Originally posted by: LoveInAutumn26
LMAOO I really don't understand what people want from Babita sometimes.
I remember Babita was called heartless, egoistic, selfish for wanting to leave the haveli and separating Mini and HS. Aur abb she wants Mini and HS to be father-daughter, she is getting bashed again. I know her approach is wrong and she shouldn't be forcing it on them, I am not defending her at all. I am just saying people don't try to understand Babita's POV. She always saw HS and Mini as father-daughter because they both led her to believe so.
@bold: Exactly! Should I not take HS's word for it when he says he married Babita for himself? As a viewer, I am confused because isn't that what the writers wanna show too? They are the ones writing this story and these characters. Their tweet "its easy to proclaim yourself as a father to impress the mother". How should I comprehend this tweet? 🤔
Ok fine I will even believe he did that to assure Mini that I am ready to let your mom in my life after Mini and him had an argument in the morning regarding Imarti... but Babita doesn't know about Mini-HS's conversation, how will she know that he was reassuring Babita or Mini at that point, and not literally calling himself Mini's father. Also, his next words followed "nahi ban paya mein father", and Mini's confession "mujhe pata hai Hanuman Uncle mujhe sachme beti nahi mante". So, both HS and Mini knew their dynamics, why the eff were they faking it is what I wanna know??? 🤪
To be fair, I don't think anyone was faking it. They both got swept in the flow and as Minnie said, after a point the lines became blurred until both got a hard slap in the face during the wedding. Minnie had begun to believe she was his daughter and he had begun to believe he could be a good father to her. It's a shame they both feel they failed and considered the wedding some sort of deadline to achieve that target instead of the starting point to build that bond going forward. Neither of them is giving themselves a second chance even if they want to.
Please bear with me as I give an example of adoption. When parents adopt children, they mentally and emotionally consider them their child, but to form the bond and understand the child takes time, especially if they haven't known the child since day one. It doesn't mean that they don't love the child, just that it takes time to register. Here Minnie's an adult who's got 17 years of history that HS doesn't know about, while she didn't see HS over the years either. They still have a lot to learn about each other despite caring so much and loving one another. If they had not been so close, then as a mother even if Babita had somehow decided to marry HS, she would prefer if they could share a father-daughter bond eventually. I think with the way she saw Minnie and HS' interactions she thought the work was done.
I have always said they weren't quite father-daughter yet and that there was a gap because they haven't been able to accept each other fully in those roles, not because they didn't want to but because they didn't really think things through and know what those roles truly meant in this context, even though their genuine intentions may have been to get there at one point. Perhaps they will never be, no matter how much we want it, perhaps they will. Depends on their upcoming journey. Minnie has to learn to be a daughter and he has to learn to be a father, if that's what they both want from each other. If not, then their sole connection is through Babita and they may end up having just a formal/legal relationship.
I think the recent glossing over the details after Babita's outburst is what both of them need to rectify ASAP and calmly explain to Babita that they need time to work out their dynamics and it might not end up being what she wants, but that they will figure something out over time. Even if Babita gets upset, it's better for her to know this sooner rather than later and take the pressure off everyone, including her. Kab tak chalega?
A lot of what Minnie and HS know about each other is because of their one on one interactions. Babita wasn't involved in many of those conversations or incidents so she has no idea of the backstory. Even during the CD incident when HS brought up the fact that Minnie had not wanted him to be with her mother, Babita had no context about this. It's a different matter that she didn't try to find out, but HS and Minnie didn't elaborate on this either.
The main problem is that they got married in a rush, when none of them was ready. They didn't talk about their present or future and just jumped right in. That's why it's even more confusing for them all. HS and Babita should have talked to each other about what happened during the puja, and I believe they would have if the letter hadn't arrived. Then everything got lost in the Imarti track, Minnie and Babita fought, and Minnie chose to show her fierce loyalty to HS.
Babita eventually was about to move out but HS bringing Pinku, Poonam's words, and Babita seeing Minnie being upset about leaving the haveli (and HS) made her reconsider. Again, the three of them didn't have a proper discussion before or after the proposal and they then switched gears to wedding preparations and endless siyappa.
So here we are now.
The main question is how will the three adjust to these changes? How important are they to one another and will they truly become a unit or will they remain somewhat of a dysfunctional family?
Edited by inlieu - 6 years ago
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