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Awwww Gur.... Though I loved reading your take I still feel for HS... Prima facie he now becomes my main reason of watching the show more than the mother daughter duo... The writing in the rake of trp game got affected badly.... And so the disconnect over HS character especially.... But still I will hold on for Anirudh as he plays HS in such a way that I am hell bent of not losing him to see....

Yes I am also in one of those who enjoyed the reunion....

Originally posted by: Resham

Awwww Gur.... Though I loved reading your take I still feel for HS... Prima facie he now becomes my main reason of watching the show more than the mother daughter duo... The writing in the rake of trp game got affected badly.... And so the disconnect over HS character especially.... But still I will hold on for Anirudh as he plays HS in such a way that I am hell bent of not losing him to see....

Yes I am also in one of those who enjoyed the reunion....

Don't get me wrong, I'm happy that HS and Minnie patched up, but all of this could have been completely avoided. It was an unnecessary headache and what could have been a joyous night was spoiled for no reason.

HS' fear of not being an adequate father, or whether or no Minnie wants a father for herself, are all valid issues. But they could have been lightly touched on during the night of, or heavily picked up on after the wedding proper. Literally every single function had some sort of siyappa. They could have at least left the actual wedding alone. Instead, what we got was one of the most depressing weddings ever. Is this what we were building up towards? Two sullen faces and one who was doing a weird hybrid of crying/smiling?

And I don't care what people have to say about social conditioning when it comes to marriages. But if you're not happy while doing the fricking phere or are putting on a face like you're attending a funeral, then you shouldn't be getting married in the first place. What kind of mentality are you bringing forth into this new marital life? Is this how you want to remember your special day? Where the daughter retreated from the wedding itself because of how she was accused; the mother had a horrible breakdown and was constantly only thinking about her daughter and not paying attention to her new husband; and the father was made to feel like an outsider by both his new wife and the girl whom he had thought wanted him as her dad?

This entire wedding was turned into a nasty joke.

Anirudh / HS is now my only reason for watching the show as well. I want things to be done right by HS, but given the fact that this show revolves around the mother-daughter duo, he will never be given the same level of attention as they do.

Originally posted by: asmaanixx

The episode was nice but the payoff wasn't the same for me.

First of all, the entire CD fiasco was done solely to create drama for TRPs. As a result of that, Hanita's shaadi was tainted horribly. Neither HS, Babita or Minnie were happy that night and it fricking pains me SO MUCH. This night should have marked a new beginning for them and yet they were all splintered. We were all so upset to see how HS was neglected throughout the entire wedding preparations. But as we saw in the CD, HS composed a large portion of it. So I'm assuming that Minnie had prepared two separate speeches. The first one was for Babes and the fear that she had about losing her. The second one would have addressed HS, the space he holds in Minnie's life, how their relationship has evolved since they first met and how the fears she previously held were dissipated. But we got NONE of that. And why? Because of some petty drama that could have been completely avoided.

Secondly, it would have never taken HS this long to check up on Minnie after what happened that night. Granted, he might not have been able to see clearly on the wedding night itself, but what about the days after? Could he not have spoken to her about it later on his own? Instead, he kept asking her mundane questions about her studies, when he could have questioned her how she was doing. Or, asked her for more clarifications as to what actually happened. It makes me wonder if the CD hadn't arrived, then would he have ever brought the topic or simply gone on to assume that she was quiet and disturbed because of her upcoming exams?

Thirdly, I'm still very shaken by Babita's revelation. The type of behavior she displayed in the first two nights of her marriage was extremely immature and childish. Her fear of him leaving her like Ashok did, did not justify the way she spoke to HS on their wedding night, or how she kept yelling at him that Minnie is her first priority. Furthermore, it doesn't add up with the way she acted before marriage wherein she wanted to demonstrate some rights over him.

Lastly, I can't connect with the characters anymore. I lost touch with Minnie because of the constant overdose we got in the marriage track. She was in my face so much that I've simply stopped caring about her. It's gotten to the point that I've begun to appreciate her when I see her less on screen. It's the same thing with Babita. I get a whiplash every time I see this woman. I have literally no idea how she's going to make me react and that's not a good sign. After 200+ episodes, I should have a grasp on the basic core characteristics of my main lead, but I can't seem to do that because of how much she changes stories to fit her convenience. There's HS whom I still feel for, but even that's being tampered with because of the way he's mistreated.

