Why people saying anuj pushed CA on anupama head?

I see on SM and here too many saying anuj did not ask anupama permission to adopt CA

First anuj did ask her permission in mumbai after meeting CA and anupama agreed

Even if anupama did not want any more kids, if i am anuj i will not listen and adopt a kid or two for myself (because when anupam acan go against anuj for every thing and not listen to him, why cannot anuj decide to be dad on own he do not need anupama permission)

Because anuj know anupama has too much matka she will never be there 100% loyal to him so why should he not have own kids too? Atleast he will have someone who loves and cares for him truly unlike anupama who gives two hoots to anuj

Anuj may not have wanted a child if anupam awas loyal to him dedicated to him but when he swa her extreme toxicity and clinging to shahs he understood in this life anupam awill never be loyal or care for him only shahs. Malvika and GK kak had already left he had no one so he adopted a kid to share his life his joy and sorrows

Why cannot a human adopt at 45 or 50 years. Indeed thats right age to adopt because you have established career money time you can give all love and comfort to a kid.

I have seen women having a late kid at 45 or 50 too in my surrounding, that kid receives most attention and care over other kids. Because by than parents are very mature so can handle small kids easily compared to 25 or 35 year olds. Also toxicity is less younger parents will put kid in creche or play home and go to work where as 45 or 50 year old has established themselves can take time off

Nowadays parents are busy working 12 to 14 hours 7 days a week but by 45 that reduces as you reach top positions or you have subordinates to delegate work too and go back to your child than in younger age

Now people will say anupama had baggage of 3 kids ex hubby in laws and yet anuj married her now hes angry at her spending time with her ex and kids

I do not agree with this, a woman when married has aged mom-dad, younger siblings etc athome. Do a girl run parents home everyday saying my dad wants kichdi or mom wants leg massage or younger sister wants milk shake. Not really

Anupama kids were adults when she married all in late 20s or above 18 to 20 years old. Nowadays kids leave house at 16 to study in other country or city engineering or MBBS and live in PG or rented on own. Many of my cousins girls also left dad mom house at 16 and went stayed in pg or hostel and studied college. After 16 or 18 all are independent do not require mom-dad that much as a 7 year old like CA was.

Indeed anupama 2 sons wee above 25 and both working when anupama married not babies that she has to run to vanraj shah house every day. Also pakhi was above 18 and did not really like anupam aso much to need her advices or help. Ye anupama purposely went to vanraj shah house just to time pass. Other than wedding or funeral or grave sickness anupam aneed not enter vanraj house after divorce.

Women miss their sibling/neice/nephews wedding or parent funeral is hubby or kid is sick or has exams etc

But anupam cannot miss a baby naming when anuj is paralyzed or cannot miss holi when anuj is depressed for CA leavhing him. Why would she stop celebrating she has 3 kids 2 in laws one ex hubby as family no while anuj has zero family with him if CA left him?

Anupama behvaiour is obivous that she never consider anuj a hubby or kapadiyas as family its only vanraj and shahs

Why should she cook in shah house shes guest its kavya home shes house wife or kinjal let them cook or serve shahs

She was shouting and threatening barkha and MD for cooking in kapadiya kitchen although its Malati house and barkha home too. But she can strut into shah kitchen and cook for kvya hubby and in laws etc double rules anyone height of hypocrisy

For anupama her 3 kids was excuse to run to shah house everyday thats all and spend time with ex hubby and her ex in laws

Now we come to another issue - anupam is used to 26 years in shah house with all shahs

Ok so all other girls are born in hubby house is it? Every woman spends 25 to 30 years in her parents home with her parents mom,dad, siblings, grand parents, neice nephews than marries and goes o hubby house. So every girl should run to parents home everyday after marraige and serve her parents, siblings etc like before marriage is it? By same logic of anupama

If you never wanted another hubby never wanted accept hubby house as yours or his family as yours why marry in first place?

By anupama logic all girls should visit parents house everyday after marraige as for 25 to 30 years they are used to it and those family members is it not?

