Originally posted by: jankiraghav
Virat was a big disappointment but I am not sure if we can conclude that his characterisation has gone down... I mean, we had too much of a goody image of him -- self-sacrificing, never in the wrong, insaaf pasand, too good to be true man for Sai. He can't be. He has to be human. He has to have his transgressions -- may be even unjustified. He is a product of a toxic family and it is natural in some ways for him to have a patriarchal mindset like today. I did not see it as a character break but a character revelation because I was finding him too good to be true in that uniform. Honestly, the (any) uniform really makes the ugliest men look smart and upright but only when you get to know them closely, you know what they are. I think, he is at a stage where he is being pushed to make choices he never thought he'd have to make and before making those choices, he has to make those judgements. And, he is failing at some of it. Those decisions that he knows he has to take, he has taken with all conviction -- which is why, when I made that post the day he threw that "meri family to jeeto" challenge and compared it to Sai's "love for challenges" for people like Vitthal and Jagtap, I asked these questions -- does he have the nerve to choose her over his family in the first place, before asking her to put in these efforts to win over his douchebag Baba and vile Kaku? Today, he gave the answer. Right now, it is "NO". He doesn't. And that's perhaps because there is so much self-created mess that is "unresolved" between them (only within their relationship)-- insecurity, the mistrust within the "trust", self-esteem, the self-created 'distance' and more than anything else, the knowledge that they have decided not to get "bound" as normal husband and wife. So, while it was his own offering to her - he himself is not able to handle his overwhelming feeling in this loveless marriage. He suddenly wants her and he does not want any questions to be raised at his choice of his wife -- he is torn. He is in a hurry to have her accepted in the house, to not hear complaints about her "behaviour". But unfortunately, just like his thoughtless offer of the loveless marriage, his U-turn is also abrupt and thoughtless -- not from the point of view of writing but from Virat's behaviour. His "jaldbaazi" ke faisle come back to bite him and that is his flaw- he just wants an immediate solution/end to a confrontation -- when he has the conviction, he will do as he pleases and when he doesn't have it, he will surrender and leave everyone baffled.
I want to confess that when I first watched the episode this morning, I had a fleeting feeling that he was just playing to the gang and he knew they were lying and he would come up with something to outsmart them--- only until he chose Option2 from Ninad's ultimatum. That really took away any kind of justification I could have thought of his annoyance about the whole Alta nonsense -- i could even have conceded that he got upset at the idea that Kaku was manhandled (without knowing who manhandled whom) but not the fact that he was almost not affected at the thought of asking her to leave the house with a simple "Wo akele kaise rahegi"... arrey, toh jaao na. For a guy, who misused his position to check out a guy in her college, this is unpardonable just like the comparison of this obnoxious situation to the sexual abuse she has faced.
His transgression will still not take away from the fact that he does care for Sai but the "unresolved" is coming in the way of establishing that absolute no-entry territory in their marriage, which allows anyone and everyone to enter in between their space and widen the gap at times -- he needs to ask why any third person has so much influence over him in matters related to Sai ever since he's begun to get attracted to her. It stems from the insecurity of not being intimate -- and I don't mean "consummation". I mean the "conjugal" relationship. There is a difference. Conjugal does not mean âsexual relationsâ it means intimacy that gives one a sense of permanence and serious commitment to one another. But again, it is his doing that he told her she cannot have the "umeed" i.e. "conjugal rights" on him in this marriage. Now, he is the one, who is feeling insecure about it and it has turned him almost bipolar where he wants to reign her in at one moment and is stupefied in the other. He has to go through self-introspection before wanting to have the 'wife' he wants Sai to be. She will slap her cheek again and bring herself out of thoughts of desiring him, no matter how hurtful but he seems to be the one who will find it difficult to let go of the attachment he is feeling.
He needs to "love" her, not just desire her. If he cannot, then he better stop threatening other guys around her, who can give her all that respect and peace that she deserves.
Am I allowed to gush at this reply? Please excuse me but đđ€. Sorry đ.
When I read the main plot of Kusum Dola, I dismissed it as a trp-grossing on & off love story. I assumed that the hindi version was making it into a more logical version. But reading your reply, I wonder if KD was never supposed to be about a 'likeable' ML, but rather about a dark-grey ML and the complications his serious flaws cause in his marriage. I guess the problem is in the perspective - we want a 'likeable ML'. Your analysis of Virat in this reply certainly brings forth very logically, the mental state of a deeply flawed individual caught in the mess of his own making. If that is the intention, I hope they maintain the characterization and character growth that way (for the sake of consistency). I am reminded of one my friends's husband. He was such a such a strange mix - highly educated but MCP to the core (had obnoxious views on rapeđĄ). Believed in good values, and by all accounts, an honest man in his dealings with the outside world. He had manipulative mom and sister, yet cared for his family (especially his sister) to the point of self-sacrifice and self-denial. He was supportive of my friend's job, also got the feeling that there was care towards her as well...would be thoughtful towards her in some cases but controlling in other cases. I hope I'm not jumping to a convoluted conclusion about the show đ€Ș
@bold I wished so too....đ
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