serious: can we please not mock Ruhi’s past? - Page 2

Originally posted by: Firefly_shines

so does Abhira… there are many instances where she has subtly called herself an orphan talked about her truama played the victim card and manipulated Armaan and got things done… it’s just difference of opinions… some can see it while others don’t… imo trauma is trauma whether it’s abhira’s or Ruhi’s… and both have talked about it in the show still only one gets mocked about it which is wrong….

Manipulation is synonymous to Ruhi not abhira..maybe you are watching different rishta

Originally posted by: shahi10

I frankly think it’s disrespectful to mock Ruhi’s grief or past or say that she’s “victim blaming” herself for what she’s been through as a child. I am assuming that many of us haven’t fortunately been through what Ruhi has been through, so we can’t particularly understand what is going on in her mind. We can all agree on that it is a lot for a 6 year old child to go through especially with an unstable family like the Goenkas. Whatever is going on with Armaan is her love turned attachment turned obsession. Her antics are disgusting and intrusive and someone needs to give her a reality check and show her how she can be better.

We don’t like her, fine. Should that give us the right to belittle what she’s been through or try and undermine her grief? No, I don’t think so. It’s a sensitive topic and I also don’t want to disrespect anyone on this forum who may have experienced the loss of a parent at an early age or have been through something similar.

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it’s funny how Ruhi is blamed in the Rohit fiasco but it’s completely forgotten that Ar asked her to marry him, gave her hopes and promised to keeping loving her…

Ruhi is shamed for running behind Ar but no one questions Ar’s actions of him being a pendulum, fueling her hopes and constantly giving unsolicited explanation and information about his and ab relationship. It’s takes two to tango yet only one gets trolled while the other gets a free pass…

@Noor

But why don't you mention how Ruhi married Rohit to stay close to his brother? SHE is the root cause - so ofc people with unbiased perspectives WILL blame her. Ar did not put her on gunpoint and say go marry my brother, he left that decision to her and she did the most immoral thing ever!

Everyone very much questions Armaan too. He is literally called pendulum sa by everyone 🙄 he is called out for leading both women. Infact every other post is about hiw he needs to pick a side and stick with it.

But he's acting out of guilt and giving her mixed signals because she is actively manipulating him. She keeps reminding him how he ruined her life, crying and hitting him where she knows it will hurt and he will react. She does not take ownership. If she had left to focus on her life, he'd not be a pendulum swinging between both women. He'd be forced to make a call if he really wants Ruhi or not.

He repeatedly said to Ruhi- we are over. But she cant accept it.

If nothing, she should realize that a man who leads her on but does not stand up for her isn't worth running behind. She herself acknowledges that he speaks up for Abhira but not her. So why is she hell bent on blaming Abhira for what Armaan did to her and being delulu over Armaan?!

Deal ya no deal, thats between Abbira and Armaan..who the F is she?!

Does she have no respect for the sanctity of marriage . Abhira is his wife no matter what the terms. And she clearly told her to respect that relationship and never compare dosti to pati-patni. But reality check milkar bhi bakwaas karti hai.

And what was Rohits fault?! She literally had no guilt about how he left and eventually died because of her truth coming out. He was heartbroken because of HER.

She's shamelessly wanting to resume love story with a man who has said NO. And she's cheating a full family living with them as Rohits wife/widow but wanting pati-patni relationship with Armaan. How crass is that?!

Even Swarna doesn't approve her crap behavior. If Swarna is to blame for all Ruhis conditioning then this time around when Swarns tells her to forget Armaan and move on- why doesn't she listen. How convenient that she is suddenly no longer influenced by the person who allegedly weilds so much influence on her.

Originally posted by: Firefly_shines

it’s funny how Ruhi is blamed in the Rohit fiasco but it’s completely forgotten that Ar asked her to marry him, gave her hopes and promised to keeping loving her…

Ruhi is shamed for running behind Ar but no one questions Ar’s actions of him being a pendulum, fueling her hopes and constantly giving unsolicited explanation and information about his and ab relationship. It’s takes two to tango yet only one gets trolled while the other gets a free pass…

Armaan is not divine.. people have termed him pendulum,play boy and what not..he gets bashed as equally as Ruhi..

Originally posted by: Krinya

Well her grief as a child can't be an excuse for her grief as a full grown adult who was born & brought up with a silver spoon...an adult can & should, be able to deal with their emotions better than a child.... Yes she lost both her parents at a young age but she also had a secure childhood with good upbringing along with financial security & good family environment . Not all children are privileged that way.

.goenkas not good enuf for anyone ain't an excuse either ...in what way are they bad ? They've over pampered ruhi . They may be biased but they are biased for ruhi. Apparently she had other cousins & her grandmother & family but they chose to erase them , whatever it might be , Def they didn't abandon ruhi.

And then..obsession over a married man can't be healthy no matter what the circumstances are or were ..she needs help ..although Arman is an equally guilty party in how this mess started , he isn't actively pursuing his ex while being married. Abhira isn't out of the house , rohit is...he still cares for abhira , as a responsibility or otherwise but does ruhi care for rohit or feels guilty for him? He is any day better placed to me than ruhi is.

so well said .. Goenkas abandoned every thing for her she has been living in mansions from

Childhood but she still uses the victim card for everything….she has no regard that her old grandparents got swindled .. Manish is feeling trauma .. is very much alone in life it’s only me my self and my trauma ..