The very fact a woman agrees to marry a man means she accepts him as her family his house as her house his family as her family from day of marraige. And she gives max attention to her hubby and his house rest of life. Same for husband too. Not marry someone and still go to ex hubby house everyday.

Imagine if all girls after marriage behave like anupama with their hubby, full world will be chaos no society will remain no family will remain no child will have a mother no hubby will get wife support and time

Next we come to anuj spending his money for anupama 3 kids. First varaj said they are my kids you stay away. Than anupama says they are my kids i and vanraj decide you stay away again. Two kids ill treat anuj child CA and misbehave with him. So why should he give his money to them.

He can spend on CA and malvika or sara his own children or niece or sister no. And court itself has said recently no step kid or first hubby kid has right on second hubby property or business in india(or USA too). Only if you are father or kid your property or business goes to them(blood or adopted)

When anupama and vanraj do not want anuj to have any relation with their 3 kids why he should bother to spend money or bail them out of every crisis?

Than you say anupama can spend her money as she owns kapadiya empire to her 3 kids? Not really that kapadiya empire is anuj kapadiya dads hes given to her. He can withdraw her rights any time over kapadiya empire. Because ultimately its an inherited company not anuj own created company. Both anuj or malvika can go to court and remove anupama 100% rights on kapadiya empire. Read priyamvada birla case she did what anuj did, gave birla empire shares to her lawyer insted of her family. Court said no ways, a neice/nephew has more rights on company a grand child has more rights than a wife she cannot give it to tom dick harry her empire rights or shares.

If anuj gives 100% to anupama he also has owner of kapadiya and heir can change his will withdraw power of attorney to anupama over kapadiya empire or property's. Otherwise imagine by now tata/birla/microsoft/apple sab power of attorney deke owner wife or daughter in laws would give to own parents and siblings no? Court also understands power of attorney etc can be misused so first rights kids and grand kids have than neice nephews or siblings. So when human is alive he can withdraw or change his will or power of attorney etc

Here how would all of you like if your dad mom business or property goes to your spouse parents and siblings or brothers and sisters spouse parents or their siblings will you accept?

Yes anuj did not ask permission he just say he want to adopt choti

And when anupama say ki is age mein chota bache sambhalne mushkil ho jaata hai then see anuj face expression he look so worried ki kahin anupama mana na kar de

And when anupama agree he started laughing

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ok, pushed on Anupama's head means - forced an unwanted responsibility on Anupama?

If I recall correctly, when he said he wanted to adopt( the day after their marriage), she spoke to her friend Devika, because she was hesitant & unsure of taking on the responsibility of a child.

What stopped her from saying NO to Anuj? Why did she agree? Was it to make him happy? If that is true, then it is her fault, right?

AFAIK, I can't see how he forced the responsibility on her.

Waise rule yeh hsi ki agar married couple adopt kar te hain to married couple ki shaadi ke 2 year baad hi adopt kar sakte Hai

BTW who give such big responsibility just after day of marriage that is adoption and taking care of child

May be anuj want to adopt child

But iska matalab yeh nahi ki shaadi ke agley din bache ko adopt kar lo

Atleast should wait for 6 month

Aur koi hota to seedhe divorce de deta ki shaadi ke agle din se hi chote bache ko sambhalne hai adopt karna

Originally posted by: SmithaRam

What stopped her from saying NO to Anuj? Why did she agree? Was it to make him happy? If that is true, then it is her fault, right?

AFAIK, I can't see how he forced the responsibility on her.

You forgot that she is a perennial victim and despite being a 45 or something year old (50+ now), she is still incapable of taking her own decisions. Absolutely everything is forced on her by others, she is unable to resist because of her innate goodness and hence, everyone else is to blame.

Never ever ever ever hold her responsible for anything because it's beyond her mental capacity and limited abilities. Basically she's no better than a khacchar (mule) which is made to work all day

Anupama did voice her concern at not being able to go through parenting all over again. Since initially it was foster care it didn't seem difficult but the adoption process was rushed and none of the legal protocols were followed.

