Why does everyone support anupama..fatal turn of events - Page 3

Originally posted by: ChirpyKiya10

Roz anupma apna bag utha kar chali jaati thee, tab usse taqleef hoti thi kya. Dadi ki umar mei shaadi ho ya pardadi ki umar mei,  husband wife dono ki koi responsibility hoti hai apne partner ke liye

Isne bhi shaadi ki thi,  koi tommy nahi laayi thi ghar mei , ki dogwalker subah shaam walk kara dega, aur kabhi kabhi khana Bana kat rakh degi toh iski responsibility khatm ho jaati hai

In fact dadi ki umar mai, wife pays more attention to her husband than kids. My mom always keeps dad first, i can guarantee its same with every person on this forum, they will see their moms put their dads first

Once kids have grown up, a wife's priority is always husband, not even in laws

But anupama fans want to deny reality despite seeing this in their own home

Originally posted by: gopi2929

Neither do online people define how much a father should love his child. I can guarantee if it was anupama grieving for CA,  no one would have any issue. Its pure sexism at work 

According to Anupama, CA chose Maya over them. So of course Anuj believes they failed. He saw anupama neglecting CA many many times.  He is using logic. He believes if Anupama had pampered CA more, she would have stayed. Anupama lying is not his fault 

One person's mistake doesn't justify another's. Barkha needs to show some humanity. Plus Anupama was not rude to Anuj. She was only trying to pacify him. There is a difference. N she wasn't the one to slap Anuj. She hugged him and tried to bring him out of the grief. Yes, it can be argued that she should have waited and given him some time. But here the question is also about intentions. Barkha's intentions are not good. Who the hell even blames a woman who just got back her sense after fainting and whose husband just left? Even with enemies we will wait to take the person to the room, let her calm down. Barkha is just a heartless woman.

Originally posted by: Harish111

Neither do online people define how much a father should love his child. I can guarantee if it was anupama grieving for CA,  no one would have any issue. Its pure sexism at work 

According to Anupama, CA chose Maya over them. So of course Anuj believes they failed. He saw anupama neglecting CA many many times.  He is using logic. He believes if Anupama had pampered CA more, she would have stayed. Anupama lying is not his fault 

And neither can people online people define sexism...if Anu was blaming to whole world for loosing CA she would be in the wrong too

If anything Anuj is not using any logic or even an iota of common sense. He knew it that Anupama has children and they have issues.....Anupama did try to divide her time as it was humanly possible for her. And it is illogical to let a child choose between their foster and biological parents on basis of pampering. If CA had chosen Anuj Anupama ....the whole forum would label them bacha chor..

It is morally and ethically right for CA to be with her biological mother.....doesn't matter how much Anuj feels he 'deserves' her

Originally posted by: surabhi01

This anuj   cannot live without  choti anu  even for second  but can live without  anupama  without  any problem  

How choti become  more important  than anupama   for anuj 

How  suddenly  anuj  feel.ki use anupama  se jyaada   choti  se pyaar  hai  

The man who got anupama .after  26 year but  use  anupama  ke saath jyaada  time spend  karna chahiye  tha but  use anupama  se  jyaada  choti  se pyaar  ho gaya aur Har time bus bus choti  choti  karta 

Seriously  anuj  behavior  uska character  really  look weird for me 

Matlab  sudden  change  of thinking  ki muhe anupama  se jyaada  choti  se pyaar  hai  yeh  thinking  mujhe  samajh nahi  aayi

Few secrets 

Usually fathers love daughters very much especially when they are young more than wives 

Mother loves son very much than a husband or daughter usually especially when boy is young 

Its in dna to love younger ones 

Thats how it is actually 

If you have a cat and it has a baby will you not love that baby kitten more than the cat you had for 4 years 

Because the kitten is small and a baby and vulnerable 

Originally posted by: gopi2929

And neither can people online people define sexism...if Anu was blaming to whole world for loosing CA she would be in the wrong too

If anything Anuj is not using any logic or even an iota of common sense. He knew it that Anupama has children and they have issues.....Anupama did try to divide her time as it was humanly possible for her. And it is illogical to let a child choose between their foster and biological parents on basis of pampering. If CA had chosen Anuj Anupama ....the whole forum would label them bacha chor..

