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Originally posted by: Mishti_Dahi

Exactly my point. And it's okay to be weak. It's okay to cry. Itna load nahi lena chahiye life mein. Everything isn't perfect. And it can never be.

When she said her Babes needs her - and the way she told that, it was like reassuring herself that yes, Babes needs her. That's her way of processing her position in Babita's life. What happens the day Babita doesn't need her? Is she unwanted? No. And that is exactly what she needs to understand.

She used Babita to avoid facing her own feelings. She was going up to meet her regardless but then Naeem Bi called saying the same thing and the "dekha" to Mickey was a slight reassurance that no matter how shitty her own life gets, Babes needing her is the one thing she can always count on. But post marriage, that won't be true.

Minnie knows what her place is in Babe's life and HS' life on individual territories. But where does she stand in Hanita's life? Where does she fit in?

Kammo's comments about Minnie being a constant, ugly reminder about Ashok, and then HS' love for her being a tool just to get to Babita - they're all very nasty. To some level Minnie may dismiss them as being "kuch bhi" but on a much deeper level, they must have settled somewhere in her mind. She can't eradicate Ashok's DNA from her body and she hasn't fully accepted HS as her father since she's constantly referring to him as her uncle. She may have gotten used to referring to her as uncle from all these months but they have advanced their relationship beyond that. In administrative purposes, in divine settings and now legally too, HS will become her father. And yet, she hasn't even considered changing her term of endearment for him.

Amidst all these wedding preparations, she may have forgot, but it is something she needs to seriously think about.

Originally posted by: LoveInAutumn26

Somethings:

I hated hated when Kammo said that Mini will always remind Babita of Ashok and she will start to resent Mini. That is abosofkinglutely not true and so insensitive for her to say😡

I hated when Kammo said HS used Mini to get Babita. Again, we all know this is not how it happened at all.

Loved the morning scene between Hanita. Loved it when Babita said “mein kya karsakti hoon apki nervousness hatane ke liye”... aww she’s so cute

exactly what i said these two comments by her were in very bad taste. she was worse than khatri today.

I think what hurt Mini the most was the fact that she could be a hindrance to Babita's happiness and future happy married life. That might've hit the hardest, as in, how can a mother enjoy her life to the fullest with a teenager kid around? Personally, that pinched me the most, more than anything else. Mini is someone who has unconditionally devoted herself to her mother's happiness. And just to think that her mother's happiness can lie outside her or the fact that she is the biggest hurdle in her Babes' new relationship can be shattering.

Mini is obviously very insecure right now.

I want atleast one track here, where Mini let goes of all worries related to Babita and kind of realizes that her Babes can manage very well on her own - that Babita is capable and deserving of it; being happy about the emotional independence and strength of her mother. I want her to have that faith in her mother that yes, she's my Mom and she can handle the worst situations in her life as well as mine. I'm dying to see that transformation now.

Originally posted by: tantal

Yes. I think she is quite secure about her position with HS right now. IT's the fear and uncertainty about the forthcoming change in her relationship with Babes that's worrying her.

I would have liked if Babes stayed back after Kammo's tirade to talk and support Minnie instead of dashing upstairs. Kammo's barbs were directed at Minnie and her upcoming loss of importance in the family. SHe needed the reassurance there and then from Babes but somehow Babes thought it was more about her.

exactly i wanted her to stay & hug mini. but HS and the rest of the family also ran behind her. no body thought of mini. and even mini decides not to think of herself🤔

Originally posted by: naq5

exactly i wanted her to stay & hug mini. but HS and the rest of the family also ran behind her. no body thought of mini. and even mini decides not to think of herself🤔

This struck me as so odd. Here is a 17 yr old being lambasted and taunted in public that she will no longer be important in her parent's life after their marriage and no one in the family thinks it important to stand by her? Reassure her? Give her shoulders a squeeze that things will be okay? Everyone was upstairs tending to Babe's feelings. Sometimes I feel the writers forget who is the teenager and who is adult in the show

Originally posted by: asmaanixx

She used Babita to avoid facing her own feelings. She was going up to meet her regardless but then Naeem Bi called saying the same thing and the "dekha" to Mickey was a slight reassurance that no matter how shitty her own life gets, Babes needing her is the one thing she can always count on. But post marriage, that won't be true.

This is tricky now. Count on for what? Has she just assumed that Babita will always need her no matter what? But that's wrong. Babita is opening up slowly and there will be a time where HS and Babita shall become self sufficient and Mini will just be a kid to them. She doesn't need to feel thaaat important. Not that Babita cannot stay happy without her help. All this will be mind boggling shattering and only her own achievements in terms of friendship and other external factors could help. And ofcourse, time and patience.

Minnie knows what her place is in Babe's life and HS' life on individual territories. But where does she stand in Hanita's life? Where does she fit in?

It was about her place in Babes' life after she gets married, that is, Hanita's life, yeah.

Kammo's comments about Minnie being a constant, ugly reminder about Ashok, and then HS' love for her being a tool just to get to Babita - they're all very nasty. To some level Minnie may dismiss them as being "kuch bhi" but on a much deeper level, they must have settled somewhere in her mind. She can't eradicate Ashok's DNA from her body and she hasn't fully accepted HS as her father since she's constantly referring to him as her uncle. She may have gotten used to referring to her as uncle from all these months but they have advanced their relationship beyond that. In administrative purposes, in divine settings and now legally too, HS will become her father. And yet, she hasn't even considered changing her term of endearment for him.

The comments were ugly AF. Totally uncomfy, I myself was twisting in my seat hearing those. They were nasty and BAAAAAD.