Overall, I just can't connect with the show in the same I used to. Whether Hanita patch up or Hannie, it just doesn't make a difference to me anymore.

Awww Gurrr I feel you 😭 . I agree the CD ka drama was not needed. That totally ruined Hanita's wedding, made it the most depressing wedding ever... something we had been waiting for 200+ episodes. CVS did that in TRP pressure, its evident by their tweets.

I have toh lost touch with Minnie for a while now. The constant overdose of her during the wedding didn't help at all.

Babita ka kya kehna. Since after Imarti track, writers have been flip flopping Babita per their convenience. Everytime drama lana pardta hai, Babita ko scapegoat banate hain yehh writers. After 200+ episodes, we still don't know if her character has evolved or not. Sometimes she displays immense maturity like understanding emotions behind Imarti's letter, and sometimes becomes so freaking immature to the point where you wanna just shoot your head . Constant butchering and flip floping of Babita is just becoming repetitive and boring now tbh. I am done with this. I need to see a growth in Babita's character. I need to see her handling situations and supporting HS and Minni when need be. I need Babita to be emotionally strong, and ease HS from his childhood trauma.

ANDDD Khuranas ka toh I don't even wanna speak about. I think I have done that enough already in this thread and people are annoyed with me so imma leave it😆

If this continues, Imma loose patience with the show too 😒

Originally posted by: LoveInAutumn26

Awww Gurrr I feel you 😭 . I agree the CD ka drama was not needed. That totally ruined Hanita's wedding, made it the most depressing wedding ever... something we had been waiting for 200+ epodes. CVS did that in TRP pressure, its evident by their tweets.

I have toh lost touch with Minnie for a while now. The constant overdose of her during the wedding didn't help at all.

Babita ka kya kehna. Since after Imarti track, writers have been flip flopping Babita per their convenience. Everytime drama lana pardta hai, Babita ko scapegoat banate hain yehh writers. After 200+ episodes, we still don't know if her character has evolved or not. Sometimes she displays immense maturity like understanding emotions behind Imarti's letter, and sometimes becomes so freaking immature to the point where you wanna just shoot your head . Constant butchering and flip floping of Babita is just becoming repetitive and boring now tbh. I am done with this. I need to see a growth in Babita's character. I need to see her handling situations and supporting HS and Minni when need be. I need Babita to be emotionally strong, and ease HS from his childhood trauma.

ANDDD Khuranas ka toh I don't even wanna speak about. I think I have done that enough already in this thread and people are annoyed with me so imma leave it😆

If this continues, Imma loose patience with the show too 😒

And to think they had the audacity to label the shaadi wala episode "The Most Awaited Marriage". 😳 They KNEW how much this wedding means to the viewers and yet what did they do? Put the ENTIRE focus on Minnie. They could have divided the flashbacks between all three characters so that we could have gotten a sense of what their mindsets were going into the marriage. Minnie obviously felt like she lost both her parents, but how did HS feel? Was he bittersweet as he was marrying the woman he loves, but also absolutely heartbroken that he lost a daughter in the process of it? What about Babita? The CD and the Khuranas brought back A LOT of bad memories. Was she remembering her first marriage while doing the phere? Was she trying to banish those thoughts by thinking of her daughter and HS instead? I hate that there was such a heavy imbalance between the characters on what should have been a very important episode / day.

Babita pains me the most. In some ways I connect to her the most because of personal reasons, but also because I primarily write all my OSs in her POV. Because of the way she's being shown in canon, I keep second guessing myself on whether I have understood her at all or am I just making her up. Even Paridhi had been alluding to the same. It has been almost a whole year and Babita is still stuck in the same place where she had started - needing to be told how to do every little thing because she's clearly incapable of making her own decisions. 🤔

Imarti throws me off all the time. I don't understand how Babita is able to understand Imarti - a woman who's been long dead and someone whom she has never met - and yet fail to comprehend the living, breathing people around her. How does she not understand the needs of her own child or HS? I can never forgive the lack of sensitivity she showed when HS tried talking about his mother. It was his MOTHER, the first woman whom he loved immensely and failed to protect. And what did she do? Yell at him that Minnie is her first priority and runs off to sleep with her. Da eff??? She essentially told him, that yes I married you, but you and everything related to you take a second seat to my child, who is freaking asleep right now. And the justification she gave for that is that I was afraid you were going to leave me?? Thanks for making everything about you again Babita.

