Hi,
Well... it might be interesting for some people to read this: Artticle is called: Not-so-dear husband this is why I want a divorce
(http://www.womensweb.in/2017/04/life-of-dignity-why-i-want-a-divorce/?platform=hootsuite)
This post will probably be categorized as a rant, and a ''feminist'' one at that. But sometimes love is not enough and sometimes women also have the right to snap. I also understand that this is a TV show and perhaps it is not possible for script writers to make Dev regret his actions so quickly. Because after he regret, then the Dev and Sona have to get together. And then what will the scriptwriters do for a whole year... Afterall they cannot show Ishwari and Sonakshi drama again. So they need to show Dev and Sonakshi and Bose drama right now. That is fine.
But I feel a little bewildered when people justify Dev's behaviour. Or when Asha tries to make it sound like Sona should adjust more to the situation for Soha's sake. Dev's actions are not justifiable. As long as Sona is shown knowing this it is fine.
Meanwhile some excerpts from the passage
""What went wrong and when, well neither of us may be able to put a pin on the exact time and place when we derailed. But we did and that's a fact. Too much water has flown under the bridge for us to now sit and discuss and seek resolution. There was a point when I was desperate to seek a solution and prayed for restoring marital normalcy. Now I don't. I am not interested in it anymore. I have snapped. It took me some time to accept this. It will take some time for you, the favoured male, the mascot of our culture, to accept that your wife wants to dissolve the holy matrimony. It might be a blow on your bum sized fiery ego, constantly fanned by society and family, but you will have to deal with it."" I would think this should be Sona's Stance right now... And yes Dev is displacing "bum sized fiery ego"
More excerpts
"" You took me for granted for far too long.
DEV DID THIS
You didn't appreciate the small and big things I did for you.
DEV DID APPRECIATE THIS BUT OFTEN LATE AND NOT ENOUGH
You chose not to work on the relationship for years and expected the marriage to work just fine.
DEV IS TOTALLY GUILTY OF THIS WHEN THEY WERE TOGETHER AND NOW POST SEPARATION
You made no investment in me and hoped to reap dividends for as long as I lasted.
SONA HAS SAID THIS TO DEV AGAIN AND AGAIN AND IT IS TRUE.
You didn't understand the value of small gestures of love.
HMMM.. WELL MAYBE HE UNDERSTOOD BUT...
You didn't see the power of kind words. You chose to be kind to the world but me.
SO TRUE. HE BLEW HOT AND COLD WITH HER ALL THE TIME
You refused to treat me with dignity in presence of others and when alone.
HE DID TREAT HER WELL WHEN THEY WERE ALONE, BUT DID NOT REALLY STAND UP FOR HER WHEN THEY WERE WITH MUMMY OR MAMI
You failed to see the profound impact of simple acts of love like holding hands.
DEV KNEW THIS AND TRIED TO DO THIS ON AND OFF
You assumed that pushing, punching and kicking didn't qualify as physical abuse.
HE DID PUSH HER MORE THAN ONCE... BEFORE SEPARATION AND AFTER TOO
Over the years, you made me a different person, someone I didn't like. You failed to bring out the best in me. You made me loath myself. ""
THIS WAS TRUE... DEV IS GUILTY OF THIS.
One more excerpt
Finally, "As a responsible mother, I do not wish my son to grow up to be like you."
This is where I worry about the message of the show or what Asha says. Would any sensible woman want a man like Dev to be around her children? Dev himself thinks Vicky is not the right person for Golu but is he the right parent for Soha??
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