Blind Innocence
This is going to be a little longer than usual, so apologies in advance. I saw Ishra's past play out through Simmi and MiMi and I was awed by the beauty of the dialogues and the brilliant acting, secondly all the small mohabbatein moments had me going crazy so this post will a little serious at first and then a gush fest later lol
While watched the past couple of episodes, I couldn't help but think of this scene between Leo and Josh in the show The west wing, Josh is going through a low phase and Leo his boss/father figure/mentor says the following to him:
"This guy's walking down the street when he falls in a hole. The walls are so steep he can't get out.
"A doctor passes by and the guy shouts up, 'Hey you. Can you help me out?' The doctor writes a prescription, throws it down in the hole and moves on.
"Then a priest comes along and the guy shouts up, 'Father, I'm down in this hole can you help me out?' The priest writes out a prayer, throws it down in the hole and moves on
"Then a friend walks by, 'Hey, Joe, it's me can you help me out?' And the friend jumps in the hole. Our guy says, 'Are you stupid? Now we're both down here.' The friend says, 'Yeah, but I've been down here before and I know the way out.'"
I love this scene so much because it describes what it's like to have a true companion in life, that companion can be a friend, a parent, a child, a sibling or a spouse. Ishita and Raman's past of an unsuccessful and lonely marriage was reflecting in Simmi's marital problems. Ishra can understand and empathize with Simmi not because she is a family member who is hurting but because they have been in the same place of hurt and betrayal, they have fallen in that hole of lonely desperation and fought their way out. These two know what it feels like to be low in life, cheated upon, left in the middle of the road in darkness with no hope of a future. When Ishita tells Simmi, A person isn't lonely without companionship, real loneliness is when one feels alone amongst loved ones', after hearing this Raman immediately looks up to look into Ishita's eyes, these two have felt the alone and destitute for a better part of their marriage because they were living through a farce of a marriage. They know what Simmi has been going through in her marriage because they have lived through that ugly phase of marriage. Raman while staring at Ishita had said something similar to Mr. Tandon, about the pressure and the melancholy of living through a loveless marriage. These two have seen the ugly side of a loveless marriage and have fought through their demons to help each other climb out of the dark hole.
Ishra's past also played out this week through the fragility of Mihir and Mihika's relationship. Mihika in her naivet thinks that weak love doesn't hurt, she thinks weakness love leads to faster healing and how far away from the truth can she be! It took Raman 6 years to get over the fickle love he shared with Shagun and it took Ishita a few years to get over her fickle relationship with Subbu. Irrespective of it's strength, love hurts! To love is to expose your innermost vulnerabilities to your partner hoping that they would cradle you with care and not walk all over your vulnerabilities. To love is to be brave, one needs to have the courage to trust one's partner blindly, to open up and share your deepest fears and express your innermost desires, it takes courage to be vulnerable and to be in love. Raman and Ishita found that courage in one another, and now they must help Mihir and Mihika find their courage so they can be free of fear, far from hurt and be ready to love with all their vulnerabilities.
Ishita and Raman helped each other climb out of this dark hole of self-doubt, pity, anger, and loneliness, now they must jump in this hole with Mihir, Mhika and Simmi to guide them out. Ishra can afford to jump in the dark hole again because now they are a team, they aren't alone fighting through their demons.
Their relationship now radiates hope, light, happiness and love, their marriage having been through their trials and tribulations now stands on solid foundation of trust and mutual respect. Their marriage and relationship stands tall not because they are perfect but because they accept each other with all their flaws, there are no conditions on their love, there is no sense of time in their love, their love roams around without boundaries, without a name and with a sense of eternity. All of this evident in those multiple little moments we got to witness all week long. While watching their romantic escapades I was reminded of a beautiful song called Rehna Tu from the movie Dilli 6.
Rehna tu, hai jaisa tu
Thoda sa dard tu, thoda sukoon
Rehna tu, Hai jaisa tu
Dheema Dheema jhonka, Ya phir junoon
Thoda sa resham, tu hamdam
Thoda sa khurdura
Kabhi tu ad jaaye, Ya lad jaaye
Ya khushboo se bhara
Tujhe badalna na chahoon
Ratti bhar bhi sanam
Bina sajawat, milawat
Na zyaada na hi kam
Raman and Ishita's love is love in it's purest form without any mixing, fixing or tempering. They love each other for who they are and not what they expect each other to be. Their love is real, it's palpable, it breathes, it dances in joy but it also hurts. The reason their love withstands the trials of life is because there is only one condition in their love: They must remain as they are! Rehna tu hai jase tu! So Ishita removes her heels, she goes back to her original self to restore the smile back on her man's face. He sees her walk in the room and without a word spoken knows something is on her mind, so he goes back to his original self and asks her what's bothering her.
When she tells him about eavesdropping on his phone calls, he retorts back with a big smile, why are you behaving like a typical sneaky wife' not so much as a complain of why but why not sooner! She knows he is hurting and worried for the family so she jokes to bring a smile to his face, he reciprocates her effort by turning on his charming Raavan act to bring a smile on her face.
He accepts her the way she is with all her quirkiness of meddling, self-sacrifice and her ability to think about herself last. She on the other hand accepts him with all his quirkiness of rage, self-brooding, and his inability to completely move away from this past.
Tu zakhm de agar
Marham bhi aakar tu lagaaye
Zakhm pe bhi mujhko pyaar aaye
Dariya ooo dariya
Doobne de mujhe dariya
Doobne de mujhe dariya
True love hurts, and so does theirs! Their love comes with baggage of past, problems of present and an unseen future, their love hurts each other but it also heals. Their love is the medicine to it's own wound, his past hurts her but his loving gaze when he calls her blind heals her. Her surrounding relationships hurt him but her loving care, thankful demeanor and benevolent eyes heals him. She looks at him with tender eyes full of gratitude for taking care of her appa, he looks at her with his eyes full of passion and heart brimming with love for being blind; blind to the deceit, hurt, and disrespect dealt to her by his past. In this quirky story of love, one turns blind to shield their relationship from the past, and other turns innocent to shield their relationship from the present. Ishita bani andhi toh Raman bana buddhu!
Note: I am reusing the west wing reference here again because it fits so well with the current track, I had used it once in G's thread. Sorry to those who will be reading it twice.
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