Originally posted by: anamika365
As much as i agree with everything she has said (everything everyone has said here as well), i cannot entirely digest the concept of that one condition.
She could have said this is what I see in our future - go back and think about this, think about what you would do if you were faced with a similar dilemma. think of what may have happened for a woman to stay away and alone without her family for so many years. think of when I go to college or work post-marriage will he be staunchly able to support her or not. Including Aastha in his life is a personal thing for him, because his life was deeply affected by it. He wont be able to forgive his mother that easily. Now that she has asked him to consider it as a condition for them to be together, anything he does to repair his relationship will not be from his heart for his mother. It will be for Anokhi. Yes, it will kickstart the process (and i would love to watch his dilemma, his pain, his reflection hopefully) but it won't be from his own observations but because of an external nudge. And Aastha wouldn't like it either. If she gets to know about it, she wouldn't agree to it either.
Actions speak louder than words. Anokhi needs an assurance from him to know he will agree to everything is saying right now. but in that respect, he could openly accept this marriage in front of his family, he should tell his BM this is what i have done, these are her conditions and I accept those because I love her the way she is and her dreams are important for me as well. And i will support her in that. He won't be able to let go of the parvarish he has gotten but it will be a start and he can go ahead from there. He has fought for her before in her absence, its his turn now to show the same support in front of her.
I don't mind her drawing the analogy because it is 100% accurate, my only thing is that, it should not be the base of a new married life.
So I start with the fact that, he married her against her will. His action already shows that he doesn’t support her truly. Her words mean nothing in front of his wants. He denies that.....well then prove it!
One of his most stubborn views is that his mom is selfish. His future actions will prove if he’s willing to actually reassess that. If he’s willing to change.
The base of their marriage is his selfishness and fear. So why is it wrong for her to ask him to assuage her fear....so that she may accept the marriage and assuage his fears??
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