Originally posted by: AreYaar
Oh word.....you know when we were watching this phase in real time, it was so hard to watch Kesar in this phase....he had become so desperate in his need for Gulaal that he had started acting out more....he again got misled by Raman in using the panchayat to coerce Gulaal into coming home....and ofcourse it was wrong of him to demand attention from Gulaal like "Mujhe khaana bhi Gulaal hi degi toh main khaunga"....these were the bits when we got to see that repressed child still inside Kesar who only knew this one way of getting Gulaal's attention and when nothing else worked, he reverted to acting like a stubborn child. Woh pyar se baat karne ki koshish karta tha toh Gulaal would slap him or say he had "paap ki bhaavna"😆.....so then he would revert to these childish stubborn tantrums to get her attention.....it really was a one of a kind clash of wills. It's like the more one acted stubborn, the other had to try and outdo that😆......they both kept digging in more and more in this stubbornness until Talli finally got through to Kesar ki Gulaal aise nahin samajhne waali and will only retreat more into a shell the more he tries to forcibly get her attention.
*Edit: And I'd add, it was just so refreshing to see women supporting each other on PRINCIPLE in this story....like Reva unabashedly telling Kesar off for his behavior with Gulaal and telling Gulaal that she completely supports her for not giving in to Kesar ke tantrums....it wasn't like the typical storylines of women only supporting or opposing each other on the basis of which man they want to impress/support. I liked that scene where Gulaal firmly pointed out that she's agreed to be a wife, not a DAASI and no one can force her to be a daasi.....matlab aaj kal ke kisi show mein milega aisa scene? Kabhi nahin😆......matlab a show where so many family members openly discuss allowing a woman her CHOICE to make decisions per HER comfort level.....I feel like preserving each epi of this show as some kind of prehistoric artifact🤣.....kyunki such storylines don't seem like they will be possible again as the world continues to regress despite claiming 'progressiveness' on some platforms.
+100 the fact that they supported each other without any agenda is so refreshing to see and that too going against their blood relations sometimes they all stood for the right which is why all of them are so likeable and demand your attention and want you to root for them. That daasi line was toh full seeti maar moment and so on point. That is somehow the general perception ke bas daasi hi ban jao. Warna you are disobedient and not a good wife.
LOL@ Talli using sindoor drama to shock Kesar into letting go of this zidd with Gulaal😆.....but to this day, I still don't get how Kesar jumped from that scene to going over to Gulaal and confronting her about how she represses herself and the woman inside her....lol matlab I LOVE that "Warna KYA"? confrontation scene but I still don't get the correlation b/w Talli's lecture to Kesar and then jumping to this scene....aisa kya connect ho gaya Kesar ke dimaag mein? lol but I did appreciate that he confronted Gulaal on his own terms and didn't make it about "Talli ne mujhe samjhaya toh now I'll let you go"😆.
Hahah yes koi sense nahi tha uska pehle toh mujhe laga tha she is telling him to use these oche hathkande like I will do suicide types and usne pata nahi kaisa assr kia but I think the main point was exactly that for talli ke iss tarah ka emotional BM karke one can't get someone and kesar ko yeh tab hi samjh aaya when talli used it on him with the suicide and sindoor bhar. Oh yes I also appreciated ke yeh apni baat karta tha apne terms pe ratoo 🦜 ki tarah sab repeat nahi karta tha and valid points rakhta tha in these confrontations. The repressed woman wala point was odd because we didn't get any thing around him for him reaching that conclusion the sindoor.scene with talli only taught him to not use emotional BM yeh wala I guess was a slip but they had to reach that point so did it
And then we get DV round 3 in the Panchayat....lol....this time with Kesar wanting to break it off....Gulaal's reaction is again so telling....she isn't instantly joyous....her first reaction is shock only and she is shown very thoughtful even as she says yes to still wanting to break the DV. This back and forth about the DV was so well done in the course of the story.....every little bit reveals new layers to their thought process. This shows that Gulaal was only clinging to her decision out of stubborn pride....all she kept repeating was, "Main Kesar ko kabhi pati nahin maan sakti" even though when it came down to it, she wasn't exactly joyful about breaking the DV😆
Yup indeed she was shocked but it did shook him in a different way too deep down she had accepted the DV and made her peace with it just going in limbo like that she has been comfortable with the name ka DV and probably didn't wanted it ti actually break or if it breaks it breaks on her terms so when he said that she was like huh how can he for a bit 😆 but yes iska mental block yehi tha ke au4 kuch bhi theek hai we will bond we will care we will love too but won't give it the formal pati patni wala naam caz that was off limits for her😆And was a paap ki bhawna🤣
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I loved that the show ultimately explored that even if a DV may have given a technical name to their relationship, they always shared a bond beyond the technical label of pati-patni.....Gulaal's biggest struggle was rising above those labels to understand what Kesar really meant to her.
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