Episode Spoiler - 22 June 2021 - Page 12

Originally posted by: inlieu

I don't think he ever had her phone tapped. Sunny came down from Delhi and I doubt Keerti's ever been there. It seems as if he only recently moved to Hyderabad. What prompted this? Maybe they had a long-distance relationship, may have met on the phone or online.

Regarding Raghav's team, if the IT guys and security are any indication, he's not good at recruiting people. 😕

Yeah, Harish was not subtle at all while tailing her and was easily scared off by Pallavi, so maybe it is incompetence.

They may have been long distance..or maybe they met at uni or something, where you have people from all over.

Originally posted by: Diya2021

@bold this is what was eating me up when I heard him say it. He was being very insensitive. Just two days back he felt happy that she called him Mera Pati and he is happy his Amma has accepted him. I don’t want to give an excuse saying because he was lonely all these years, he tried to seek the acceptance of his family and Pallavi. You wanted everyone’s acceptance and you wanted everyone to make you their priority but you are not ready to accept them…that’s not fair in the relationship. I’m actually more upset now because only yesterday I was thinking they have such a beautiful relationship and today suddenly it felt Raghav hasn’t learned anything. I for one felt that he has accepted her as his wife but now I feel he is holding back still. Like Pallavi said yesterday —- I thought you are an open book but you had kept a chapter closed. I felt this was foreshadowing Mandar’s track as well. She is going be again upset that he hadn’t bothered to disclose anything to her.

So I'm not going to defend Raghav's words today, because as I said, he made me fairly angry today. 'Eating me up' is the perfect phrase, it's exactly how I feel. That said, while I completely disapprove of how he acted, I do know where he's coming from. I do not think it necessarily takes away from the beauty of their relationship. He's learned some- there's a lot he still has to learn. They're in unchartered territory, and figuring out how to lead their lives together. They're bound to mess up on the way, so it's realistic. Na Raghav overnight perfect husband ban sakta hai, na Pallavi overnight perfect wife. It's a journey.

For today, yes, he was insensitive and below the belt, both in general, but especially in light of recent events. He fcked up, she knows it, he knows it- there's no defending it. I believe an apology is due, and he needs to get a hold of his words for the future. Banter is one thing, but Raghav's taunts do cross lines sometimes. One day, Pallavi will not be able to take them so sportingly.

ETA: Again, I'll take all of this back if it is indeed all a part of a trap for Sunny, which is an outcome I want so, so badly, because of just how brilliant it would be, but I'm keeping expectations low to avoid disappointment 😅

I was expecting one day its going to come - this is my parivaar, you stay away from it. But didn't expect it to come this soon. Well, don't we all do or say things in real life too, even though we don't mean it? I am giving my own benefit of doubt that Raghav has a sharp tongue and it just came across.

Originally posted by: inlieu

Wife ko poori tarah se wife nahin maana hai abhi tak. That's why. He's still got a while to travel.

Haa sautan aayega tab jake akal ayega then run after biwi like majnu pallavi pallavi chillatha huwa

Originally posted by: inlieu

I think it's a great idea. Saanp bhi marega aur Keerti bhi nahin bhagegi.

Aap bhi. Kahan he didn't even want to go with Raghav for the surprise and lifelong with him under one roof..

Originally posted by: Diya2021

@bold this is what was eating me up when I heard him say it. He was being very insensitive. Just two days back he felt happy that she called him Mera Pati and he is happy his Amma has accepted him. I don’t want to give an excuse saying because he was lonely all these years, he tried to seek the acceptance of his family and Pallavi. You wanted everyone’s acceptance and you wanted everyone to make you their priority but you are not ready to accept them…that’s not fair in the relationship. I’m actually more upset now because only yesterday I was thinking they have such a beautiful relationship and today suddenly it felt Raghav hasn’t learned anything. I for one felt that he has accepted her as his wife but now I feel he is holding back still. Like Pallavi said yesterday —- I thought you are an open book but you had kept a chapter closed. I felt this was foreshadowing Mandar’s track as well. She is going be again upset that he hadn’t bothered to disclose anything to her.

I just don't think Raghav is ready to give more of himself to Pallavi, or anyone for that matter, for now. He's not in that headspace and he still hasn't thought through their future together. Not that he's had the time during this roller coaster ride. He is still going with roles and responsibilities, and is not even at the friend or companion stage with her. That's going to take a looong time for him, and I don't mind it at all.

It's not an excuse, it's just the way he is because he hasn't had a meaningful relationship with anyone for a long long time (putting Farhad aside for a second). I also think that we haven't seen the core of his trauma and abandonment issues being explored. He reconciled with Amma, fine but there's a lot that he went through over the years that's been left unexplored.

As for Pallavi, when there is a risk of losing her forever, that's what will make him reconsider what he wants for her and himself, and them as a couple. I said this a few times in the past and will repeat today, that Raghav is living in the moment, still on the surface. I don't think he's had time to think through what he wants for himself now that he is sticking to being married to Pallavi. What kind of husband does he want to be, what kind of marriage does he wish for, what does he expect of his wife, and how does he see their relationship evolve beyond mere roles and responsibilities? He's so used to being a lone wolf that his natural instinct isn't to share with someone or talk through his issues. It's more about here's a problem or challenge, and I need to fix it ASAP. We've seen that over and over again, and unlike with business issues, when it comes to relationships, Raghav has so far been shown thinking tactically and not strategically. Same thing in his interactions with the Deshmukhs. He focused more on the need of the hour rather than a holistic approach.

