Time to focus on male socialisation?

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Posted: 1 years ago

The various cases like Shraddha case or Nikita or other cases have led to discussion on women but not much on focusing on how boys are raised by families and what message they get from media, internet, society or family or older men.


Are boys being raised to be entitled? Not value human life? Aftab's parents knew he was violent, had volatile aggression. Why they never taught him anything or got him therapy in time? Why they pressurised Shraddha instead to stay with him and not break up with him? Why they blackmailed Shraddha instead and promised her Aftab would change someday?

Why society asks girls to be patient or tolerant, be empathetic and wait for man to change while not asking men to be sensitive, empathetic, caring or respecting women or controlling their temper?

Why men are rather encouraged to be violent or angry or controlling? Why boys and men who are not violent, are mocked and called weak or sissy? Whereas violent and aggressive or philandering ones are called alpha or chad? Or real manly men?


Why parents of boys do not discipline them or teach them to control own aggression? Or stay loyal to partners or value human life? Why they do not get therapy for sons if they know their sons has violent or psychopathic tendencies? Why they hope some girl will change him or hope his partner will tolerate him? Why some parents themselves also tolerate violence of own son? Are they afraid to lose control of male heir or afraid  who will care for them in old age? Are boys growing up entitled or with wrong ideas of what it means to be a man? Or how to treat women? Are older men failing to be good role models for young boys? Do boys grow up seeing dads or grandpas abuse moms and grannies or put down women and repeat same  behaviour with other women?

Are films, TV shows or video games or so called manosphere sites and social media giving wrong ideas of masculinity to men and promoting violence and misogyny? 

Why such stigma against male mental health and refusal to admit own issues or take therapy? 

Edited by atominis - 1 years ago
Posted: 1 years ago

It all starts at home, unfortunately. Mental health and therapy still remains a taboo in Indian society. Having kids remains an obligation instead of choice, so parents are often unprepared about parenting. They simply don't know or don't care about handling difficult children. So when their children find a significant other, they just make the partner responsible for them and wash off their hands. 

Posted: 1 years ago

This is a very good topic, how I missed it? 

Society, parenting, traditions and politics all are playing a vital role in male aggressive nature in the Indian society. The invasion of a girl's privacy, disrespect and encroachment on her body are considered macho for these ill trained and not well groomed boys. 

Instead of correcting a boy's behaviour with a girl right away, the family chooses to portray it as bravery, as if he has conquered that girl! 

Rapes, acid assaults, and the idea that a female should accept a boy's proposal in order to appease his lust are all the products of such culturally lacking families' misconceptions.   

Grooming is more important, and corrective measures at an early age is necessary to ward off such cruel and aggressive attitude towards women. 

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