Veetoda Mappillai - Views

*Bitter laugh*

Trust me when I say it is very recent judgement! Oct 2016

Whoa! 😲 It's surprising enough to know that such a law exists, let alone the fact that it was passed less than half a year before. :/

It shouldn't happen in the event of one person or one's family being harmed with the decision, which is the way Jaya's mom is headed. She wants Senthil to be a veetoda maappillai to separate him from his family completely, which is not moral or correct. If Jaya goes to Senthil's house, she would have the independence from everyone to live and support her family as she pleases. Will Senthil get the same opportunity if he goes to Jaya's house? If he will, sure, no problem. He can gladly comply to Jaya mom's condition. 

Yes, it would still be better for Senthil to stay with his family as he's the eldest male as well as the backbone of the family. Jaya is as such in her fam too, but Mr. Chandran is far more capable than what he's contributing to the family right now. I don't disagree that he's a great father, but he could definitely contribute more to the family as a whole. And then there is always Ramya, Janani, and Shakthi (now that she's working too). If Jaya alone can provide so much, I'm sure if all of these people pitch in a little more to the family, Jaya's mom would be assured of her wanting luxury. 

In this show's particular context, Jaya moving out and still contributing to her family + her family members putting in more effort to contribute would work better than for Senthil to move out and contribute to the best of his ability to his family. It's only him who's capable of providing for a sufficient living in his family. 

Otherwise, a couple should live where they find best fit to do so. Regardless of with whom or alone. 

Also, a question. By meaning 'veetoda maappillai' does it mean just having the groom stay over at the bride's place, or does it mean him losing his rights to having a job, earning for himself, supporting his own family, etc ? 

If it's the latter, in this situation, it is in no way justified for Jaya's mom to ask for that. Especially because Jaya would never have to lose any of those rights just because she goes to Senthil's house.  But in general, neither of the families have the right to forbid the bride or the groom from working, earning, or what they choose to do with that money. 

In this context, neither of them(Senthil/Jaya) want this. So, it is not right for Jaya's mom to put forth this condition. Had any of them wanted this, then Senthil and Jaya arguing would make sense. Here Jaya doesn't want him to be veetoda mappillai and truth to be said, she would be treated much better and be very happy in his house.

And Jaya's mom... I don't understand why she wants Jaya to stay in her house even after Jaya said that she is ready to send all of her salary to her mom. Her condition would make sense if someone in that house was sick or needed physical support. Senthil's mom, on the other hand needs support. She is alone, her daughter is still very young and her younger son is still struggling. We saw how Jaya had to take care of her when she became sick... she has no one to take care of her. It would be morally wrong if Senthil leaves his mom in this situation.

I feel the best thing to do now would be that... Senthil should convince Jaya's mom or put a condition that if he has to be veetoda mappillai, then his entire family will come and stay with their family(I know this is not possible, but I want to see Jaya's mom reaction😆, people who put such conditions need to get a taste of their own medicine).