Splitsvilla 10 contestant Anmol Chaudhary up on being a single mother, feeling alone and equation with family

Anmol Chaudhary, who is known for her stint in Splitsvilla 10, recently opened up to India Forums about how has she been keeping up with everything, juggling between work and also taking care of baby Jayce as a single, unmarried mother. She also has a media agency with a small team, and is working on an online clothing store. While she has been doing well now, she has had her own struggle when she first came to know about her pregnancy, dealing with her family, and more. Read our conversation with her here.

When she first came to know about the pregnancy and how she made the decision...

On knowing about my pregnancy, I was shattered because I was not ready for it, and I texted my ex-boyfriend about the same. I told him that we will split the abortion bill because my first thought was never to keep the child. We went to the doctor and he said that I will have to get an ultrasound done and when I heard the baby's heartbeat for the first time, I started crying as soon as I came out of the hospital. My sister told me not to take an emotional decision. I could not think straight at that point in time. I was just praying for the universe to give me a sign. And this one day, I am crying and asking the universe to give me a sign and that is when I got a call from a one year baby, who somehow dialed my number and it was surreal, and I decided that I am keeping the child. I decided that I will manage and when I told my ex about it, he was in shock and he did not want me to do it, but I told him that I don't want you to do anything, I will manage and both of us ended up giving each other a hard time. Then I made a call that I am ready to leave my past behind, I made my choice, he made his.

On dealing with depression and a low phase in life...

I've seen so many mothers going through so many difficulties, but my pregnancy was really smooth. When Sushant Singh Rajput's news came in, it really affected me because it reminded me of my past and made me think that it could be me. I started crying and went live and that video had gone viral. That's when my ex decided to text me, and since his friend circle was really messed up, they told him that I would cause him trouble, but I was sad that he believed them despite knowing the person I am, and that too, someone who is the father of my child. At the end of the day, you are the father of my child and when my baby grows up, he might want to meet you. He texted me saying that I hope you don't have any grudge against me. That's when he said that if you need help then let me know.

On her current equation with her family...

We are not on talking terms at all, but I do miss them. My family gave me the choice and they were trying to save their reputation in society and gave me a 'this or that' option. I told them that I understand your point of view but now, I have my own family, and I do respect them.

About being a single mother and the challenges that come along...

Apart from being single mothers, I feel they are very strong and powerful once they make their minds. In India, people pity you as a single mother. I was approached by many boys who treated me like a damsel in distress and asked me to get married and settle down, but I used to tell them that I have never learned to settle down. If I do want to get married, I will do it when I am in love.

Being a single mother is challenging, but it also has its own perks, double the love, double the care, and of course, double the responsibility too. I was glad about Mr. Arvind Kejriwal passed the law in support of single mothers. I have also been wondering recently that I do want to get my baby's Aadhar card and other documents. I did not want to write his father's name, but we are yet to reach there, and that made me wonder how difficult it is to be a single parent. I am sure I am yet to face a lot more difficulties ahead, because this is just the beginning. Even when the birth certificate was to be made, I was skeptical, so I decided to give him my name, his full name is Jayce Anmol. Jayce means healer, and I think he will heal all my pain, and that is something only a mother understands. 

On how does she keep up and the way ahead...

I do feel alone at times and miss going out on dates, but this thing is new to me also, but that is what I want to know from the single mothers. I am not looking out for temporary stuff, I am looking for stability in life, something I can't find right now because I am more focused on my work. I think single mothers are the strongest warriors, and this is one of the best things that has ever happened in my life, and this is one of the best decisions out of all the decisions I have made in life.