Live In Relationship : A peril to society or a right to privacy?

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Posted: 1 years ago

Indian societal framework is devised in such a  way that live in relationship is a debatable topic. 

India is a developing country, where people in this modern era are opening their minds and having a positive opinion over  live in relationships. With the long history of diverse cultures and norms, it is difficult for the society to accept the concept of live in relationship. 

Indian society has always been a strong advocate of the institution called marriage. Marriage is a sacramental institution in our society.

Indian conventional society finds it difficult to accept any relationship outside the marriage. They consider marriage as a “sacred” institution, creating a sense of responsibility and duty towards the family in micro level and society at macro level. 

However, the younger generation, particularly those in entertainment business, are choosing this lately. It is a matter of convenience for a few of them! 

The reason why people are choosing to live in relationship is to check their compatibility with each other before getting legally married. It helps them to avoid chaos, family drama and lengthy court procedures for break-up. 

With time, many incidents have been reported and seen where partners in live-in relationships or a child born out of such relationship have remained vulnerable because there has been gross misuse by the (Male) partners in live-in relationships, since they do not have any duties and responsibilities to perform.  

In this type of relationships, women are vulnerable, harassed, and treated like sex objects before being abandoned as emotional wrecks.

 The Supreme Court ruled in 2005 that a living relationship comes within the ambit of right to life under Article 21 of the Constitution of India. The Court further held that live-in relationships are permissible and the act of two major living together cannot be considered illegal or unlawful.

Any change is bound to have legal and social ramifications. Despite the fact that the law and the judiciary work to uphold the rights of all citizens, this new social development disproportionately harms women. What are your thoughts on this sensitive matter? 

It is a highly sensitive subject, please discuss this topic with dignity and wisdom. 

Posted: 1 years ago

If everyone is willing to take their share of responsibilities while enjoying their rights, nothing will be a menace.  

Cheers..

Posted: 1 years ago

A revolution is evident in Indian society, from arranged marriages to love marriages and now to live-in relationships. 

It is somewhat an issue of convenience. By nature, a man needs companionship and wants to be with someone, but there may be some hesitations or limitations to settling down with marriage, so he looks for alternative methods to satiate this longing. 

Posted: 1 years ago

I don't agree that only men's needs are served by live-in relationships. Women also have sex drives as much as men do, and she is an adult who is consenting to be in this relationship in her full senses. 

Abuse can happen in any relationship; whether living together or not. So I don't think it's correct to single out live-in relationships for this. 


In fact, live-in relationships are empowering for women who don't have to get married to unsuitable men and then suffer all their lives. It is easier to get out of a relationship compared to marriages, so women can easily leave an unsuitable and undeserving partner; the same goes for men. 


A man who treats women as sex objects will also treat a wife like a sex object and abuse her. Abusive men will always be abusive, married or living in. 

Edited by Mahisa_22 - 1 years ago
Posted: 1 years ago

Live-in relationships have a long history in India. In books written 10-15 centuries ago, you can find numerous examples of courtesans who took rich men into their houses for years and then broke up.


Mādhavī with Kōvalaṉ in Śilappadhikāram

Gaṅgadattā with Sānudāsa in Bṛhatkathā

Vasantatilakā with Dhammilla in Vasudevahiṇḍi

Kośā with Sthūlabhadra in Jain monastic legends

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The first three of these men had wives waiting at home (Kaṇṇakī, Dattakamātṛ, Yaśomatī), who suffered poverty as a result of neglect. The freedom of men to enter live-in relationships used to be an existential threat to the family woman (kulastrī) who had no option other than marriage.


Premchand's story Miss Padma (1914) is the story of an educated working woman who is self-sufficient and enters a live-in relationship, only to find that what happens to helpless women can happen to her too.

Posted: 1 years ago
Originally posted by BrhannadaArmour


Live-in relationships have a long history in India. In books written 10-15 centuries ago, you can find numerous examples of courtesans who took rich men into their houses for years and then broke up.


Mādhavī with Kōvalaṉ in Śilappadhikāram

Gaṅgadattā with Sānudāsa in Bṛhatkathā

Vasantatilakā with Dhammilla in Vasudevahiṇḍi

Kośā with Sthūlabhadra in Jain monastic legends

...


The first three of these men had wives waiting at home (Kaṇṇakī, Dattakamātṛ, Yaśomatī), who suffered poverty as a result of neglect. The freedom of men to enter live-in relationships used to be an existential threat to the family woman (kulastrī) who had no option other than marriage.


Premchand's story Miss Padma (1914) is the story of an educated working woman who is self-sufficient and enters a live-in relationship, only to find that what happens to helpless women can happen to her too.


I totally hate this trend of showing non-traditional relationships in a negative light in media. Also the constant depiction of women as always victims in anywhere else other than marriage. Most live-in relationships are normal just like couples who live separately. 


There's nothing wrong with live-in relationships, they're pretty much like any other normal gf-bf relations. They can be as good or as bad as any other relationships. 

Edited by Mahisa_22 - 1 years ago
Posted: 1 years ago

I am returning to this topic because I thought of one past example of a live-in relationship that gave a woman a more dignified status than marriage, at least in fiction.


In Mirza Ruswa's novel Umrao Jan Ada, the Hindu character Ram Dei is given to teenage Nawab Muhammad Taqi Khan ("Sultan") as a sex slave by his parents. Sultan falls in love with Ram Dei and refuses to marry his cousins on either side of the family. Ram Dei tells Umrao Jan that she is known as Begam Sahiba because the Nawab treats her just like a wedded wife. Implicitly, they are not formally married because Sultan does not wish to convert Ram Dei to Islam.


Ram Dei wears a veil like a Muslim wife. Rich ladies accept her invitation to her son's birthday party and midnight concert. She says that she ignores her husband's visits to courtesans (like Umrao Jan) because she feels secure in the live-in relationship.


Umrao Jan Ada was published in 1899, and this live-in relationship is imagined to take place sometime before 1857, the year of Mirza Ruswa's birth.

Posted: 1 years ago

I don't know what revolution you ae talking about but live in relationships are nothing new for India, they have existed and have been recognized in India since ancient times. 

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