Okay, I can deal with the fact that she has this insecurity, but what calamity would have befallen her if she had taken a few minutes out of her life to speak to him about his mom? How does he feel about opening this room? Sleeping in her now? Seeing pictures of her hanging up on the wall again? She didn't do jack shit. She just keeps making everything either about her or Minnie and that's it. She better start paying some attention to HS and his needs otherwise I'm totally checking out. I'll just be watching it for the performances but I won't actually be invested in the characters anymore.

The Khuranas are another matter that are pissing me off at the moment. This whole drama revolving around them is irritating me to no end. Irfaan isn't wrong to question as to why Ashok or Lovely don't keep their parents with them or arrange a separate place for them to live. When Lovely was here, all she did was freaking belittle Naeem Bi and her pyaara sa ghar. If she was feeling so bad about where they were living, then why didn't she arrange for a separate place for them??? And what about Ashok? In the months since he left, did he even once bother to make a phone call to see how they were doing after all the shit he pulled?? More than Lovely, it should be HIS responsibility to find them a decent place to stay in since he's the reason why they lost their home in the first place.

Instead, we're going to get another needless drama between Minnie & Babita. I know that the precap was shown out of order but I really hope that Minnie doesn't put the entire blame on Babes. If she does, Imma be even more pissed at her. It's NOT Babita's fault that she didn't have the courage at the time to stand up for herself. How can she, if she didn't lacked the moral support to do so? If she had spoken against the Khuranas, then what would have happened? Would they have changed their ways? No. Instead, they would have btched her out to Ashok, who would have instead called her out and Lovely would have gotten even more ammunition to talk shit about her. And Minnie has the audacity to say that it was Babita's fault? Get the eff outta here with that BS.

Okay, she wants to continue visiting them since she's their grandkid. Then say that. Don't fight with Babes and make her feel even worse than she already is. She already has the habit of self-victimizing, I don't want her to take things even a step further where she blames all those 17 years on herself.

I hope the makers handle this useless khuranas issue with care. I want to ask which ex DIL and her new hubby will take in ex inlaws who have been so unsupportive and discouraging. Mini always wanted babes to speak out her mind. She always encouraged her to speak out to beeji and lovely and when babes got that courage, she is having problem and started self victimizing. This is what is getting portrayed since few episodes.

Originally posted by: divyadaya13

I hope the makers handle this useless khuranas issue with care. I want to ask which ex DIL and her new hubby will take in ex inlaws who have been so unsupportive and discouraging. Mini always wanted babes to speak out her mind. She always encouraged her to speak out to beeji and lovely and when babes got that courage, she is having problem and started self victimizing. This is what is getting portrayed since few episodes.

This is what I don't understand either. Minnie has always wanted Babes to make her own decisions and now that she has, she has a huge problem with that. She needs to understand that Babita is no longer their DIL. If they couldn't ever be bothered to see her as a person and treat her accordingly, then why should she be nice to them? She was nice to them for 17 whole years and it was all tossed aside in this past one year. Now what, she's expected to put that all aside and take care of them? Why? She did it for SEVENTEEN whole fricking years. Let Lovely and Ashok do it now.

Again, if Minnie wants to maintain ties with them, then that's on her. But she should in no way pressurize Babes to do the same. I SWEAR, if she suggests bringing the Khuranas over to the Haveli, Imma riot. 🤬

Originally posted by: asmaanixx

And to think they had the audacity to label the shaadi wala episode "The Most Awaited Marriage". 😳 They KNEW how much this wedding means to the viewers and yet what did they do? Put the ENTIRE focus on Minnie. They could have divided the flashbacks between all three characters so that we could have gotten a sense of what their mindsets were going into the marriage. Minnie obviously felt like she lost both her parents, but how did HS feel? Was he bittersweet as he was marrying the woman he loves, but also absolutely heartbroken that he lost a daughter in the process of it? What about Babita? The CD and the Khuranas brought back A LOT of bad memories. Was she remembering her first marriage while doing the phere? Was she trying to banish those thoughts by thinking of her daughter and HS instead? I hate that there was such a heavy imbalance between the characters on what should have been a very important episode / day.