1 month ago she wanted Armaan to drop her to P Nani house so helpless .. but last night Ms coloring book had the chalaki to prepare divorce papers .. lie about friend wedding and arrive in Mussoorie by taking an overnight train
I wish Abhira calls up Vidya and tells her that Ruhi is her first guest at the guest house and request Ruhi to give reviews about the guest house in FB live .. the whole family can know about her duplicity ..Ruhi ke face pe camera should be panned all the time so that everyone knows she arrived in Mussoorie to spoil her jeth jethani ka honeymoon.. it’s time Manisha asks Vidya to observe Ruhi closely .. why is Ruhi being kebab me haddi in everything.. if Vidya refuses to see she can tell Madhav

Originally posted by: Pinecone

Everyone very much questions Armaan too. He is literally called pendulum sa by everyone 🙄

But he's acting out of guilt and giving her mixed signals because she is actively manipulating him. She keeps reminding him how he ruined her life etc etc. She does not take ownership. If she had left to focus on her life, he'd not be a pendulum swinging between both women.

He repeatedly said to Ruhi- we are over. But she cant accept it.

If nothing, she should realize that a man who leads her on but does not stand up for her isn't worth running behind. She herself acknowledges that he speaks up for Abhira but not her. So why is she hell bent on blaming Abhira and being delulo over Armaan?!

Deal ya no deal, thats between Abbira and Armaan..who the F is she?!

Does she have no respect for the sanctity of marriage . Abhira is his wife no matter what the terms. And she clearly told her to respect that relationship and never compare dosti to pati-patni. But reality check milkar bhi bakwaas karti hai.

She's shamelessly wanting to resume love story with a man who has said NO. And she's cheating a full family living with them as Rohits wife/widow but wanting pati-patni relationship with Armaan. How crass is that?!

Even Swarna doesn't approve her crap behavior. If Swarna is to blame for all Ruhis conditioning then this time around when Swarns tells her to forget Armaan and move on- why doesn't she listen. How convenient that she is suddenly no longer influenced by the person who allegedly weilds so much influence on her.

The question is. If abhira is out of the picture today , or let's say she was never in the picture , will Arman get bk to ruhi as his ex lover ? I don't think so. Arman sacrificed his love for his brother & left it at that. He is only guilty to suggest ruhi to marry rohit and mind it , he did it for rohit and his family, he didn't set her up for their love affair behind everybody's back. That is how ruhi took it n it's her problem.

If Arman said he will continue to love her , inspite of rohit ruhi marriage, the idea was absurd frm the word go. Why did she agree to it ? If she did , face the consequences . This statement is the biggest jhol of this triangle.

He suggested he won't move on but she should & now she's telling him she never moved on, so he won't either

And then, it was madam herself who was impatient and initiated the marriage thing with rohit . That time Arman was nowhere in picture. If her love was that intense , wait for her lover to show up instead of picking up the next available man.

Whatever the past was or how the situation was messed up, like u said , she can move on coz Arman isn't her man. Period.

Originally posted by: Pinecone

Everyone very much questions Armaan too. He is literally called pendulum sa by everyone 🙄 he is called out for leading both women. Infact every other post is about hiw he needs to pick a side and stick with it.

But he's acting out of guilt and giving her mixed signals because she is actively manipulating him. She keeps reminding him how he ruined her life, crying and hitting him where she knows it will hurt and he will react. She does not take ownership. If she had left to focus on her life, he'd not be a pendulum swinging between both women. He'd be forced to make a call if he really wants Ruhi or not.

He repeatedly said to Ruhi- we are over. But she cant accept it.

If nothing, she should realize that a man who leads her on but does not stand up for her isn't worth running behind. She herself acknowledges that he speaks up for Abhira but not her. So why is she hell bent on blaming Abhira for what Armaan did to her and being delulu over Armaan?!

Deal ya no deal, thats between Abbira and Armaan..who the F is she?!

Does she have no respect for the sanctity of marriage . Abhira is his wife no matter what the terms. And she clearly told her to respect that relationship and never compare dosti to pati-patni. But reality check milkar bhi bakwaas karti hai.

And what was Rohits fault?! She literally had no guilt about how he left and eventually died because of her truth coming out. He was heartbroken because of HER.

She's shamelessly wanting to resume love story with a man who has said NO. And she's cheating a full family living with them as Rohits wife/widow but wanting pati-patni relationship with Armaan. How crass is that?!

Even Swarna doesn't approve her crap behavior. If Swarna is to blame for all Ruhis conditioning then this time around when Swarns tells her to forget Armaan and move on- why doesn't she listen. How convenient that she is suddenly no longer influenced by the person who allegedly weilds so much influence on her.

Hogi kaise when has Ruhi seen loyal hubby wife in her family for her bhabhi jeth relationship is normal and acceptable in all families..

Originally posted by: bangtanARMY

@Noor

But why don't you mention how Ruhi married Rohit to stay close to his brother? SHE is the root cause - so ofc people with unbiased perspectives WILL blame her. Ar did not put her on gunpoint and say go marry my brother, he left that decision to her and she did the most immoral thing ever!

Ar ne gun point par daala ho na ho... She was the one who initiated the whole rasam and all.

Ar toh baad mein aaya... She couldn't even wait... Yet... We are supposed to understand her trauma Saari umeedein sirf humse.

Originally posted by: Aadi04

Hogi kaise when has Ruhi seen loyal hubby wife in her family for her bhabhi jeth relationship is normal and acceptable in all families..

Aisa hai toh why corner Armaan alone. Straight up sabko announce kardeti ki Rohit is not coming back, but I always loved Armaan and he is anyway in deal marriage, he still loves me so lets get Abhira out and I will marry Armaan. Simple.

If its so acceptable why doesn't she speak to Kaveri.