Aadhya, Shruthi and Anuj are cut from the same cloth - Page 2

Originally posted by: Harish111

Still blaming a little kid who has trauma and PTSD from being adopted and then abandoned by a selfish evil woman. Do ITV audience not understand what kids are and have zero empathy? Calling her multiple names because of what? Its NOT rude to hate one's abuser who abandoned her. Its NORMAL

I can guarantee people just hate her because she is adopted. Anupama's own kids are a million times ruder but never see such posts about them

I will repeat, people who blame a little abandoned kid because she has trauma and PTSD from being adopted and then abandoned by a selfish evil woman are sociopaths who have no empathy

These are the times I wish we had "troll" reactions available on IF

Trauma is not an excuse to play god with two adults' lives? Would the traumatised child pay for lawyers, divorce settlements, alimony, childcare if the supposed marriage (to fullfil her undue demands needs) fails? Or, is Shruti supposed to live in a loveless, sexless marriage because Adhya is traumatised or is Anuj supposed to begrudgingly take the marriage forward with a woman whom he doesn't love just because Adhya's traumatised? Who would be responsible for Shruti or her probable kids' neglect in this supposed marriage? Anuj got emoshunally abused because Upma was invested in her kids' lives and visited their home often but a random woman is supposed to walk into a loveless marriage and live a in loveless household because Anuj's kid is traumatised? Woh Adhya ki unpaid nanny-cum-therapist nahi hai.

Popsy of the year can take his traumatised daughter to a therapist and draw healthy boundaries with her rather uska man rakhne ke liye chalo kisi se bhi shaadi manaye like a psychopath.

A preteen is discussing if her stepmom is employing her dad's ex to make her jealous and hopes that it doesn't backfire on her stepmom, isme bhi Upma ki parvarish ki galti hai.

I hope y'all know how important it is for kids to learn to respect "no" even if they don't like it

Thar is the first building block of teaching children about consent and helps them safeguard themselves from trauma in later life.

Forgot to add that even Shruti would be termed "evil abuser abadoner" #2 if she chooses to break this loveless marriage because divorce is bad for kids/s. And the father who is absolutely incapable of teaching his kid about boundaries would be best popsy biwi ka sataya hua #2.

Originally posted by: Dee-Dee

And what is her father’s happiness? Anupama?

The same woman with whom he couldn’t spend a single peaceful day in 3 yrs of marriage? Who couldn’t prioritise her new husband and the daughter she willingly adopted and chose Shahs’ happiness at the cost of her immediate family? Just like every parent has a right to think of their child’s well being and happiness, same way a child has equal rights to decide what’s good or bad for their parents.

Aadhya is selfish? Right! She has borrowed Crores or Rupees from Anupama or taken tonnes of favors from her just like Shahs took from Anuj and keep taking from Anupama all the time? Aadhya is selfish because she is thinking about and wanting a peaceful happy life and family which is impossible with a woman like Anupama and Shahs around. I think if that’s the case, everyone should become selfish.

Aadhya is mannerless because she atleast cared to say Sorry to her so called adoptive mother, or maybe mannerless because she didn’t have a Mother to give her right Sanskaars and Parvarish like Anupama gave her bio kids, forget saying sorry, they won’t leave the slightest opportunity to humiliate and ridicule their birth mother.

Better to be mannerless like Aadhya than be shameless gold diggers like Anupamaa’s bio kids!

A spouse is no one to allow or not allow the other one. They are not each other’s slave like Anupama is to Vanraj. It’s a relation of mutual trust and understanding. If allowing was the case, he should have never allowed Anupama to visit Shah house multiple times a day and serve them like a Maid every single day or meet her ex husband middle of the night and keep secrets from her current husband or banned her Shah house entry when they humiliated Anuj multiple times, held his collar, abused him, threw him out and a lot more, and Anupama didn’t utter a word.
He could just request her, explain to her which he tried his best to do but Anupamaa is Anupamaa, the Devi Maa who decides for others and herself.

Likewise, he explained to Shruti, he went to Anupamaa to decline the catering offer, again tried his best to make Anupamaa not accept the changes in menu last min, he opposed Shruti, what else can a person do? Anupama didn’t listen to her client and boss both, wanted to act God to Shruti, its Anupamaa’s problem no one else’s! She doesn’t know how to just mind her own business and life!

It is very well established that Upmaa is not a good mother long before Adhya or Anuj happened.

But Anoooj is good, selfless, child-rights-activist popsy, right? He has lived longer with Adhya than Anupamaa. Why has he done absoutely zilch to correct Upmaa's bad parenting? Or is it only the mother's job to give sanskars to the kids? No wonder that entitled dude just catfishes women for beti ka pyaar than do even the barest of hard work regarding Adhya.