Babita pains me the most. In some ways I connect to her the most because of personal reasons, but also because I primarily write all my OSs in her POV. Because of the way she's being shown in canon, I keep second guessing myself on whether I have understood her at all or am I just making her up. Even Paridhi had been alluding to the same. It has been almost a whole year and Babita is still stuck in the same place where she had started - needing to be told how to do every little thing because she's clearly incapable of making her own decisions. 🤔

Imarti throws me off all the time. I don't understand how Babita is able to understand Imarti - a woman who's been long dead and someone whom she has never met - and yet fail to comprehend the living, breathing people around her. How does she not understand the needs of her own child or HS? I can never forgive the lack of sensitivity she showed when HS tried talking about his mother. It was his MOTHER, the first woman whom he loved immensely and failed to protect. And what did she do? Yell at him that Minnie is her first priority and runs off to sleep with her. Da eff??? She essentially told him, that yes I married you, but you and everything related to you take a second seat to my child, who is freaking asleep right now. And the justification she gave for that is that I was afraid you were going to leave me?? Thanks for making everything about you again Babita.

Okay, I can deal with the fact that she has this insecurity, but what calamity would have befallen her if she had taken a few minutes out of her life to speak to him about his mom? How does he feel about opening this room? Sleeping in her now? Seeing pictures of her hanging up on the wall again? She didn't do jack shit. She just keeps making everything either about her or Minnie and that's it. She better start paying some attention to HS and his needs otherwise I'm totally checking out. I'll just be watching it for the performances but I won't actually be invested in the characters anymore.

The Khuranas are another matter that are pissing me off at the moment. This whole drama revolving around them is irritating me to no end. Irfaan isn't wrong to question as to why Ashok or Lovely don't keep their parents with them or arrange a separate place for them to live. When Lovely was here, all she did was freaking belittle Naeem Bi and her pyaara sa ghar. If she was feeling so bad about where they were living, then why didn't she arrange for a separate place for them??? And what about Ashok? In the months since he left, did he even once bother to make a phone call to see how they were doing after all the shit he pulled?? More than Lovely, it should be HIS responsibility to find them a decent place to stay in since he's the reason why they lost their home in the first place.

Instead, we're going to get another needless drama between Minnie & Babita. I know that the precap was shown out of order but I really hope that Minnie doesn't put the entire blame on Babes. If she does, Imma be even more pissed at her. It's NOT Babita's fault that she didn't have the courage at the time to stand up for herself. How can she, if she didn't lacked the moral support to do so? If she had spoken against the Khuranas, then what would have happened? Would they have changed their ways? No. Instead, they would have btched her out to Ashok, who would have instead called her out and Lovely would have gotten even more ammunition to talk shit about her. And Minnie has the audacity to say that it was Babita's fault? Get the eff outta here with that BS.

Okay, she wants to continue visiting them since she's their grandkid. Then say that. Don't fight with Babes and make her feel even worse than she already is. She already has the habit of self-victimizing, I don't want her to take things even a step further where she blames all those 17 years on herself.

Tell me about it. The Most Awaited Wedding, my FOOT! They created all the hype through SM and #hanitakishaadi to get some trps, but what did they show... 90% minnie flashback and that CD drama . I wanted the focus to be on Hanita during pheres and other wedding rituals... kitni badi cheez mang li 🤔. Also, I am sorry people can say whatever they want to to me for demanding this, but I didn't like how the consummation was handled. No one was asking for bold scenes, lekin some sort of intimate scenes was warranted. I am sorry implied intimacy isn't gonna fly. I need to see Hanita coming together through their actions and body language, not "bindi smudged" or whateverrr 😭. Yesa hi dikhate rahee toh I cannot feel connected to Hanita, and I might start loosing interest in the show.

Khuranas might be coming to stay at HS's haveli and I am mighty pissed at that, and its probably gonna be Minnie who's gonna bring them. Why should Babita take care of the Khuranas again? Hasn't she done that enough in the 17 years she stayed with them? Now, also Mini expects her mom to cook, clean, look after them after all that Babita has endured because of them 🤔. Exactly, Mini has the audacity to say its Babita's fault... You are freaking blaming the victim 😵. Babita isn't even that emotionally strong at 35, and Mini expected Babita to speak up against the Khuranas 17 years ago? Imagine what kind of a girl Babita might have been at the tender age of 18. eff that shit with you are equally at fault. No, she is NOT.

