Aadhya, Shruthi and Anuj are cut from the same cloth - Page 3

Originally posted by: Etoiles

and why exactly do u assume that people hate her just because she is adopted?have you ever wondered that people could dislike her because of her extremely rude nature & her tantrums. Throwing things,pushing people,talking about things she shouldn't even think about given her age,trauma is not & will never be an excuse for ill mannerism & behaving like a brat.

Because Anupama's kids have done a million things worse yet you guys don't say the same thing about them. Pakhi has thrown way worse tantrums and has been way worse rude but I don't see such posts about her.

Trauma and PTSD is 100% an excuse for such behavior, any psychiatrist will tell you that throwing tantrums is an attention seeking behavior which kids who feel abandoned always show. It's a natural behavior of abandoned kids and can only be cured by love, understanding and time.

Originally posted by: Blueeeee

Anuj and Adhya are literally entering a loveless marriage rather than telling this kid not to interfere in their adult, romantic matters. Anuj wanted to clear things with Shruti, she purposefully didn't let him. Shruti wanted to leave, Anuj stopped her because Adhya threw a tantrum. Divorce is not a bad thing. If Shruti chose to dunp his ass, his daughter would get traumatised and hate Shruti for "abandoning" her and popsy of the year would catfish another woman.

If you think that a tiny little child should discuss ex-ko-jealous-kar-rahi-ho mind games with a parental figure, and that is better than having divorced parents— good for you.

If you think a daughter (implying a platonic relationship based on care and protection) telling her parent that she will only "share" him with an approved wife/fiance (a romantic relationship based on mutual transaction) is something age-appropriate or psychologically healthy—good for you.

If you think a preteen telling a parent that you don't feel safe around their ex is the same as a preteen sneaking out of their school, going to the parent's ex's workplace to accost them and emotionally hurt them by lying about their parent's supposed wedding— GOOD FOR YOU.

I just hope no real kid ever grows up with so many complexes and has someone lookjng out for their mental health

I have not at all written any of what you assumed ‘I think’, so if you think I think like that and ever defended any of that - GOOD FOR YOU!

And just one correction - I will not even get into what all led to that child developing so much hate and acting so mature beyond her age which she obviously shouldn’t.

But, Anuj proposed marriage to Shruti, willfully, when she was grieving the loss of her parents, neither Aadhya blackmailed him nor Shruti manipulated him. Lets stop blaming a child for every fault, action and decision of her adult parents, but if you actually believe whatever you write/ assume - Good for you!

Originally posted by: Dee-Dee

I have not at all written any of what you assumed ‘I think’, so if you think I think like that and ever defended any of that - GOOD FOR YOU!

And just one correction - I will not even get into what all led to that child developing so much hate and acting so mature beyond her age which she obviously shouldn’t.

But, Anuj proposed marriage to Shruti, willfully, when she was grieving the loss of her parents, neither Aadhya blackmailed him nor Shruti manipulated him. Lets stop blaming a child for every fault, action and decision of her adult parents, but if you actually believe whatever you write/ assume - Good for you!

I can bring in five different situations where Adhya did not let Anuj come clean with Shruti hefore her birthday, and you can stop the deflection that I am blaming a kid for an adult's actions when I have been calling Anuj a bad parent for not taking her to therapy and drawing boundaries with her.

And what horifying thing did happen to Adhya, apart from her father moving to a first world country for her, paying no alimony to his ex, not taking her to therapy, and catfishing an adult, that caused her to be in a weird sort of emotional competition with her father's romantic prospects? How is poor, unsophisticated Upmaa more responsible for the lack of Adhya's mental healthcare than a billionaire Anuj?

You know bad things can happen to kids even if parents try to prioritise them in every decision. If your ideal parenting is to prevent them from ever dealing with any unpleasantness, that is simply not how the world works.

Anupamaa was allegedly an abusive mother, she removed herself, if the angel parent that stayed back did not help the child to overcome the supposed PTSD— he is the one setting her up for a lifetime of hurt.