Anuj had been in love with Anupama for long but for Anumpaa to settle into her new role she didn't have the mental strength or emotional wherewithal.

I have seen 2 adoptions in my immediate family and I can tell with conviction that adoption requires a mental state which was lacking in both Anuj and Anupama.

How convenient for people to never understand Anupama making faces whenever Anuj told her to stay away from Shahs for her own good and dignity, but that worried face she will make and get upset that Anuj stopped her from meeting her ex inlaws but as soon as Anuj used to mingle with Shahs for her happiness she would be the happiest!

But Anuj ne bachcha adopt karne ki baat ki to kaise ki! Itna bada gunah!

If not Anuj am sure no man in his right senses would want to marry a woman like Anupama.
Khud 3 bachchonka bojha leke aayi lekin Anuj bachcha adopt nahi kar sakta…wah! Ye kahan ka niyam ho gaya.

Uske pehle se bachche hain isliye uss bechari par aur bojh mat dalo.

Uski ek shadi ho chuki hai isliye dusri shadi simple karo, Shah house mein, chahe fir uss dusre insaan ki ye pehli shadi ho.

Usko apne ex husband aur ex inlaws se rishta rakhna hai isliye roz uske naukar bankar uske saath uske ex husband ke ghar jai….zaleel hone, dhakke khane, galiya khane aur fir unke nakhre aur kharche bhi uthao, unke liye parties bhi throw karo.

But how dare he adopt a child, he should be jailed for giving such a huge responsibility (burden) to Anupama.

Originally posted by: moonwearer

Anupama did voice her concern at not being able to go through parenting all over again. Since initially it was foster care it didn't seem difficult but the adoption process was rushed and none of the legal protocols were followed.

Anuj had been in love with Anupama for long but for Anumpaa to settle into her new role she didn't have the mental strength or emotional wherewithal.

I have seen 2 adoptions in my immediate family and I can tell with conviction that adoption requires a mental state which was lacking in both Anuj and Anupama.

Anuj was already 45 may be he was scared that later govt rules may not allow adoption

Honestly anuj is millionaire

Nothing much a mother has to do for kids lots of servants and maids there unike shah house where anupama has to do all

A maid will cook another shall bathe CA a driver will take her school barkha will help in home work etc

All anupama had to do was spend at night 2 hours with that kid talking or playing

that also if a woman cannot do

We talk and play with our dogs and cats 4 hours in evening after coming from office so they feel happy

so cannot anupama spend 2 hours with CA talking playing just sitting with her per day than what will she do uin 16 hours she never goes to work in kapadiya empire, she has no time to be in kapadiya home, shje cannot spenm an hour with baby CA so what she does 16 hours apart from sleeping as for all else maids, driver etc there in kapadiya mansion guyan ukhad rahi hai kya

Our moms have worked 9 hours in office per day traveled 2 hours than cooked, cleaned, mopped another 3 hours taught us 2 hours home work, did saas sasur devars seva than than slept at midnight got up at 5am okkk not like anupama wasting time and this for 25 years and no online nothing in their times all they have to do.

All say anupama had lot of work she hardly did 20% of work my mother has done and my mom generation has done. Actually shes not even doing 40% of work my gen does at home going to work 12 to 14 hours a day and than cooking washing etc ok we have machines thats all. But still we work 5 hours more(12 to 14 hours) than our mom per day so we are also doing almost same job per day. In my office woman wake up at 4am to cook for hubby and kids sleep at 12am, work 12 to 14 hours non stop okkk anupama ki tarah time pass nahi. Anupama not doing 10% of work that our gen doing in spice and chutney that we do in our offices every day. In a big MNC she would be thrown out after a week looking at her work habits

You can always appoint tuition teachers to teach CA if you have no time or not interested

And an nanny to take care of her school activities like helping the kids schedule etc

Do you think millionaire billionaire wives do what middle class mothers do never