First of all thank you Mini! I loved your post! The thing here though is that neither one of them are completely wrong, nor are they both equally correct.
Abir's band-aid comes at a cost of his self respect, and Mishti's surgery (Deepa's brilliant word) comes at a cost sometimes the blameless to be blamed. The thing is they need to balance their viewpoints and how Badimaa said it, listen to each other. Mishti has identified Kuhu as a potential threat, and is trying to warn Abir but he sees Meenakshi pull the strings and doesn't care. Because of Meenu's dominant personality one person has to mellow down, and Abir takes it by leaving the house while most of the family sides with Meenu even if he brings up a valid point. I think this is the root cause of his self depreciation, his voice is the only one ringing for them all but no one not even Nanu at times is willing to support him at the cost of Meenu. It is sad that he feels that his family is better off without him, and leaves. But when he tried to move out they stopped him, I think it is very mixed signals. See he has reached a point where no one wants to support him, remember the baba track when his father basically went and got his marriage fixed, not one person was happy for him. Nanu later on agrees, but at that time he himself is mad. He found his self worth in that household by helping others and not expecting much in return which has unfortunately caused him to do the same outside of his household. Many people realize this and help and accept him, but like Kunal said many others try and take advantage of that. Everyone is in praises of Kunal today, but I think this is the actual Kunal. If you think about it, in the beginning Abir keeps saying that Kunal was not like this, the one year with Meenu one-on-one had changed him. I thought he was making excuses at that time, but now I think Abir was right, Kunal wasn't so selfish. And as much as we hate Kuhu right now, she has shown him the mirror of his actions and has been scarred by his actions.
I can't believe I am defending Kuhu, but yes she has always been like this. She is spoiled, but she is also hurt. Just like Mishti, for some time in her life, she wasn't accepted by her own father. (P.S I didn't watch parent show so please correct me if I am wrong, I just saw some scenes.) When she is accepted by her family, in her mind, they are "stolen" by Mishti. None of it is true, but in her mind that is what she thinks. She has made up that all the problems were caused by Mishti and has never been checked by her family, rather they fanned it! And that has festered into an ugly mindset that is affecting her love life, as well as Mishti's. Because Kunal had fooled her once because of Mishti, she is afraid it may happen again, and is trying to get rid of her before that. But in this process she is not realizing that she is distancing herself from Kunal. Due to the distance, she is angry again, and blames Mishti, it is a pretty vicious cycle. It is crazy how insecure all these characters are, I think it is what makes them all real, and makes us so frustrated or attached to them.
@bold - Aishu can u elaborate??
Basically what ur saying is by not listening to any of his opinions Abir thought that he was not needed there... since his opinions never matter?? When push comes to shove in their battle of wills, all family members will chose Meenu over him and he doesn't want to cause further unrest by staying at RV house and questioning Meenu's every move, but his nature wouldn't allow him to submit also. So, he runs away from the situation. He found his worth by helping others or making their voices heard.
Kunal was always like this, it goes with the Kunal who was potrayed in the beginning of the show. He goes along with his maa's and bhai's wishes, because the guy doesn't know what he wants basically. He was the ball in their tennis match😆 His world revolves around his mother and brother. For him to accept anyone into that circle is difficult. His treatment of Mishti is understandable. He wanted a wife who would be just like him......someone who goes along with what the family wants. When Mishti rejected him his ego was hurt and he made her into a conniving person in his mind based on Meenu's inputs. So, basically to save his bhai he became 'sabse bura'(in his words) and when he realised his bhai was suffering he became 'sabse accha'. Now, he has admitted he loves Kuhu, but the fact is we don't know whether he loves the real Kuhu or if he loves the version of Kuhu who makes his family happy by her Kuhuness. Now, its actually a test of his love when he realises the person he married is complicated, not simple in her motivations as him.
Coming to Kuhu, honestly her POV and backstory is not convincing, because it has never been shown properly.
Okay, her birth was not perfect, she was the illegitimate kid of the family. But the fact is, it was a long time ago. She was accepted into the family when she was 5 or 6, Varsha became her mother from then on. She struggled. But I dnt know how much scarred for life you will be for the struggle she faced when she was 5 ? Like was she taunted in school for being illegitimate? Or what exactly did she suffer for having a deep resentment against Mishti that she is willing to go to any extreme??
Okay, I understand anyone would feel bad to share their family and would feel insecure when another person gets more attention. But is that really a big reason for having a deep rooted hatred and resentment against another person, to the extent that you abuse them physically and mentally at every turn?? But, she was supportive too when the said person was suffering from heartbreak. Honestly, her character sketch is not convincing unless they are showing her as someone who has the maturity of a 10 year old. Unless someone has any pointers on the why's of her behaviour??
Coming to Mishti, her scars are easily visible because she got them when she was 13 or 14 when she was an almost grown up and could understand what was going around her and got hurt because of that. Like, her parents gave her up, she was uprooted from the family she grew up to another one where she was not fully accepted and her classmates used to taunt her saying she was a murderer's daughter. So, we can relate somewhat more to her state of mind. Not that everything she does is relatable.
It must have been really tiring to track down the post.
Poor girl......😒
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