

Originally posted by: GrilledCheese

More power to you Vaishu!! Thank you for sharing 🤗🤗

Thank you Aloo 🤗

Originally posted by: VaishnaviG

I guess she is habitual to that remember when Dev abandoned her at the altar then she was forced to get married to Shiva.That time she had expressed her emotions but was there anyone who really cared about her ? To support her ? Dhara aayi sorry boli aur move on karo bolkar chali gayi . Then at haveli, she cried because of the kiss accident tab bhi koyi tha nahi bass log sympathy dekar chale gaye lekin samajhne wala nahi tha koi usse. Phir after teh temple confrontation, woh phir royi aurr express kiya lekin usse koi sunne wala tha ki aisa kya hua ; kiski galti thi ya tujhe kya lag raha hai ? Nahi koi nahi tha uske pass usko support karnewala usse samjhane wala.

Toh woh Raavi ne express karna hi chodd diya hai kyuki itna bada hi one ke baad yeh choti choti cheezon se farak padta hi nahi hai .

This is exactly how I have understood raavi...I wish makers were interested in exploring her character more like this...it would be treat to see a man healing a broken women...like most of the mahaan FLs do

Originally posted by: Pixiepadhi

This is an interesting perspective piu ❤️

The makers are just starting with this track and I would like to wait to see how this shapes up. Who is this disha girl exactly? Are her feelings real? Does she want to actually marry shiva or has any ulterior motives? Does she know everything about shivi? As far as shiva is concerned, today's episode gave a clear perspective that he doesn't care about disha.will this remain like this? Too many questions.

I agree with you that in real life human emotions are complex. More than Right or wrong,it's grey.reality is actually more complicated than fiction.to escape reality we watch fiction and somehow we see the characters as heroes.shiva is a hero for us.the perfect guy.how can he do something that is questionable on moral grounds?

I have always wanted raavi to speak up against suman, to answer her back. But in reality she is behaving as most new DILs behave, I am talking only about the suman and raavi relationship. Her reactions to shiva is all together a different topic.

My mother ignored all the taunts of my grandmother when she was newly married.she would not say anything, just act as if she never heard anything and quietly went on doing her chores.today after 32 years of marriage, they share a much friendlier relationship.not only in my house, but in several households I have seen the older generation rudeness being ignored.people everyday don't stand up to their elders and show them the mirror.

But again raavi is our heroine.we expect her to speak up.

Thank you for sharing, and that's exactly what I am talking about. We find catharsis in fictional characters who hail as heroes, but in reality, every person is their hero-devil.

Let me share with you a fascinating interview with Alankrita Srivastava. It's such beautifully worded and measured.

https://youtu.be/jto9FnZgeyA

Originally posted by: VaishnaviG

Very true Piu.

But I have learned to express my emotions to my self and move on. After crying I always feel that I gain lot of strength.Then about the people who have hurted me, I think its okay no one is always going to make you happy. And about forgiving, I think we have only one life and if we keep grudges then we would have no one by side, so forgive and move on and be in peace.

That’s my theory.😆

That's beautiful, and peace personified. 🤗

I have always said : ‘Acceptance is the most excellent form of liberation’

Originally posted by: Priyal_10

This is exactly how I have understood raavi...I wish makers were interested in exploring her character more like this...it would be treat to see a man healing a broken women...like most of the mahaan FLs do

If Raavi breaks down after this third angle track after having lost all hopes then we could still get this ❤️

Originally posted by: Priyal_10

This is exactly how I have understood raavi...I wish makers were interested in exploring her character more like this...it would be treat to see a man healing a broken women...like most of the mahaan FLs do

@bold

When I saw the marriage track, this is exactly how I thought the story would be. Shiva healing a broken raavi, putting together the pieces patiently.being his silent protector, her strength,her dor.

Then raavi gradually overcoming her grief, learning to smile again, falling for shiva slowly and steadily.

All throughout keeping the shivi essence, nok jhok intact, bachpan connection intact.