I know we all want them to fall in love, etc. but let's not rush into labeling them as being in that stage, 'cause they clearly aren't. Also, acceptance doesn't have to be an all or nothing deal. It is in the case of Pallavi, because she's wired that way, but for people like Raghav, it happens bit by bit over a period of time. How long that period is, we'll find out eventually.

Originally posted by: aye-masakalii

So I'm not going to defend Raghav's words today, because as I said, he made me fairly angry today. 'Eating me up' is the perfect phrase, it's exactly how I feel. That said, while I completely disapprove of how he acted, I do know where he's coming from. I do not think it necessarily takes away from the beauty of their relationship. He's learned some- there's a lot he still has to learn. They're in unchartered territory, and figuring out how to lead their lives together. They're bound to mess up on the way, so it's realistic. Na Raghav overnight perfect husband ban sakta hai, na Pallavi overnight perfect wife. It's a journey.

For today, yes, he was insensitive and below the belt, both in general, but especially in light of recent events. He fcked up, she knows it, he knows it- there's no defending it. I believe an apology is due, and he needs to get a hold of his words for the future. Banter is one thing, but Raghav's taunts do cross lines sometimes. One day, Pallavi will not be able to take them so sportingly.

ETA: Again, I'll take all of this back if it is indeed all a part of a trap for Sunny, which is an outcome I want so, so badly, because of just how brilliant it would be, but I'm keeping expectations low to avoid disappointment 😅

yeah we know Raghav doesn’t shun from apologies. And you are right, both are learning. Like Pallavi said she learns and applies it maybe more quicker than him 😄 I guess I was more disappointed altogether with the Raghav I have in mind. He freaked me with his burst on Pallavi and if altogether it’s not a plan as well which sadly I feel is not, I’m going to be disappointed with the Raghav Rao I admire. He has always been so ruthless and calculative in all his moves and I don’t want him to be taken on this emotional run for a sister who isn’t worthy of his love.

Originally posted by: jakkula.sirisha

Haa sautan aayega tab jake akal ayega then run after biwi like majnu pallavi pallavi chillatha huwa

I am really dreading seeing him as some Majnu or Devdas. Just the thought of it makes me cringe. I'd rather he be in control of his life while battling his emotions, or rather discovering his emotions, though I don't know if the writers have the ability to put that kind of narrative together because it's difficult to do.

Yesterday I was like if he has any doubts about Keerthi Sunny relationship not working out in the long run, then why is he even agreeing to it before doing a thorough bg check? But now, when I think about it I actually like his approach in the whole matter except for the words he threw at Pallavi about staying out of his family matters. That was extremely stupid of him if that was not an act. I don't know why I am so inclined to believe that this is a joint plan. Anyway, my point is why bother so much if Keerthi couldn't care less about what Raghav feels, thinkw or does for her. He is right.. let her marry the guy she loves if thats what makes her happy.. her happiness is what matters to him right now and that may seem very short sighted but its practical.. If the guy really loves her, they can have a good life. And if he is a fraud or if things don't turn out the way they are hoping they do, then they can help her get a divorce if that's what she wants. I now like how he said " nahi kaam kiya to divorce le lega" The point here is, let Keerthi make the choice, right or wrong, let her bear the consequences. Atleast that way, she won't turn around and blame Raghav or her family for not supporting her.

Originally posted by: inlieu

I just don't think Raghav is ready to give more of himself to Pallavi, or anyone for that matter, for now. He's not in that headspace and he still hasn't thought through their future together. Not that he's had the time during this roller coaster ride. He is still going with roles and responsibilities, and is not even at the friend or companion stage with her. That's going to take a looong time for him, and I don't mind it at all.

It's not an excuse, it's just the way he is because he hasn't had a meaningful relationship with anyone for a long long time (putting Farhad aside for a second). I also think that we haven't seen the core of his trauma and abandonment issues being explored. He reconciled with Amma, fine but there's a lot that he went through over the years that's been left unexplored.

As for Pallavi, when there is a risk of losing her forever, that's what will make him reconsider what he wants for her and himself, and them as a couple. I said this a few times in the past and will repeat today, that Raghav is living in the moment, still on the surface. I don't think he's had time to think through what he wants for himself now that he is sticking to being married to Pallavi. What kind of husband does he want to be, what kind of marriage does he wish for, what does he expect of his wife, and how does he see their relationship evolve beyond mere roles and responsibilities? He's so used to being a lone wolf that his natural instinct isn't to share with someone or talk through his issues. It's more about here's a problem or challenge, and I need to fix it ASAP. We've seen that over and over again, and unlike with business issues, when it comes to relationships, Raghav has so far been show thinking tactically and not strategically. Same thing in his interactions with the Deshmukhs. He focused more on the need of the hour rather than a holistic approach.

I know we all want them to fall in love, etc. but let's not rush into labeling them as being in that stage, 'cause they clearly aren't. Also, acceptance doesn't have to be an all or nothing deal. It is in the case of Pallavi, because she's wired that way, but for people like Raghav, it happens bit by bit over a period of time. How long that period is, we'll find out eventually.

I understand what you saying. It’s going to take time for him and I agree he might start considering only when there is risk of losing her. I don’t want them to fall in love quickly but I had felt he is crossed the stage where he wouldn’t hurt her feelings anymore. Love is something which he hasn’t even thought about but that care and thoughtfulness he has been showing towards her needs made today’s outburst look insensitive. She might not show that she was hurt by his words but it did. Just because she fights back, it doesn’t mean she isn’t effected. Apologies are soon due hopefully but I don’t want this pattern. He was never portrayed as that ML who hurts and then apologises to FL.