Originally posted by: surabhi01

True aadhya is nihayati batameej and egoistic person aadhya is too irritating just like pakhi

Pakhi and aadhya ko.ki common heej hai both are aggressive ungrateful and has over hatred for her mother both are very cruel to their mother

In dono ko agar inke man mutabic cheej nahi milti to yeh nayi mummy dhoodne lagti hai

Both pakhi and aadya are selfish

Pakhi has lived a comfortable life, midst loving parents, siblings and grandparents. She has received so much love from the family that she ended up spoilt with an extreme sense of entitlement. Her aspirations for expensive things, class etc led me me to believe that she is a spoilt child.

OTOH, Adhya doesn’t have a happy home, She craved for affectionate parents, happy family/parents. The most expensive thing she asked for, was her mother’s time, her undivided attention. Undivided attention because that is the tender age when kids feel neglected, insecure or not loved enough.

These are my conclusions about Pakhi and Adhya based on what was shown on TV.

They will all be “cured” by Jagat maa

And Pakhi was ALWAYS like this. Selfish and badtameez. But Aadhya - she became insufferable because the only thing she ever wanted was maa ka pyaar which Anupamaa failed to give her adequately.

Originally posted by: Blueeeee

It is very well established that Upmaa is not a good mother long before Adhya or Anuj happened.

But Anoooj is good, selfless, child-rights-activist popsy, right? He has lived longer with Adhya than Anupamaa. Why has he done absoutely zilch to correct Upmaa's bad parenting? Or is it only the mother's job to give sanskars to the kids? No wonder that entitled dude just catfishes women for beti ka pyaar than do even the barest of hard work regarding Adhya.

I have always said, both Anuj and Anupamaa are messed up people and Aadhya deserved a much happy family and sensible parents.

And I disagree that Anupama gave any time to CA when she was young to instil any values in her or just guide her on the right path so the question of correcting her bad parenting doesn’t even arise!

CA was a self dependent and much happy child when she was adopted. Her panic attacks started due to insecurity of her mother/parents leaving her and dropping her back to the Ashram.

Anuj was possibly going thru a lot of his own stuff to give right parenting to Aadhya. But, Aadhya is not a bad or spoilt child like Anupama’s bio kids, the only person who triggers her is Anupama and anything or anyone related to her/Shahs and Anuj is completely at fault for bringing Anupama again and again in front of Aadhya.

The show’s name is Anupama and she is hailed as the best mother, for giving best upbringing and best values to her children which is very well visible in her own kids, and I don’t say that Anuj has done nothing to show Aadhya the right path or give give her any values at all. He scolded her on Holi Dahan night, said quite much irrelevant stuff in favor of Anupama to make Aadhya feel guilty, she said sorry to her adoptive mother and even in hospital spoke to her quite nicely, that’s also upbringing.

She is a self dependent child and often seen taking care of herself at home, that’s also parenting and a good upbringing.

You may feel he is entitled, and I find Anupama and Shahs the most entitled yet thankless people on this show with zero self respect, we can agree to disagree rather than going in circles.

Originally posted by: SmithaRam

I’m not sure if Pakhi and Adhya can be equated to each other.

Pakhi has lived a comfortable life, midst loving parents, siblings and grandparents. She has received so much love from the family that she ended up spoilt with an extreme sense of entitlement. Her aspirations for expensive things, class etc led me me to believe that she is a spoilt child.

OTOH, Adhya doesn’t have a happy home, She craved for affectionate parents, happy family/parents. The most expensive thing she asked for, was her mother’s time, her undivided attention. Undivided attention because that is the tender age when kids feel neglected, insecure or not loved enough.

These are my conclusions about Pakhi and Adhya based on what was shown on TV.

As an answer to some repetitive arguments here, Pakhi always got everything by hook or crook! Her parents despite getting divorced lived under the same roof, bachchon ke khatir.

She was a teenager who emotionally manipulated her parents by running away from the house, to stay together.

https://x.com/suma_hombal/status/1777966029064573034?s=46

Originally posted by: Dee-Dee

I have always said, both Anuj and Anupamaa are messed up people and Aadhya deserved a much happy family and sensible parents.

And I disagree that Anupama gave any time to CA when she was young to instil any values in her or just guide her on the right path so the question of correcting her bad parenting doesn’t even arise!

CA was a self dependent and much happy child when she was adopted. Her panic attacks started due to insecurity of her mother/parents leaving her and dropping her back to the Ashram.