I don't even think Ashok is problem. Blah, that case is dismissed. The problem is only that what you've mentioned - her place in their life.

Yes the equation needs to step up and gradually move towards their final phase of trust and love - that of a true, real father and daughter in every sense possible.

Amidst all these wedding preparations, she may have forgot, but it is something she needs to seriously think about.

It is, very serious. But okay, I know it'll get sorted soon.

Yeh Kammo ne toh aaj ekdum six maar diya by God!

Btw did you notice how cutely he said, ji aapke bhi pehle, for Mini, to Babita? Awwwww. And she smiled back. See, the compatibility is increasing. Neither felt bad about prioritising Mini and they were in complete sync when Babita talked about cancelling the marriage. And that slight assurance after Mini left was <3

Originally posted by: Mishti_Dahi

I think what hurt Mini the most was the fact that she could be a hindrance to Babita's happiness and future happy married life. That might've hit the hardest, as in, how can a mother enjoy her life to the fullest with a teenager kid around? Personally, that pinched me the most, more than anything else. Mini is someone who has unconditionally devoted herself to her mother's happiness. And just to think that her mother's happiness can lie outside her or the fact that she is the biggest hurdle in her Babes' new relationship can be shattering.

Mini is obviously very insecure right now.

I want atleast one track here, where Mini let goes of all worries related to Babita and kind of realizes that her Babes can manage very well on her own - that Babita is capable and deserving of it; being happy about the emotional independence and strength of her mother. I want her to have that faith in her mother that yes, she's my Mom and she can handle the worst situations in her life as well as mine. I'm dying to see that transformation now.

yes that is what she exactly needs. she wanted babes to stand on her own . so if she is becoming now like that she should be happy about it instead of experiencing withdrawal symptoms.

she also needs to realize that not only babes but she also needs her babes & is reliant on her & there is nothing wrong with it

Wow yaar what an episode... Loved everything except khatri and kammo ka stupid sa bhashan cum zeher ugalna.... I am confused ki kisne zyada zeher ugla... Kammo ki khatri ne... That was seriously overboard whatever kammo said kisi bhi bachi ko dar lagega yaar...

And HS ne dhamki to di khatri ko air kya karega wo... Bcoz he knows ki wo kuch bhi karle yeh log apna muh nahi band karenge that's y he kept quite... But I am sure hanita will give them back with the love they have for each other and for Minni... Kammo and khatri will be spellbound that day like always....

This insecurities in Minni was expected at this phase is again new one the relationship will change and that's the biggest change for her again in short span of time and for a kid like her who have seen hell in previous months is difficult to tackle...

Loved how hanita assured their daughter... But I feel Minni will need the kind of assurance she got last time when she was in situations like this... But this time both her parents will assure her...

Loved friends ka thing... Preet Minni and Mickey scene got a smile automatically...

And the morning scene was a bliss.... HS is a gem yaar... His respect and love for Babita is way too much itna ki wo khud nahi jaanta ki wo Babita se kitna pyaar karta hai...

Wow totally loved the episode. How realistic it all was . Khatri did what he do best, and he succeeded in all this. The best part is i could feel for kammo. How hard is for that women to hear things about her husband, still she tried her level best to form with babes and family but no matter what when babes said ghatiya she reacted most human way. It will hurt anybody. No woman can bear insult of her husband. I actually feel what kammo said was true. So many times she had heard insult of khatri but it surely hurts. And she did what normal human does best convert her hurt to anger and hit where it hurts the most.

Finally pinku also stepped up.

Mickey is truely a friend we all need. He understood well mini is hurt and is actually worried like she is going to break down.

Babes and HS ensured mini that she will always be first priority for both. But they will actually have to prove through actions. Dynamics is going to change. How the three prioritise each other will affect the realtion.

Preet bringing camera was nice. Mini needs to realise her life outside babes. But this girl will surely have a huge mental breakdown. She has to learn that she cannot always be strong and sometimes its ok to be weak. She needs to realise she has to stop becoming babes mother. Mini's breakdown will also break babes and HS. They will be hurt, guilty of putting mini in this situation. This will also be testing time for their love and marriage. Will they feel that bcz of their love and marriage, they neglected minni

Last scene was cute. Babes asking HS what she can do to remove his nervousness? Babes just needed official haq. She will slowly slowly start see through HS facade and will take charge. Babita can understand his pain both as a child who lost parents and as a women who went through hell. No one other than babita can make HS reconcile with her mother's past bcz she herself was a victim of worst emotional abuse

I actually think they wont be awkward on wedding night. They will talk, HS will crack is joke and they will sleep

I am actually lookin forward to post wedding scenes

Basically Minni feels happy If she is doing anything for her babes and that's what is the most important thing she feels in her life is... And the doc also suggested the same that let her do what she likes she will gradually be fine.. And they did that bit none of them thought letting Minni don't in long run is not good for her...

Now that Babita is independent and is getting married Minni needs to concentrate on her life but Minni is not able to do that.. Bcoz she is so used of doing for Babita that she can't imagine that she can be happy on her own and we'll that's what Mickey wanted to say yesterday..

And today also Minni said to Mickey that babes needs her while going up.. She was saying this to herself not to Mickey... She is happy that her babes is getting the love she was craving for whole life but somewhere she has that fear that Babita may not need her always like earlier..

Hanita thinks that Minni is out of her insecurities and she is strong but they will get to know soon that their little girl is still suffering inside with the trauma...it will be amazing to watch hanita getting her out of it this time as parents...

Hope CVS show nicely that hanita trying to get Minni out of all these insecurities na ki Mickey kare Sab kuch...