Hi everyone, I am Pratichi; I am usually a silent member of this forum. I love the EDT discussions and a #shivi shipper.
After going through all the posts here, however, I have a genuine question: while both Shiva and Raavi are wrong on many accounts, I am wondering why the burden of understanding Shiva's insecurity should fall on Raavi. Yes, Raavi is immature and not always perceptive, but she also has her own issues of abandonment to deal with (which of course will never be dealt with explicitly in the serial). This marriage was never an act of choice for either of them, especially for Raavi who literally faced the worst rejection possible on the day of her marriage. While Raavi may have faltered on many accounts to understand Shiva (which also develops after many trials and errors), Shiva's falling for her and consequent insecurities are not Raavi's responsibility. While Shiva's fear of rejection is understandable, but under no circumstances, can that justify Shiva's outbursts and abusive behaviors (physically) towards Raavi. At least, after their khandar and kangan misunderstanding was over, Raavi tried her best (in her own way, may not be ideal) to accept Shiva and this marriage wholeheartedly. It's difficult for Raavi to fall for Shiva rightaway given the history and the contrasting personalities; but at least she started. But Shiva's male ego and insecurity tested her attempts time and again leading to this confrontation today. I am not blaming Shiva here because one can understand from where his insecurities are coming but that again cannot justify his bad behaviour (almost borderline abusive) towards Raavi in the past few days. Both were equally wrong here (and that's the beauty of any relationship) and hope they rise from here together.
Just an honest reflection and not at all intended for hurting anyone. :)