Anuj was possibly going thru a lot of his own stuff to give right parenting to Aadhya. But, Aadhya is not a bad or spoilt child like Anupama’s bio kids, the only person who triggers her is Anupama and anything or anyone related to her/Shahs and Anuj is completely at fault for bringing Anupama again and again in front of Aadhya.

The show’s name is Anupama and she is hailed as the best mother, for giving best upbringing and best values to her children which is very well visible in her own kids, and I don’t say that Anuj has done nothing to show Aadhya the right path or give give her any values at all. He scolded her on Holi Dahan night, said quite much irrelevant stuff in favor of Anupama to make Aadhya feel guilty, she said sorry to her adoptive mother and even in hospital spoke to her quite nicely, that’s also upbringing.

She is a self dependent child and often seen taking care of herself at home, that’s also parenting and a good upbringing.

You may feel he is entitled, and I find Anupama and Shahs the most entitled yet thankless people on this show with zero self respect, we can agree to disagree rather than going in circles.

Adhya was a fatshaming bully who was getting manipulated by best popsy's mom in Anuj's full view long before evil, abuser Anupamaa separated from him. He absolutely did zilch for her even before Anupamaa left. This idea that mothers are responsible for kids' upbringing is too embedded in society. Upmaa is responsible for her trashy kids despite a horrid trashbag like Vanraj being the larger influence on them. Upma Adhya ka homework karaye despite her lack of formal education, uske dance choreograph kare despite her middle age, apne career opportunities chhode because woh ro rahi thi, ek accident that was caused by her se teen teen lives bachaye risking her own life.

But Adhya ki badtameezi aur lack of boundaries ke liye she is to be blamed. What has Anuj done for her apart from abandoning Upmaa, stalking her bio mom, and catfishing Shruti? Auratein apni life bhi risk me daale, apni physical health bhi risk mein daale, saara parenting labour bhi wahi kare for bad fathers to paint themselves as best popsy/papa and moms as villains for breaking up. All the good for nothing fathers in the show do this.

A good father would have put her and himself in therapy rather than shouting on her when her bad patterns embarrassed him. A good father would help a child process an adult issue like divorce rather than parentify them to the point that she calls her father's ex a "golddigger". A good father establishes boundaries rather than enabling her manipulative behaviour that will definitely hurt her as soon as she becomes an adult. She doesn't know how to take a "no" or manage disappointment and the world around her won't cater to her.

Originally posted by: Blueeeee

Adhya was a fatshaming bully who was getting manipulated by best popsy's mom in Anuj's full view long before evil, abuser Anupamaa separated from him. He absolutely did zilch for her even before Anupamaa left. This idea that mothers are responsible for kids' upbringing is too embedded in society. Upmaa is responsible for her trashy kids despite a horrid trashbag like Vanraj being the larger influence on them. Upma Adhya ka homework karaye despite her lack of formal education, uske dance choreograph kare despite her middle age, apne career opportunities chhode because woh ro rahi thi, ek accident that was caused by her se teen teen lives bachaye risking her own life.

But Adhya ki badtameezi aur lack of boundaries ke liye she is to be blamed. What has Anuj done for her apart from abandoning Upmaa, stalking her bio mom, and catfishing Shruti? Auratein apni life bhi risk me daale, apni physical health bhi risk mein daale, saara parenting labour bhi wahi kare for bad fathers to paint themselves as best popsy/papa and moms as villains for breaking up. All the good for nothing fathers in the show do this.

A good father would have put her and himself in therapy rather than shouting on her when her bad patterns embarrassed him. A good father would help a child process an adult issue like divorce rather than parentify them to the point that she calls her father's ex a "golddigger". A good father establishes boundaries rather than enabling her manipulative behaviour that will definitely hurt her as soon as she becomes an adult. She doesn't know how to take a "no" or manage disappointment and the world around her won't cater to her.

Again, twisting the whole issue to suit your narrative. I have read these arguments on every thread and I feel it has been discussed enough to stretch anymore now.

And no one here said Anuj is a good parent or Aadhya’s upbringing is solely Anupama’s responsibility, but atleast he didn’t run away abandoning the child.

Rahi baat bully hone ki, bringing Malti Devi and leaving Aadhya in her care all day everyday was Anupama’s decision against Anuj’s will, she is responsible for the own mess she always creates in her life, be it bringing Maya and placing a 15 day bet on the child, or bringing Malti Devi or now, accepting Shruti’s catering order. So no sympathies from me to Anupama for anything.

And Anuj has anyday been a better parent to Aadhya than Anupamaa. This men v/s women debate has been done enough and very convenient to always make Anupamaa look like an innocent victim so not falling for it.