It is morally and ethically right for CA to be with her biological mother.....doesn't matter how much Anuj feels he 'deserves' her

No one is redefining sexism, the word already has a meaning and application

Dude people have been watching every episode, she has NOT been dividing time ss humanly possibly, she has igonored her husband and kid and spent 90% time with her exes. Making khichdi for ex mil while ignoring a 7 year old is not dividing time, its straight up neglect. She ignored her paralyzed husband to dance with her ex. She regularly emotionally cheats with her ex (and yes, cheating is not always physical)

Finally NO ONE has said anuj has haq over CA or maya should hand over CA. The point is about grief. Losing a child is a big big deal and people take time to get over it. One is not expected to rejoice and start celebrations in couple of day

All anuj needed was time to grieve and support from wife, not to see his wife run over to shah house, abandoning him and celebrating holi

If a spouse cannot be with you in your worse times, that marriage is dead and anupama constantly abandoned anuj, when he was paralyzed, when he is grieving. She also abandoned CA at critical times, leaving her sleeping in car, giving Baa priority over her.  At some point anyone's patience will end

P.S. the actor for Anuj has also clarified this point in the latest interview, it was all the neglect from Anupama over a long period of time which piled up for the character and not just one incident which caused the break up

Originally posted by: U_nicorn

Anupama has loved Anuj only in the last one year…so by that logic, even she should be able to move on from Anuj ASAP. If getting over a child’s separation is supposed to be easy then getting over a relationship too should be doable to Anupama right???

Time does not define depth of attachment and love

He’s not saying he doesn’t love Anupama….he sees Anupama as the core reason for not being able to live with the his daughter.

He isn’t able to see Anupama put the same effort or have the pain that he has for choti Anu…visible genuine efforts was all that was needed to solve this issue. She genuinely puts efforts for Shahs, which she didn’t for Choti…and that’s why he feels the crack in their relationship.

People fall out of love when trust breaks…26years ka pyaar Anupama ne bhi Vanraaj se kiya tha…when he broke her trust, she left the marriage…if that’s acceptable, then so is Anuj’s decision 

Originally posted by: ChirpyKiya10

Roz anupma apna bag utha kar chali jaati thee, tab usse taqleef hoti thi kya. Dadi ki umar mei shaadi ho ya pardadi ki umar mei,  husband wife dono ki koi responsibility hoti hai apne partner ke liye

Isne bhi shaadi ki thi,  koi tommy nahi laayi thi ghar mei , ki dogwalker subah shaam walk kara dega, aur kabhi kabhi khana Bana kat rakh degi toh iski responsibility khatm ho jaati hai

Originally posted by: surabhi01

Anupama  still  maintain  cordial relationship  with  vanraj  .though  anupama  don't love vanraj but still  maintain  cordial  relationship  even after  divorce  

But anuj  who use to.claim he love anupama very much  and just move away  and break relationship  without  any problem   so for me it is totaly and absolutely  unrealistic  

Even Anupama moving on after claiming that she loved Vanraj for 26 years is very unrealistic for me. If Anuj proposed to her for marriage and adoption - she said yes. Did Anuj force her to say yes? She could have said no right? Uska khud ka dimaag nahi hai?

Now if anyone says to this deviji ki aap pagal hai kya and chaanta laga de toh?

Originally posted by: strancho

Even Anupama moving on after claiming that she loved Vanraj for 26 years is very unrealistic for me. If Anuj proposed to her for marriage and adoption - she said yes. Did Anuj force her to say yes? She could have said no right? Uska khud ka dimaag nahi hai?

Now if anyone says to this deviji ki aap pagal hai kya and chaanta laga de toh?

She did not move on.