ANDDD Instead of blaming Babes, why the eff isn't Mini contacting Lovely or Ashok about the situations with the khuranas??? She's always shown to be mature and make rational decision... so why not now?

Originally posted by: LoveInAutumn26

Tell me about it. The Most Awaited Wedding, my FOOT! They created all the hype through SM and #hanitakishaadi to get some trps, but what did they show... 90% minnie flashback and that CD drama . I wanted the focus to be on Hanita during pheres and other wedding rituals... kitni badi cheez mang li 🤔. Also, I am sorry people can say whatever they want to to me for demanding this, but I didn't like how the consummation was handled. No one was asking for bold scenes, lekin some sort of intimate scenes was warranted. I am sorry implied intimacy isn't gonna fly. I need to see Hanita coming together through their actions and body language, not "bindi smudged" or whateverrr 😭. Yesa hi dikhate rahee toh I cannot feel connected to Hanita, and I might start loosing interest in the show.

Khuranas might be coming to stay at HS's haveli and I am mighty pissed at that, and its probably gonna be Minnie who's gonna bring them. Why should Babita take care of the Khuranas again? Hasn't she done that enough in the 17 years she stayed with them? Now, also Mini expects her mom to cook, clean, look after them after all that Babita has endured because of them 🤔. Exactly, Mini has the audacity to say its Babita's fault... You are freaking blaming the victim 😵. Babita isn't even that emotionally strong at 35, and Mini expected Babita to speak up against the Khuranas 17 years ago? Imagine what kind of a girl Babita might have been at the tender age of 18. eff that shit with you are equally at fault. No, she is NOT.

I'm with you on the consummation angle. There was an emotional advancement but that in no means indicated that there was going to be a physical one too. The consummation is a huge deal in their case and I would have preferred a better sign of what happened other than a smudged bindi. Tbh, I'm still not totally clear as to whether or not they did it because nothing about their body language shows this. They're still operating in the same equations, except now they're supposedly more honest with each other. There is no passion, no yearning to be around one another, no slight touches - nothing. And I'm supposed to believe that these two did it over night? Loll, I'm gonna take a hard pass on that one.

If the Khuranas come to the Haveli because of Minnie, then she better take up responsibility for them and do all their chores. The cooking, cleaning, spending time or whatever the eff they need at the moment. If she even DARES to try to make Babita do any of this, I'm cancelling this girl like there's no tomorrow. How dare she try to put her mother through all that, despite knowing how horribly they treated her.

Sorry for off topic but which is the episode is tht where babita prevents Ashok from meeting mini ND sides by Hanuman .pls tell I m trying to search from days

Originally posted by: asmaanixx

I'm with you on the consummation angle. There was an emotional advancement but that in no means indicated that there was going to be a physical one too. The consummation is a huge deal in their case and I would have preferred a better sign of what happened other than a smudged bindi. Tbh, I'm still not totally clear as to whether or not they did it because nothing about their body language shows this. They're still operating in the same equations, except now they're supposedly more honest with each other. There is no passion, no yearning to be around one another, no slight touches - nothing. And I'm supposed to believe that these two did it over night? Loll, I'm gonna take a hard pass on that one.

If the Khuranas come to the Haveli because of Minnie, then she better take up responsibility for them and do all their chores. The cooking, cleaning, spending time or whatever the eff they need at the moment. If she even DARES to try to make Babita do any of this, I'm cancelling this girl like there's no tomorrow. How dare she try to put her mother through all that, despite knowing how horribly they treated her.

@Bold: Exactly what I meant. edit: meant Physical advancement is what I wanted to see. I can't feel connected to them coming together without seeing that. Supposedly they had a night of passion, but like you said I didn't see that yearning between them. We are supposed to take the selfie romance as them yearning for each other 🤔. I wanna know how Babita felt after sharing all that with HS, and after their supposed night of passion. I need more introspection into her feelings at this point to understand her POV. Even a simple touch or a hug after coming back home from work or something will tell a lot about their dynamic. But nahhhh.

@2nd bold: Lol Mini will receive my wrath if she does this, and HS to an extent if he supports Mini.