This "woman evil for divorcing guy" shitck while the story is based in US — a country with the tenth highest divorce rate is hilarous. Realistically, Adhya probably has 5 classmates who have single parents/shared families lol.

So much empathy for aadhya because she is anuj daughter .

If adopted bache ke prati itni empathy hai then I have not hear any empathy toward ishani who is also adopted who is victim of pakhi aadhya daily fight of hee mother father

So much sympathy for aadhya because her foster mom abandoned her and foster dad is still head over heels for the same woman who abandoned their adopted daughter.

Ishaani is another victim and has already received sympathy for being adopted by idiotic paakhi. Ishaani is a side character and there will not be focus on her until her character is given more substance unlike Adhya who character has been well rounded over the last couple years (and 8 reel years).

I won't blame Adhya while her adoptive mother is holding her head high "believing" she fulfilled the duties of a mother ...

Adhya doesn't get a pass because she is Anuj's daughter ... But, she gets blamed by some because she is his daughter and dislikes their idol (mahaan maa)

One day, if Adhya falls at her feet, no one will blame her ... no questions asked ... no fingers pointing at her ... nothing ... just nothing

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Response: Yes, you are right. They indeed!

They are ALL living in an illusion and expecting too much.

Aadhya is living under the illusion that the only parent who stood by her when the (adoptive) mother first neglected, let her be abused by her pseudo Maykewale and then abandoned her will understand her trauma and come to terms with his own reality. She is hanging on to the hope of a normal, happy family and in her own way striving self-preservation only to be broken, eventually.

Shruti is living under the illusion that Anuj will eventually move on from the past and come to loving her. She is choosing to turn a blind eye to Anuj's obsessive love for Anupama. She is hanging on to straws that lay with the hope of building her family.

Anuj is living under the illusion that he ever mattered, matters in Anupama's life despite the crystal writing on the wall. He is hopeful of being loved back by the only love of his life and after coming infront of her after 5 years, he is willing to go to any lengths of self-destruction for the same.

Originally posted by: Harish111

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Trauma and PTSD is 100% an excuse for such behavior, any psychiatrist will tell you that throwing tantrums is an attention seeking behavior which kids who feel abandoned always show. It's a natural behavior of abandoned kids and can only be cured by love, understanding and time.

Yes. Another of topics butchered by the writers: Mental Wellbeing.

I am not sure it is deliberate or plain ignorance but Anuj and Shruti are shown discussing about the sudden recurrence of panic attacks after a while and that Aadhya was under treatment. Her terrible condition after her mother abandoned her with no contact, also being a reason for their movement to US.

A chirpy, bright girl who was a budding athlete, turning rude, throwing a fit does not happen without a reason (unless the audience shows a liking to a character, ofcourse).

This is shown to occur, after Anupama came face-to-face with her. So, Anupama was the trigger of her past coming back to haunt her.

How is this Showing that Aadhya is a brat, badtameez, selfish, one can never explain.

How change of location alone, with modern facilities should cause a complete transformation with no trace of past hurt, one cannot comprehend (Anupama being a special case to every rule).

Originally posted by: Harish111

Still blaming a little kid who has trauma and PTSD from being adopted and then abandoned by a selfish evil woman. Do ITV audience not understand what kids are and have zero empathy? Calling her multiple names because of what? Its NOT rude to hate one's abuser who abandoned her. Its NORMAL

I can guarantee people just hate her because she is adopted. Anupama's own kids are a million times ruder but never see such posts about them

I will repeat, people who blame a little abandoned kid because she has trauma and PTSD from being adopted and then abandoned by a selfish evil woman are sociopaths who have no empathy

These are the times I wish we had "troll" reactions available on IF

Aadhya is not a little kid. She is a teenager and at 15, hopefully she is learning some etiquette and coping skills. She can hate her mother all she wants, behaving like an entitled brat is another. Behaving rudely to Bapuji, creating a scene cos her dress got ruined, these are acts of a spoilt brat. No one here is comparing her with Anupama’s biological kids, Paakhi is no better. And as for Paritosh, he is beyond help.